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E Plebmnista; Norcom, Forcom, Perfectumum. |
I have heard that if she gets to a point in her life where she doesn't care so much how she looks, it gets better. I would never admit to having first hand knowledge about this. ================================================ Ultron: "You're unbearably naive." Vision: "Well, I was born yesterday." | |||
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Irksome Whirling Dervish |
In SoCal there's a large Asian and Hispanic community and friends who are married to either one say it is, at least for them, a cultural thing. The premise that allows the lateness is, "If they are expecting me, want me there or to attend, the time I arrive isn't as important as much as my eventual presence." Your presence is the important thing in the event and if you're late it's not important. | |||
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| Peace through superior firepower  |
It's important if your royal ass is so late, you miss the whole shootin' match. | |||
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| Edge seeking Sharp blade! |
So this becomes 3D chess level of determining eventual arrival time. Mix in Asian and Hispanic women when I can barely understand EuroCaucasian women and I'll just throw in the towel. | |||
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| Experienced Slacker |
This is all leading me to believe there is a niche for an escort service on the Dominoes franchise model. Delivery in half an hour or it's free. | |||
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| Ammoholic |
You win the Internet today! | |||
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If it is a habit, sign of disrespect for you and others. Time to find someone more thoughtful and considerate. | |||
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Ubique |
It's a cultural thing for sure. My wife is French (who are not noted for timeliness) but she was trained by the Swiss (who are). We have been together for 24 years now and she has never caused me to be late for anything. Women need to know time is important. Punctuality is a virtue. Planning is a process, and it can be learned. Teach her about how to do a time appreciation working from H Hr back to start of preparation. You might be surprised that your friend already knows how long it takes to do hair, nails, select clothing etc. The problem is usually that they have never tried adding all the timings together and aimed at making a specific departure time from the correct start point. Hopefully she respects you enough to try to work with you. If not you can accept it (many have), or move on. Calgary Shooting Centre | |||
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For women who are chronically late, there is no cure, particularly for those whom there is no personal consequence. May be many psychological explanations, but it probably boils mostly down to lack of inborn conscientious, selfishness, and lack of care about others in their lives. Lover of the US Constitution Wile E. Coyote School of DIY Disaster | |||
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| Peace through superior firepower |
Just like that, huh? "That's it, honey, you were late again. I'm takin' the dog and you can have the house. OK, then, see ya."  This stuff is as common as can be with women. If you jettison every gal who makes a habit of taking forever to get ready, you're gonna be a lonely guy.  The technique of telling them you're ready and then taking a nap is probably best. | |||
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You’re a real funny guy! Women have a sense for direction, not time. While we’re at it, if Adam and Eve were Cajuns, they would’ve ate that snake instead of the apple & spared us all these problems ! ______________________________________________ Life is short. It’s shorter with the wrong gun… | |||
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Coin Sniper |
An old friend once told me that there are five ways to absolutely assure that a woman is on time. Four of them don't work and the fifth will likely get you murdered in your sleep. Pronoun: His Royal Highness and benevolent Majesty of all he surveys 343 - Never Forget Its better to be Pavlov's dog than Schrodinger's cat There are three types of mistakes; Those you learn from, those you suffer from, and those you don't survive. | |||
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Still finding my way |
There seems to be a general acceptance from both men and women that disregarding the others feelings is to be expected. I don't believe this should be so. Communicating your needs and how you feel is as important as what the other party does with that information. I couldn't expect my girl to read my mind so it's my job to talk with her about how punctuality is important to me. Not only for pragmatic reasons but also for my peace of mind. She respects me and cares about me so she listens to me and remembers to be a good partner and mitigate anything that will cause her to fall behind schedule. Likewise, she has talked with me about some things that make her uneasy or ways I can help her day be feng shui so I think of it as a joy to help her out in any way I can. It doesn't have to be a battle to get along nor is it a chore to show love and respect. | |||
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| Peace through superior firepower |
Jesus. What planet are you guys on? We got guys saying "Just lie to her, she'll never figure it out" and we have the "mutual respect" group and we've got a Dr. Phil episode playing right above this post. I've got about 28 years living with a woman who is typical with regards to punctuality. Her mom is really bad about it. The girl I lived with for three and a half years in the late 1980s was the same way. Girls I've dated were about the same. You aren't going to change a woman's nature. It's just not going to happen. Isn't that what women are always accused of? Trying to change or "fix" men? Take a nap, or jump in your personal time machine and ponder what life will be like if she dies before you. Just endure it. You don't think she notices when you wait patiently and don't push her or try to play games like "We have to be there yesterday"? It used to bug me. Hell, sometimes, when I'd had all I could take, I go out to my truck, start it up and just sit there idling until she came out, and y'know, that created a terrific atmosphere for the drive. Come on, fellas. Turn pro. Accept what you cannot change. ____________________________________________________ "I am your retribution." - Donald Trump, speech at CPAC, March 4, 2023 | |||
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worked in an industry where 15 minutes early was late, so I am programmed in a way to be early or on time, wife, has been late, has been early, just really depends, she gets to work early, since it is quiet in the office and she can get stuff done, she will be on time for Dr appts etc, however , sometimes the rest is a struggle, not that we have to be anywhere at a set time much (don't go to many movies in theaters, and no real set time for family events, ) I still have to remind here sometimes that to get to place A we need to leave the house at this time, works, mostly, and since I am no longer in that business, I have relaxed a bit, (but will not be late to meet a customer, infact I try to be a few minutes early) https://chandlersfirearms.com/chesterfield-armament/ | |||
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More light than heat |
Yeah, my wife will be late to her own funeral. It used to drive me up the fucking wall. Being mad changed absolutely nothing. She knows it pisses me off. Now I just sit in a chair and wait until she is actually ready. If we’re late, we’re late. #zerofucks _________________________ "Age does not bring wisdom. Often it merely changes simple stupidity into arrogant conceit. It's only advantage, so far as I have been able to see, is that it spans change. A young person sees the world as a still picture, immutable. An old person has had his nose rubbed in changes and more changes and still more changes so many times that that he knows it is a moving picture, forever changing. He may not like it--probably doesn't; I don't--but he knows it's so, and knowing is the first step in coping with it." Robert Heinlein | |||
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Lighten up and laugh |
How much time do married men get where they aren't being bugged by their wives? It seems like a great opportunity to take a nap, read a book, play with the putting mat, eat food she'd nag you about, etc. | |||
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| Peace through superior firepower |
I can only speak for myself. It took me about 10 years of living with my wife before I realized getting angry or frustrated about it was not going to do any good; it made things worse. My late father-in-law was a zen master of patient, stoic waiting. When I first met him and jokingly mentioned that his daughter took forever to get ready, he leaned over to me and said "You haven't seen anything. Just wait until her mother is getting ready. And he was right. Glaciers move faster. Sedimentary rock forms in less time. Comets make complete orbital cycles. So, ya see there? I'm relatively lucky. | |||
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Most women are on another time system an hour is somewhere in the range of 75 to 80 minutes, it is one of those things you just have to deal with. "Princess Time," the appointment is at 9:00 she arrives 9:25, nothing you can do about it. | |||
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| Still finding my way |
Just because the bar is set so low doesn't mean you have to accept it. For how you treat others and how you expect to be treated. Not just for punctuality but anything important. Some may balk at what I say and shrug me off with ridicule but I live with the most amazing woman who serves my every need and makes my happiness a total priority in her life. Can you say the same? | |||
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