Had a guy at work that was going through his 4th or 5th divorce and made the a comment:"what the hell is wrong with women?"
I looked at him and asked: with is the common denominator in all your divorces? The guys sitting there told him!

I'm getting ready for number 2.

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Originally posted by Ryanp225:
Everyone get one.
Your first divorce I assume you went through the bs court system and realized how vulnerable your whole future is to the whims of a scorned woman.
Then you did it again.....and then a third time?
Serious question: The fuck is wrong with you?
And I'm also questioning why you'd want to advertise this for all to know.
You need to read some books by Andrew Tate, Greg Adams, or Rich Cooper on how to be an alpha male who has a little more self respect.
I'm not saying any of this for the sole purpose of shaming you. You and every other man in your position needs to be told this by other men because it's the truth without any filter.

Ryan,

I don’t take it personal and appreciate words. I have made my mistakes and while it took time to recognize them, I do recognize them and am trying to not make the same mistakes again.

A drunk might fall off the wagon more than once but hopefully they realize what is best in the long run and I hope that is where I am at.

I’m not without faults, many of them.

I post this to talk to folks, the same way I’ve posted my struggles of being alone in foreign countries, the same way I’ve struggled with many life lessons that I’ve posted on this forum.

I’ve grown from a young country boy who was quite ignorant of the world 10+ years ago until now. One thing I have realized is that nobody, not even the least humble on this forum, is that all of us are flawed and could seek to become more closer to perfection.

I admit that and hope to present my arguments as such. I don’t feel all do. Doesn’t fix anything but it’s where I stand.

ETA: we agree on a lot of our No bullshit posts. For that I’m appreciative. I present my situations as a no bullshit presentation. That may be wrong or may be right. But it ain’t no BS.

Your suggestion doesn’t excite me as the “alpha male” is what I grew up with, from the grandson of a depression era farmer and a grandson of an SS officer I can tell you these popular due to circumstances opinions aren’t the right ones. I grew up being taught alpha male on a scale close to criminal and I do believe that is part of my problem. PART, read that carefully. There is some degree of truth to these thinkings but they aren’t a how-to.

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Originally posted by Ryanp225:
It's a joke, dude.

I think Signified recognizes this and expresses that through his picture in his post.

While I don’t always agree with his presentation in posts, I do recognize what he is saying.

A man older than me that while I respect, I have a hard time accepting his words.

Maybe I am off base with my assumption, only Signified can confirm.

Thank you for the kind words Otto. I mean you no harm. Truly.

The blowing up of one’s family is not a trivial issue to me. Been there done that; trying to repair the damage is for the rest of my life … forever.

Fucking up your kids life is hard to live with; and I don’t wanna hear from anybody saying it doesn’t.

(I don’t hate the woman I divorced either.)

Seven years later, I married the kindest woman I’ve ever met.

Just not a funny topic to me.

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Originally posted by SIGnified:
Thank you for the kind words Otto. I mean you no harm. Truly.

The blowing up of one’s family is not a trivial issue to me. Been there done that; trying to repair the damage is for the rest of my life … forever.

Fucking up your kids life is hard to live with; and I don’t wanna hear from anybody saying it doesn’t.

(I don’t hate the woman I divorced either.)

Seven years later, I married the kindest woman I’ve ever met.

Just not a funny topic to me.

You are correct there, I think adults can handle things cause they are adults. But knowing my daughter, who cries when I leave for work won’t see me every morning is a feeling that I don’t wish on my worst enemy.

It’s a tough situation, I hate it. I hate that I contributed to it and for that she has to suffer in life.

I don’t know how to reconcile that. And as an educated man that tears at me.

Who is at fault isn’t paramount, who is affected is. I’ll forever be sad for my child. And that’s not a position a father ever wants to be in.

Simply be the best father you can be from here out. It will bring its own rewards. Make care of her your sole (female) focus until she emancipates.

I’ve helped my boys grow into men. We talk now as adults, smoking cigars together on the back porch. I’m grateful.

You’re clearly an intelligent guy.

We’re all here to learn brother.

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Originally posted by OttoSig:

Who is at fault isn’t paramount, who is affected is.

A wise observation, sir.

#2 when I retire, she won't move and I'm not staying.
Wyoming and fishing bound !
I was single for 27 years, adjustment will make me happy!!!

Still on my starter wife after 16 years. She gets mad when I introduce her as my "first" wife.

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Originally posted by vthoky:

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Originally posted by OttoSig:
Who is at fault isn’t paramount, who is affected is.

A wise observation, sir.

Yes.

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Still on my starter wife after 16 years. She gets mad when I introduce her as my "first" wife.

Same here, 34 years. But it hasn't all been peaches and cream. Any long term marriage will have major problems to be worked through.

OttoSig: Hang in there. Best wishes.

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Any long term marriage will have major problems to be worked through.

Definitely

Yes there are people with mental problems and such that relationships will never work

It's mostly people that won't put in the work to make a relationship work, they give up to easy

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Originally posted by spunk639:
Got a friend 57, his new wife expecting in January she's 32.

WOW! How do you have anything in common with
someone 25 years younger?
I'm a two timer. He will be 75 when his child
graduates high school.

It worked for Jerry Lewis

Remember the wise words of Henny Youngman “Do you know why divorce is so expensive? Who cares, it’s worth it!

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Originally posted by DonDraper:
Still on my starter wife after 16 years. She gets mad when I introduce her as my "first" wife.

Start introducing her as your last wife then.

That’s how I refer to mine (#2) sometimes. It’s true, March will be 36 years with this one. Expecting to get to the “til death do we part” clause, but no matter what she will be the last one.

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Originally posted by spunk639:
Got a friend 57, his new wife expecting in January she's 32.

I hope he had all the details worked out in advance or he is going to be taken to the cleaners sooner than later.

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Originally posted by Ryanp225:
You need to read some books by Andrew Tate on how to be an alpha male

As in the sleazy influencer guy who was just arrested in Romania for human trafficking, rape, and organized crime?

I don't think that's the kind of "alpha male" anyone should aspire to be...

There's no need to shoe-horn in something like that.

I’m sorry to read all this; this thread is what scares me about approaching marriage number two with my girlfriend of 4 years.