Looks like I'm joining the ranks of the 50% of marriages (~65% of LEO marriages) that end in divorce.

The wife and I have concluded that our nearly 10 year marriage is not salvageable, and are finally pulling the plug. It's been a very long time coming. (2+ years of circling the drain.)

We're putting the house up for sale tomorrow. It should go quickly, considering that just in the last couple weeks, two of our immediate neighbors got full price offers on their houses after 4 and 6 days on the market respectively. The divorce will be filed next week, and it'll be finalized 30ish days later.

We're doing it amicably and cooperatively. The divorce is uncontested. We've already sat down and divvied up the property, and are in agreement on it all. And we don't have any kids (thank God), just two dogs that we're in agreement to split. Nobody cheated. Nobody's mad. Nobody's going after anyone's pension. Nobody's trying to "stick it to them" with alimony. Just a (comparatively) straightforward division of assets and dissolution of a failed marriage.

I've got a lot on my plate, but I'm going to take it one step at a time. Sell the house. Find somewhere else to live with my dog. Finalize the divorce. Move on.

I'm looking forward to getting past the short term spike in stress, and enjoying the long term decrease in it.

This message has been edited. Last edited by: RogueJSK,

I’m not sure if I should say sorry, or congrats.

It’s a bummer to see a couple split apart. I hope this brings you happiness, or at least a less stressful life.

Godspeed my brother.

Good for you. Divorces can be very stressful, but it seems that you are handling it in a very mature and responsible manner. Best of luck to the two of you.

Sorry to hear that but it sounds like a clean break.

Enjoy the single life and rediscover yourself and what it is that you enjoy in life. Be content with yourself before jumping back into a relationship.

Tony.

I wish you the best Rogue. All said and done, your future will be good. Just go slow and make good decisions. Sounds like as a couple you have it all worked out nicely. Do good sir.

I wish you the best. Divorce is a tough thing to go through. It sounds like you do have it the best way, amicable, agreeing on all property etc.

Sad to hear it, Rogue, but glad to hear you tried to make it work and, when you couldn't, are at least parting on amicable terms.

Of all the shit going on in the world today.....that’s a real tragedy.

I don’t know if I should wish you the best or pray for you two to work things out.

At any rate you have my sympathies and I really hope what is best will be.

Take care and I am sorry for you both.

So sorry to hear that. Maybe not having COVID-19 is a small blessing? Or not......

Take care. Sounds like y'all are in amicable land, hope you can stay there. Or, if there's even a chance, find your way back. Without deal-killers it can be done. Not pushing you that way, but consider it if an option.

Oh - wash your hands!

Sounds like both of you are going about it like adults. And its par for the course for cops. My marriages dissolved mainly because I just wasnt there.

I'll give you the best words I was given when it was my turn - you'll be OK.

I'll pray for both of you.

Will you have difficulty finding accommodations that will allow a dog? Do you at least get a bed?

flashguy

quote:

Originally posted by flashguy:
Will you have difficulty finding accommodations that will allow a dog?

If the sale and divorce line up just right, I may be able to buy another home with minimal lag time. However, I'll most likely have to rent for a little while before looking to buy again. And finding a decent rental house that allows a 125 pound dog is tough.

quote:

Do you at least get a bed?

Yep. This isn't one of those "escaped with the clothes on my back" kind of situations.

We've had separate beds for 2+ years anyway. More roommates than spouses.

Best of luck Rogue.

Is this a first marriage for you both or are there previous ones. Just curious.

First for me. Second for her. (He cheated on her.)

The best for you both, and that you may remain on friendly terms.

Good to see it was done amicably and no kids involved.
I hope the pups are ok with the separation (of the pups and spouse).

There is no shame in being alone for awhile, at least you have the pup.

I got divorced in 1994 with 2 small kids.
Moved out of the house with a queen waterbed and 19" TV, left the rest to her and the kids.
It all worked out..

Good luck to you and your happiness.
It will come around soon....

Wishing you all the best moving forward.

quote:

Originally posted by RogueJSK:

We're doing it amicably and cooperatively. The divorce is uncontested. We've already sat down and divvied up the property, and are in agreement on it all. And we don't have any kids (thank God), just two dogs that we're in agreement to split. Nobody cheated. Nobody's mad. Nobody's going after anyone's pension. Nobody's trying to "stick it to them" with alimony. Just a (comparatively) straightforward division of assets and dissolution of a failed marriage.

Lucky you. Mine moved out, and got a lawyer. Did not talk to me about it. Tried to charge me rent to live in my own house. Instead of doing what you are doing, I was forced to fight her with a lawyer. After two years of that crap, I ended up with the house and she lost money because she signed something my lawyer drew up without consulting her lawyer. I paid the house off in 1987 and chose to Never get financially involved with a woman again. Current relationship is approaching 23 years and we are still best friends.

Wishing you the best Rogue.
A couple of my divorces involved me giving up the houses in order to save my pension for the one who earned it-ME!
(gotta love AZ divorce law)
It sounds like you two are making the best of a crap situation.

Godspeed brother.