3X loser myself. Never again. The cat and I are happy. I am hyper aware of red flags now.

Ha! I know some old widows who are happy w/out that husband…

Must work in both directions.

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Originally posted by SIGnified:
Ha! I know some old widows who are happy w/out that husband…

Must work in both directions.

No shit, otherwise wouldn’t be fucking divorces Aristotle.

As the old saying goes:

"Remember that no matter how handsome and charming OttoSig is, someone somewhere is tired of his shit!"

(Or someones somewheres, as the case may be...)

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Originally posted by RogueJSK:
As the old saying goes:

"Remember that no matter how handsome and charming OttoSig is, someone somewhere is tired of his shit!"

(Or someones somewheres, as the case may be...)

I’ve used that quote more than once, one thing I ain’t is easy to deal with lol.

Women marry men hoping they will change, Men marry women hoping they won't.
After my first divorce I said I would never marry again, after 20 years of shacking up I got married again, and nothing changed.

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Originally posted by OttoSig:

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Originally posted by SIGnified:
Ha! I know some old widows who are happy w/out that husband…

Must work in both directions.

No shit, otherwise wouldn’t be fucking divorces Aristotle.

Ha ha ha

How did you ever know that my parents came so very close to naming me that… Lol ha ha ha

Love is the answer brother

I’m sorry for your trouble. I have no advice, but I can imagine the spectrum of emotions you must have experienced. Best hopes to you.

It may not make you feel any better, but both my brother and I are trying to find relationships after happy marriages to our late wives, one of whom passed due to a stroke and the other cancer. The dating scene out there is terrible. At this point we are both increasingly inclined to remain single. Something seems to have happened to women since we first met our wives decades ago. Wish it were not so. Good luck on your journey!

Sorry to hear you have to through this again. I have been divorced once. If ever I have to go to divorce again, I will stay single, and live alone with my dog. Live a quiet and simple life, stress free. See my children and grandchildren if they want to see me. If not, I have some pictures.

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Originally posted by MoosehornMan:
Women marry men hoping they will change, Men marry women hoping they won't.
After my first divorce I said I would never marry again, after 20 years of shacking up I got married again, and nothing changed.

And that probably sums up the reasons for the majority of the divorces out there.

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Originally posted by Flash-LB:

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Originally posted by MoosehornMan:
Women marry men hoping they will change, Men marry women hoping they won't.
After my first divorce I said I would never marry again, after 20 years of shacking up I got married again, and nothing changed.

And that probably sums up the reasons for the majority of the divorces out there.

… because if you’re growing, change in people is inevitable.

Best of luck. Just live your life and do the things you like. Don't fall into that "I'm lonely" trap. Even if it takes a while, the right partner will come along. In the mean time have the time of your life without judgement. Go hunting, fishing, clubbing, whatever interests you. Take care of your health. It will affect your appearance and likability. I did that for 5 years after my first, very unfortunate marriage. I found the freedom rewarding, and met the girl I'll spend the rest of my life with without really working at it.

OttoSig, I recommend a 2-3 week trip to Thailand to aid in your recovery.

Got a friend 57, his new wife expecting in January she's 32.

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Originally posted by OttoSig:
I think its time to just stay single, plan my retirement, and learn to be happy with just the dog.

It’s a damn good life man, nothing to have to learn. Outside of work it’s personal freedom and the free agent lifestyle. Do what you want, when you want, and unless it’s you spending money with your hand with cash or swiping a card, or a click click click on a screen or keyboard, all your accounts stay the same. If you don’t spend money magically none of your accounts get $ removed. It can be a beautiful thing. That saying about lemons and lemonade.

Geeze, man, I hate that you're having to go through that a third time. I know what your saying about that second one, though... sometimes I think I'd like to be able to just erase that event from my own timeline.

Hang in there, sir.

I know I'm a lucky man, my second "one" has lasted 30 years.

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Originally posted by SIGnified:

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Originally posted by Flash-LB:

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Originally posted by MoosehornMan:
Women marry men hoping they will change, Men marry women hoping they won't.
After my first divorce I said I would never marry again, after 20 years of shacking up I got married again, and nothing changed.

And that probably sums up the reasons for the majority of the divorces out there.

… because if you’re growing, change in people is inevitable.

The kind of change you're talking about is not the kind of change I'm talking about. I'm talking about women who become full on whores, dopers, alcoholics, shrews, bitches and so forth.

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Originally posted by Flash-LB:

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Originally posted by SIGnified:

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Originally posted by Flash-LB:

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Originally posted by MoosehornMan:
Women marry men hoping they will change, Men marry women hoping they won't.
After my first divorce I said I would never marry again, after 20 years of shacking up I got married again, and nothing changed.

And that probably sums up the reasons for the majority of the divorces out there.

… because if you’re growing, change in people is inevitable.

The kind of change you're talking about is not the kind of change I'm talking about. I'm talking about women who become full on whores, dopers, alcoholics, shrews, bitches and so forth.

I agree.
GOOD = growing/developing
BAD = Changing