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Diogenes' Quarry |
Please note: My daughter is not going...this is about her friend. My 18-year-old, just-graduated-from-high-school daughter mentioned (with some ill-disguised envy) that one of her 18-year-old, just graduated friends is making a month-long trek of Europe with another 18-year-old girl friend. The trip is being financed by their parents, not the girls (which itself could be a topic for another discussion), before their start of college in a few months. I don't know the other girl, but the friend of my daughter is a very sweet and smart (though somewhat shy) girl, but I don't really know her well enough to predict how prepared she is for the trip or how she'll respond to any problematic issues that may arise. We live in a somewhat affluent area, and the daughter and her family are staunch Democratic, protest-attending, liberal stalwarts; I mention that only because I wonder (as I do with many of those I see in those sign-waving crowds) how truly in touch they are with the geopolitical risks of today that exist outside their Bernie-lovin' bubble. Here's my question: Would you allow (let alone finance) your 18-year-old daughter to make a month-long hostel trip of Europe with all that's going on over there now, or does that seem like a something that's a rose-colored holdover from more innocent, safer times that's just patently unwise in this era of Islamic terrorism, white slavery, etc. that plagues Europe to an even greater extent than the U.S.? I get that every age has its issues, but allowing a somewhat naive 18-year-old girl from an affluent suburb to meander with a friend all over Europe in this day and age, at this moment in time, sure seems ill-advised to me, to say the least -- though I'll fess up to being a little over-protective with my kids. I don't plan to say a word to the girl or her parents -- that's certainly their decision to make, and they have -- but just on a general level, I am just curious if you folks believe my surprise and concern over my daughter's friend's plan and her parents' blessing of it is unwarranted.This message has been edited. Last edited by: at-home-daddy, | ||
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Striker in waiting |
No. -Rob I predict that there will be many suggestions and statements about the law made here, and some of them will be spectacularly wrong. - jhe888 A=A | |||
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Oh stewardess, I speak jive. |
Allow, probably. Finance, maybe. I don't think there's much inherently wrong or crazy about it. Tons of folks take similar trips. One of my Ex girlfriends had done two backpacking and train riding tours across Europe, and had been to China three times, and bought a 1/3 interest in a bar in South America by age 25, all on low budget student type trips, many hostels and such. The specifics are everything, IMO. | |||
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It would depend on the 18 year old and how worldly \ aware she is. ____________________________________________________ The butcher with the sharpest knife has the warmest heart. | |||
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Conveniently located directly above the center of the Earth |
no and no **************~~~~~~~~~~ "I've been on this rock too long to bother with these liars any more." ~SIGforum advisor~ "When the pain of staying the same outweighs the pain of change, then change will come."~~sigmonkey | |||
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Green grass and high tides |
Tough one. She is eighteen so I would be inclined to not finance the whole deal. Different deal but I have a brother who has continued to do this kind of thing for his daughter and while she is a good person. She cannot seem to get her life together and she is thirty now and they still are being taken advantage of and they think they are doing the right thing for her and cannot figure out while she struggles with certain aspects of her life. "Practice like you want to play in the game" | |||
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no and no Regards, P. | |||
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Funny Man |
I think what we hear of Europe is as sensationalized as what Europeans hear about the US. I just spent a week driving through The Neatherlands and Germany. Felt very safe at all times and the people were all very nice. ______________________________ “I'd like to know why well-educated idiots keep apologizing for lazy and complaining people who think the world owes them a living.” ― John Wayne | |||
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Well said. ____________________________________________________ The butcher with the sharpest knife has the warmest heart. | |||
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Striker in waiting |
It seems like it's one of those things that would be perfectly fine and a great time... Until it went sideways and everything turned to shit in a hurry and without warning. -Rob I predict that there will be many suggestions and statements about the law made here, and some of them will be spectacularly wrong. - jhe888 A=A | |||
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The Unmanned Writer |
After being paid to visit more 30 countries (thank you US Navy!!), I'd be inclined to say "no" unless I was there. Way too much trouble to get into unintentionally much less intentionally or the trouble which comes looking for you. Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. "If dogs don't go to Heaven, I want to go where they go" Will Rogers The definition of the words we used, carry a meaning of their own... | |||
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I started with nothing, and still have most of it |
Trouble finds 18 y.o. girls, that might not find me or you. "While not every Democrat is a horse thief, every horse thief is a Democrat." HORACE GREELEY | |||
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We gonna get some oojima in this house! |
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You're not an 18 year old girl, Jim. OP, hell no. For various reasons. | |||
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goodheart |
This is the correct answer. Has nothing to do with terrorism, everything to do with young men living in hostels preying on young women. _________________________ “ What all the wise men promised has not happened, and what all the damned fools said would happen has come to pass.”— Lord Melbourne | |||
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Maybe it's a graduation gift? Depends on the kid but probably. They could get in just as much trouble touring the U.S. | |||
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No, based on what's going on now over there, young and female and American to much of a target. Maybe a parent accompanied trip to Ireland, and places not on terrorist list of trouble, sure. It's not the same world as it use to be. "Hold my beer.....Watch this". | |||
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Drill Here, Drill Now |
I thought the backpacking thru Europe and staying in hostels was for graduating from college? 18 seems a little young and after college is your last hooray before becoming a working stiff for 40 years. Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity DISCLAIMER: These are the author's own personal views and do not represent the views of the author's employer. | |||
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Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici |
Hostels also have a significant problem presently with bed bugs. You could end up financing the after effects when you treat your house as well once she and her luggage return. _________________________ NRA Endowment Member _________________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." -- C.S. Lewis | |||
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Does she have the ability to finance it on her own is it worth it to her to do that? If the answers to those two questions are yes, then I wouldn't get into an argument with her about "allowing" it since she is an adult. Just discuss the concerns you have, which I believe are legitimate. | |||
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