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Originally posted by Fly-Sig:

1) After you're married, would her relatives be legally allowed to emigrate? What would the implications be financially as well as things like moving into your home or somehow getting onto your health insurance? What if she turns out to actually have children?

AFAIK, you can only sponsor a spouse, your own children or parents for an immigrant visa. You can't sponsor in-laws. So, until the new wife gets her US citizenship, none of her family can come other than by going through the regular visa process. Mrs. Lee still doesn't believe me on this and I am powerless to help her folks because they are not my folks. Mrs. Lee does not want to become a US citizen, so her folks have to go through the normal visa process to come visit us and, they will never get an immigrant visa without Mrs. Lee first becoming a US citizen.

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Originally posted by Rick Lee:

AFAIK, you can only sponsor a spouse, your own children or parents for an immigrant visa. You can't sponsor in-laws. So, until the new wife gets her US citizenship, none of her family can come other than by going through the regular visa process. Mrs. Lee still doesn't believe me on this and I am powerless to help her folks because they are not my folks. Mrs. Lee does not want to become a US citizen, so her folks have to go through the normal visa process to come visit us and, they will never get an immigrant visa without Mrs. Lee first becoming a US citizen.

Thanks for the info.

I had a buddy go this route, his wife was fantastic, raised the kids well and did all the cooking and cleaning etc. Her brother came to live with them and he was cool and out of the way for the most part. He got a job and pitched in too so its not like he just crashed on the couch.

The jealously is real, she did think we were out chasing women when we would go to gun shows and once ran and hopped in the car when we were leaving. Turns out much to her displeasure that we were going to real gun shows and she quickly regretted having to come along which we thought was hilarious.

If you protect yourself and think with both heads, why not. I hope you find happiness.

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Originally posted by Anubismp:

The jealously is real, she did think we were out chasing women when we would go to gun shows and once ran and hopped in the car when we were leaving. Turns out much to her displeasure that we were going to real gun shows and she quickly regretted having to come along which we thought was hilarious.

Oh man, been there, done that. I could tell some stories. I eventually came to the conclusion that I might as well start doing all the crazy stuff she accused me of doing, since I had to deal with her wrath anyway, even though I hadn't even thought of another woman. She was so smoking hot, I never was tempted to stray. But she lived for conspiracy theories and jealousy.

I do not know if it has been already suggested, however you can probably hire a professional private investigator there to see if everything is legit. God Bless !!!

I have nothing to add but good luck.

I knew a guy, Army dude, years ago who met a Filipina when he was in Korea. They kept in touch over the years and he was going to marry her. I left that unit and lost touch with him. That situation had more red flags than a Chairman Mao rally:

-she was a little bit older and still legally married
-told him he needed to pay for her divorce
-had 2 kids named Nina and Tyrone
-told us she said it was customary to bring gifts and money

He had went there a few times to the Philippines to spend time with her. Not my style and it sort of confused us. He was a smart dude, pretty good looking and had a great heart. Not sure why he didn't find an American woman here without kids who was still legally married.

While not Filipino, I know many Soldiers who married Korean women when they were stationed in Korea who ended up with long lasting and happy marriages.

You do you, the only thing we wish is for you to be happy.