Best of wishes Rogue. When the paperwork is all done it will feel like a ton of bricks was lifted off your back. It will get better.

Not having kids simplifies things exponentially.

I'm sure the house will sell quickly, from there it will all be downhill.

Best of luck.

Best wishes for the short, and long term.

I'm very sorry things didn't work out between you two. If there's some positive from this, at least, it doesn't sound like a nasty divorce.

Sounds like you're one of the lucky ones. Stressful as I'm sure it is, it could be a lot worse.

As devastating as it was at the time, one of the best decisions I ever made was getting divorced. My life is drastically better as a result and I found the woman I wish I would have been with all along.

Hang in there, take it one day at a time and know that there are much better times ahead!

I read most divorces occur due to one or both party's lack of effort in resolving their differences. It is Hard damn work. I think every marriage (40 years) has differences, the key is to realize you are what you are and they are what they are. Accept that, and your heading in the right direction
I do not know your circumstances, but I wish you both well.

Wishing you two the best for sitting down and working thru the details.
Sure wish mine could have went this way,what a cluster@%#@% for me.

I don't know if this will help or not, but many years ago, my first wife and I divorced after ten years of marriage (no kids) and it was also very amicable. It was almost comical.

She moved out of the house we had and on moving day, as I was loading things in the truck, she would bring them back in the house telling me that I would need that more than her. Seriously, it was like that all day. Back and forth.

Five years later, I remarried my now wife of 40 years and told her the story. She was so impressed she said she wanted to meet her if it would be OK. We all met up and actually became friends of sort. We still keep in touch.

Good luck to you my friend. Life does go on.

Sorry to hear, all the best.

The very best of luck to you both. You both sound like mature adults. Wish we all could be.

Hopefully you can remain friends- after a decade of sharing a home, inside jokes and friends, it’d be a pity to lose someone who has such insight to you, especially if there are no hard feelings.

Sorry Rogue, at least it's amicable. Mine was not. In the end I 'won' if you can call it that. She got nothing, except my car. She didn't want a twenty+ year old car, she just didn't want me to have it. I lent her the car and when she returned she drained all the coolant, luckily I pay attention to the guages, it was overheating within two miles of getting it back. Pulled over walked to 7-eleven got water and drove it home. No leaks at all, how or why she drained the coolant I still don't know.

When it was all said and done, that's the only thing she got. She just didn't want me to have it. It was only worth $1,500. Probably cost her $300 just to title it in order to sell it.

You're lucky to have it done in 30 days. Took me three years.

Been there, buddy. Hopefully this will lighten your day (NSFW):

https://youtu.be/qGN1a4fN2sg

I did it 12 years ago. It's congratulations with regrets, as I have kids.

Best of luck to you both.

Hey RogueJSK, sorry it did not work out but you will find that women are interchangeable and replaceable. Enjoy your freedom. I have been thru 3 divorces and you will be better when this is over.

Best wishes for a clean break. It'll still hurt for awhile.

Mine ended after 17 years. I gave her the house and she signed off on my pension (she had cashed her pension out for the downpayment on the house so we thought it was fair).

She kept the kids because their school was there. I provided medical on the kids and my child support was only $400/month.


We split the pets as well.

If you have mutual friends, they'll all adjust as well and hopefully you two can remain friends. You were a big part of each other's lives. But then again with no kids, it might be an easier break to just stay apart.

My ex and I have been divorced for seven years now. Next week, we're headed to Fort Bragg with our two children to go see my oldest child (from previous) who just had grandchild #3. She rented the house, I rented the minivan. Yeah, we're weird.

Good luck and best wishes for you both.

Mutual and non-acrimonious are good words to apply to a situation like this, and it sounds like they do.

All the best as you work through this.

Sorry the marriage didn't work out. It always saddens me he hear such stories. But as we know no, matter how much you felt in love at the beginning, for various reasons people grow apart. It's far better to make a change then live a life that has no joy or love. I went through this some 35 years ago and moving on was one of the best life decisions I've made. The best of luck to you.

It sucks but at least you don't have kids. That makes it far worse.

Take A LOT of time for YOURSELF. Like 2+ year.

Date for fun, but (1) don't make any kids accidentally and (2) don't let yourself be fooled that its time to settle down again yet with the first semi-nice girl that comes along. You aren't remotely ready for that, even if you think you are. Need convincing? Look at the train wreck of 2/3/4th marriages people have.

Be YOURSELF and have FUN. Buy the toys / guns / stuff you always wanted. Take a new job. Travel the country / world.

It sucks but it's worth it.

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Originally posted by LBAR15:
As devastating as it was at the time, one of the best decisions I ever made was getting divorced. My life is drastically better as a result and I found the woman I wish I would have been with all along.

This was me, 31 years ago. Best of luck.