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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
dump her. she hates trump more than she loves you. sorry but the truth. get on with it.

Motherfucker, you are talking about the man's wife!!

Did you not hear him?? THIRTY-SIX YEARS.

APOLOGIZE

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
dump her. she hates trump more than she loves you. sorry but the truth. get on with it.

The Man who was on the old rugged cross would have a problem with what you said.

old rugged cross, apologize to this man. I don't care whether or not you mean it.

That shit is unacceptable. Apologize

It is as Parabellum describes. You can agree to not talk about it but you can only control what you do. You must resolve to not talk about it. Be kind and loving, but simply clam up or talk about the garden. This administration is revolutionary and unconventional. There’s likely to be panic and hair on fire. She may be willing to say anything to get you to engage. You must be strong and loving. Kiss on the forehead on your way to the garden.

Trump Derangement Syndrome is real. Lost a very long term friend who got so caught up in hating Trump he became a combination of angry and depressed. This summer visited a friend and at times he had MSNBC on as background noise. That propaganda is really ugly. When it was on I left the house. What the hard left media is doing is destructive to society.

I'm told you can kill a Navy SEAL by suspending them over water for more than 24 hours.
It's kinda the same for women, but you have to deny them drama for that long.

Para is correct, but I honestly don't know anyone that has ever pulled it off.

Around my place the typical talking points from the female are how the immigrants have stolen Christmas et al...forever apparently. I swear to God, it is something new every day she blames them for, and she usually leaves out the "illegal" part - so she sounds especially ridiculous to me.

It is incredibly easy to be consumed by politics. Sometimes it helps to take a deep breath, step back, and ask yourself, “What can I do about this?” If the answer is something that will make a positive difference, do it. If the answer is nothing, don’t waste your time and energy worrying about it.

I don’t know if you can convince your wife to stop letting herself be spun up about politics or stop discussing politics if not. I hope so. Maybe asking the question, “What is it that you think we should do about this honey?” could get her thinking differently.

old rugged cross, either you're going to apologize, or you're going to face disciplinary action.

How tone deaf are you?

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This could end us. 36 years down the drain.

Are you really so tone deaf that you can't see that the man is sincerely concerned about his marriage?

Are you really that callous? Don't you ever- and this goes for everyone here- don't you ever behave so casually and callously towards a man who is worried that his marriage may be coming to an end. I should never see this attitude from anyone here, because, frankly, it's disgusting and heartless. If you think this is the way to behave when a member is in such a state, you just keep your mouth shut.

When I get up tomorrow and check this thread, I'll see an apology from you, or you'll see suspension.

And as I said, I don't care whether or not you mean it. There's a price to be paid for such an attitude.

You're logged into this forum right now. I had better not see another post from you tonight or tomorrow until you make amends.

Time will most certainly prove her wrong regarding her belief that DJT is/will be a dictator. Even then I wouldn’t tell her “you were wrong”. I’d just hope she would realize for herself.

If possible, disconnect from TV and radio and newspapers and internet. My father got TDS by listening to NPR. Maybe suggest that cable TV is too expensive. Or switch to nostalgiac channels or movies.

I do believe deciding as a couple not to discuss politics going forward is only long term solution. People are more than their vote and you're right to fight for your marriage. I'd ask if she had to listen to you complain about Biden, even on a smaller scale? If so, I'd start by taking ownership for being part of the problem. We need to work on XYZ tends to be better received than You need to work on... Good luck man.

I have a sister who has a HUGE case of Trunp Syndrome. I hate her political opinions, but I love her as much as my own life.

I lie to get away from political discussions by telling her I don't like either party and that she and I are too old to worry too much about it. It works!

I just give loved ones a pass. The left is highly agitated right now and it will not be so intense for the whole term.

Bob my apologies. I should of been more sympathetic to your situation. You are in a tough one. I hope you two can work it out.

Thanks Para and the rest of you guys for letting me vent and for your advice.

Para - you are right. the best solution is to just not talk about it. I am all for it. And I've said as much. But she always has to say something. I think she spends too much time on her phone looking up stuff to get riled up about. I come home and she has a new issue to bitch about and wont let it go. She "just want to make me aware of what I voted for". She's good, does her homework. has sources. Always discounts mine. I don't want to argue with her. She should have been on the debate team. Other than that, he really is a good woman with many great qualities.

Old Rugged - apology accepted.

Man that’s a really tough deal. I just ended a long term friendship (I know it’s not comparable to a marriage) over this very thing. TDS and my friend talking shit about our country. Talking how moving to Canada is glorious and free health care then doing something I cannot forgive, talking down about our military. Vietnam, then he started doing it with WWII. He also is supporting Hamas. Then TDS was unreal, every time I talked to him. I even told him last June/July, the race is over so prep now. When the Crat nomination changed, I said again, it didn’t matter, it’s already over with. They just hear want they want to hear and any sane based intel goes through one ear and out the other. I just got sick of hearing it. 1 friend last year, and another this year. Politics takes over their brains. These are people I’d take a bullet for, not anymore. The one commonality I found between both, both are heavy social media users.

Bob best of luck sir. My only suggestion would be to mention the bills are paid. We have our health. Things are OK. I’ve told people in my life that mean something to me that all you can do is vote your choice. If they lose, you have to accept it and worry about your own life. Your health, family, career, kids, bills, etc. They just want to be upset about something 24/7.

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Originally posted by parabellum:
If both of you want to stay together, there is one solution only: Don't talk about it. Just resolve to accept that there is a difference of opinion, and then simply avoid the subject.

This works only if both of you agree to do this.

Suggest this to her, and if she agrees, do it, and that means to stick to the agreement absolutely, every minute of every day, without fail.

Forgive me (and my apologies to everyone offering advice), but any other advice you receive will fail you. You can't reason with someone who is witnessing what is happening and has decided it's all wrong. Just forget about that. The solution I have suggested is the only way.

Well I was going to say you need to explain to her that you both need to just agree to STFU about it, as a direct means to savings your marriage.

But yeah, what Para said.

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Originally posted by bdylan:
I just give loved ones a pass. The left is highly agitated right now and it will not be so intense for the whole term.

My spouse is addicted to the harpies on “The View.” When the news is on the room full of her sighs and comments of doom and gloom.

I have faith and trust in our nation.

My spouse and I didn't talk about the election a whole lot during the campaign. Since the election she won't leave it alone. TShe kept her TDS to herself because Trump had no chance, well Surprise. And now She's PO'd at me because I support the inhumane things he's doing. I'm not exactly sure which ones she doesn't like but I'll be old and gray before I get into a conversation longer than three words on politics with her or with her in listening distance.

I sure commiserate with others in similar or worse positions.

Back before I joined here, I was in a relationship with my son’s mother. We had mostly broken up but I’d still go see the boy every day. She is a hard, mean person.

Without fail she’d start on being upset with me because of anything. What i began doing was immediately removing myself from the situation as soon as it began. It took a long time of doing it but eventually she realized that she was the problem and she actually apologized. It may have simply been a moment of clarity and sobriety but she started actually being almost kind after that.

I never argued back, not even once. I just left.

Do you have a workshop or garage that you can excuse yourself into?