Sounds like your mind is already made up and you want confirmation of a good decision. Let's talk pros and cons.

PROS= I would imagine the 1st and best pro would be to have a relationship with a woman that caters to you and your wants instead of how our society seems to think that the purpose of a man is to take care of his wife and put her on a pedestal. Culturally, she will be connected and serious about family. This is another pro as long as she truly views YOU as family and places you in position #1. Physically, she's likely fit and not scared to work and maintain the household. Money-she may be thrifty now, can or will you keep it that way or will you bring diamonds and pearls into the fold. If you do, then you will make her the things you went all the way there to try to avoid.

CONS= You go for it and it doesn't work and now you're X amount of years older and single again but with much less to offer. You just go back over there and do it one more time LoL. JOKE

Seriously speaking everyone needs someone. I say go for it. No need in being lonely and chasing the same types of women you always have to accomplish the exact same feelings you always have. Mix it up and let go. Unless you have millions to protect for your heirs.

Side Note: I would not add anyone to the deed to my property though.

I did watch the above linked videos, and MANY others. The Filipena Pea is VERY popular, there are others.

I know a guy dating, his lady has two kids almost out of high school, not easy to juggle.

I mentioned ‘off the charts behavior’, yeah, I know it can be a thing early on. I’m still talking, very much a higher level.

It may come down to my after action report here. I realize, how could anyone know?

I know, she gets here, she’s the ‘hot commodity’, I think I have that covered, several ways.

Her family is two married sisters and a single brother. I know, still family, no mom or dad.

I've dated a few Filipinas, one who was a more recent immigrant. She was older, had an FFL and lots of tax stamps. That was fun.

The younger one was the sweetest woman you'll ever meet, razor sharp smart, but the crazy and drama were just too much for me after about a year.

Mrs. Lee is a Chinese Mainlander, but we've been married for 17 yrs and she was already here when we met. And I love going to China and have been thoroughly trained in all the family and cultural stuff.

However, you should all read this book. It's entertaining and frustrating. And you'd be amazed at the lengths some of these girls go to in order to bolster their story. No kids, married siblings, etc. Super elaborate cover stories with lots of friends and family pitching in to maintain the charade.
https://www.goodreads.com/book...77626.Private_Dancer

Traditional Filipino families are the salt of the earth, and are immigrants who value America and strive to assimilate. Old school Filipinos, even those who have not emigrated to the US, remain highly respectful and grateful to America for saving their country during WWII.

This is a timely thread. I just left a meeting with a customer I hadn’t seen in a few years.

His wife died in 2017 and then he met a Filipina online with Two small girls. He helped with their medical bills. They marry. She comes to Houston in 2021 or so with the girls to live with him. A few months later, he’s hospitalized from ill effects from Covid booster for 13 months! She holds down the fort in his absence.

There a 34 year age gap. I don’t know how it works, but he seems quite happy.

My Uncle had no luck with American women, got screwed over in his first marriage. Courted a woman from the Philippines, got married, has two beautiful grown children. They are still together.

My cousin married a Philippine woman years ago. She lived here in the states for a few years and was ultimately unhappy. She convinced him to move to the Philippines and use his retirement to support her family. His retirement did provide for a pretty comfortable life until he passed away there and left her part of his estate. She tried to get his home in the states but his family won that one.

There's a sizable ex-pat community of non-Pinoy American men in the Philippines (ie.white guys), obviously they've all found love or, escapism there. Not sure if such a community would be of interest or, value as you could get a sense of how things have worked-out for them or, not.
There's also more than a few communities who attract less-than-savory characters like the many sex-tourism types that have made SE Asia a destination.

In a perfect world, why would this woman even consider you?

She’s likely younger, fitter, and would have a world of options available to her if she lived in the US, went to college and had residency here.

If that was the case, would she be with you? If you can say “yes” to that question, proceed. If you cannot, with a straight face, answer that in the affirmative, then back away.

According to two guys I know that shipped women over here,
They both said that they would not recommend it.

Neither wives assimilated into our society.

Both men got divorced after three years .

But !

It takes two to tango,
I only heard their stories.

Always remember. Enjoy and God Bless !!!

Welcome to the Passport Bros club!

All of those against it probably haven't had to deal with western women's hypergamy in the dating market place.

Over the last decades, how many here have told the tale of some western woman ripping down everything you build.

Good luck and you have my support!

Thanks, I know, I gotta do whatever. Like I said, she’s off the charts. I do realize, things vary.

No, I’m not talking the ‘hot, crazy matrix’.

I honestly don't think chilling with the dog is such a bad option. Good luck with it, though... it will likely be an adventure.

My brother in-law did it and she has two kids, they seem happy but it cost him a fortune and about a year to get her and her kids over to the states. lot of red tape.

It may be good,

It may be bad,

But it won’t be boring!

If you’re serious about it and trust her, make sure you have an honest and thorough conversation with her. What she wants, what you want, etc.

And remember, it’s ok to trust, but verify!

It's really insulting that it costs so much to do things legally and next to nothing to be an illegal. Mrs. Lee was already here legally and it was still $4k just to adjust her status when we got married. And that was our DIY'ing it all. Obviously, you have to go through the whole process when someone is coming from a place that's so far from the US. Still sticks in my craw.

Just don't dive headfirst into a potentially bad situation out of loneliness/desperation.

With your statements along the lines of "I know I said never again without a prenup, but this one's so great that I just don't need it", it tells me that you're likely to be making decisions with primarily your emotional heart, rather than your logical head, which is a path that's likely to lead to both future headaches and heartaches.

Be sure to engage both.

Logically, a "mail order bride"-type situation is a perfect example of a time that an ironclad prenup would be strictly necessary.

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Originally posted by bdylan:
I honestly don't think chilling with the dog is such a bad option.

Me either. But everyone is wired differently.

Give it time, don't be in a rush.

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Just kidding, but take your time. Date for 2 years minimum IMO.

If I were to ever get divorced I'd give a long look at the Philippines as well.

I suppose the situation might vary depending on what age/stage of life you're in, but for some guys who are more along in the game of life, I wonder if a more-or-less-permanent girlfriend would be a better choice. I think for older guys in particular, adding more burden after a full-life of constant burden providing for others, would not bring more comfort. I dunno, just throwing that out there.