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Originally posted by mrvmax:

We spend tens of thousands on the funeral, flowers, fancy box, limo rides, hole in the ground and other nonsense. I’ve seen my mother-in-law drop $200 on a stupid notebook for people to sign at the funeral.

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Originally posted by mrvmax:
I see things a bit different with funerals and I’ll answer your question in my long rant. I think our whole viewpoint on them is absurd. I’ve been to too many in my life and I’ve had to watch two family members take their last breath and then had the displeasure to be involved in the funeral arrangements. I’ve even preached two different funerals. Yet I ask myself why we handle death like we do. It makes no sense if you forget how we’ve seen it done and just examine our rituals.

I do dress nice wearing what I wear to church but I despise our whole outlook on death. Normally most people at the funeral rarely see or talk with the deceased prior to them passing. Yet after they die and when the deceased has no way of knowing what is going on, we then make a big deal out of their life. We say we are honoring them but they don’t know what we are doing. Perhaps from a Christian viewpoint the departed have some knowledge of this world but there are no indications that they are viewing the funeral from another realm.

We spend tens of thousands on the funeral, flowers, fancy box, limo rides, hole in the ground and other nonsense. I’ve seen my mother-in-law drop $200 on a stupid notebook for people to sign at the funeral. We dress up and then normally tell lies about how great they were (I’ve been to way too many funerals and there has not been one where I didn’t hear lies told).

Really this is all for the living, not the dead. I’d prefer to bypass all the traditional nonsense, I told my wife to cremate me since it’s the cheapest. I don’t want money wasted on junk after I die. If anyone wants to see me they need to do it while I’m alive, I assure you after I die I won’t care anymore.

I do understand that funerals allow people to grieve and military funerals are one example of that. In a way I think it shows respect to our military that have died for us but yet again it’s all for the living, those that have passed don’t know what we are doing. If you haven’t noticed I hate funerals. Rejoice and praise your loved ones while they can hear it. Say nice things now while they are living.