Prayers sent, Kevin.

Until you get things figured out, take your time.

Many members have gone through this, so if you need ears to listen, or advice to hear, just ask.

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Originally posted by dgshooter:
I'll be working in St Charles next Wednesday. If you're available I'll treat you for dinner.

I am actually on vacation for 10 more days... let's grab a beverage or two and some dinner. Send me an email.

ah shit.....sorry to hear this kevin, stay strong and take it one day at a time Brother.....my thoughts are with you!

Prayers sent Kevin.

Hang in there.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but better days are ahead.

Sorry to hear of this Kev, if you need another ear to bend, feel free to email me. I know things are tough now, but you have a support group like no other here. It will get better.

Oh, if she moved out, do yourself a favor and change all the locks.

Sorry to hear buddy. I can't imagine and can't add much to what others have said but to reiterate, PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE- be focused at work to stay safe!

I'm another member who's been there, although I was not blind-sided by the bitch. She was a control freak who just couldn't get enough control over my life, although she pretty-much ruined it for me with her continued and increasing demands. I know I'm better off without her, but the scars run deep.

No advice, other than my wish that you heal quicker than I did.

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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
Oh, if she moved out, do yourself a favor and change all the locks.

Yep, I would contact an attorney, to see if you legally can, and document EVERYTHING, especially if children are involved. If it goes the divorce route, courts love a ton documentation for abandonment.

I would be very careful with ANY meetings you may have with her. Make it public, if you can. My POS ex threatened the old fake DV card, to get me booted from my home. Once a spouse devalues you, and is actively monkey-branching, devolving back into a petulant, singles life teenager, ANYTHING is fair game in their minds, and they will feel absolutely zero remorse. Heck, they will justify it to themselves, and blameshift it all on you. Don't think they won't weaponize the children either. Mine was a sick Mother effer, in this regard.

They have had a long time, a head-start, to get the right mental framework to leave, but will have plenty of rage, because you are now the #1 impediment, toward their new life with schmoopy. Just prior to their "rage stage" is the best time to hit hard with divorce (if that is in the cards). They are in Limerence, and other forms of chemical rush, and are at the best point you will get, to get the best settlement.

Again, best of luck, and not all of what I write may apply, but if it does, very aggressive action is required. They will try every act in the book to get, and keep you off guard. Trust not one word she says, only actions, and be on the lookout for a burner phone. I still can't believe looking back, at what my ex POS did, and If I can help you minimize this shit storm, all the better.

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This, to a MF-ing T.

Sorry to hear about your being blind sided. It seems like you have a good family here. Consider reconsidering taking a LOA. When I get stressed to the max I just cruise the forum and don't post.

and, whwn you do go back to work, be extra careful to be aware of your surroudings. Don't let your emotions turn off your vigilance. E-mail if you want to do so. Separation and divorce is a cop disease.

Kevin, I am so very sorry to hear this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I have enjoyed reading your posts (with the unfortunate exception of this current thread). Hang in there. You make this Forum a better place.

Sounds like many of us have been through similar circumstances. It takes time. Lots of time. Hang in there brother. Thoughts and prayers for you.

sorry to read this. I will pray for you. God Bless and good luck.

Kevin,
Very sorry about your situation. After reading through 11 pages of comments it is clear to me that you have made some quality friendships on this forum that go beyond firearms. Please don't think you have to go through this alone. Lean on your friends. Sounds to me like a lot of people are there for you!

Best of luck man, keep your head up.