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| quote: Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL: quote: The joke among family lawyers is that "tens do not marry twos."
^^^^^^^^^^^ Except when the twos have lots of money.
You prove the point. If they marry for money, they are not tens. (I'm not talking about looks.)
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| quote: You prove the point. If they marry for money, they are not tens. (I'm not talking about looks.)
^^^^^^^^^^ Then what? Agreeable, intelligent not gold diggers. Bo Derek started the whole ten thing and she is not in Mensa. |
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| quote: My friend is always in a relationship disaster...
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| Some people like starting relationships better than they like actually being in them. I have a long time female friend who's on her sixth husband. But being female, she tends to come out of them in better shape than when she went in. |
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| Well if all his relationships are showing exactly the same pattern, then either he's picking the exact same type of woman who is leaving every time, or more likely, he's turning into the exact same asshole each time and driving them away. Some people feel that once the relationship/marriage is established, it means they can change into their true forms without repercussion and the other has to accept it. "Usually" it's on the woman's side since they spend their lives hiding behind makeup, friends, lifestyles, and such. In this case, I would bet it's him. |
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| Simply put, and to what others have alluded, he's not happy with himself. If he had to be alone with himself, he would be miserable. He therefore must find "happiness" via other avenues and as long as he THINKS he can find happiness in a relationship, he will continue this destructive behavior. It would be wise for him to discover his personal Attachment Style and work on himself before he imposes himself on some unsuspecting woman...
"If you’re a leader, you lead the way. Not just on the easy ones; you take the tough ones too…” – MAJ Richard D. Winters (1918-2011), E Company, 2nd Battalion, 506th Parachute Infantry Regiment, 101st Airborne
"Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil... Therefore, as tongues of fire lick up straw and as dry grass sinks down in the flames, so their roots will decay and their flowers blow away like dust; for they have rejected the law of the Lord Almighty and spurned the word of the Holy One of Israel." - Isaiah 5:20,24 |
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| This thread shows why the people who say you have a 50/50 shot of getting divorced are not quite right.
Even though 50% of all marriages end in divorce doesn’t mean you have a 50/50 chance because people who get divorced typically do it over and over again. |
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NOT Left-Winged!
| quote: Originally posted by Lefty Sig:
Cluster B attachment disorder. Borderline or Narcissist, or a mixture of both.
The pattern is meet a new person, idealize them, think they are everything and a soulmate. After a little time, when the new person does not live up to the idealization, they start devaluing the person and finding everything wrong, belittling, withholding affection, giving the silent treatment, then "splitting", which is going back and forth between love and hate, until eventually they completely devalue and discard the person.
Such disorders are caused by lack of attachment to the primary caregiver when very young, creating a big hole that can never be filled. They want to fill it so much they go through the above cycle, but because no adult can provide the parental love that was not given in the first place, the relationships almost always fail.
Now, either he is one of these, OR is a codependent (because his parent was a Cluster B) and addicted to the attention and "love" that cluster B's provide in the initial phase of idealization.
No offense but I already told everyone why this happens. It is very well known among behavioral experts. Trust me, I've studied this deeply because of a few relationships with people like this. Everyone would be wise to understand what Cluster-B disorders are and how to spot them. Hunter Biden is a trainwreck because Joe is a narcissist (evidenced by pathological lying, hairplugs, bragging about pushups, and a ton of other stuff) and neglected Hunter as a child. AND I believe the incidence of this has skyrocketed due to women putting infants in day care after 6 weeks and the day care workers not attending to infants enough to meet their developmental needs because they are looking after too many. Try to get one to stop crying and a half dozen more are crying and getting no care. Humans evolved with infants and toddlers having constant contact with their mothers. The idea that children can be separated from their mothers and raised by strangers is yet another lie promoted by the "anti-family" progressives. |
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| Putting a child in daycare is anti family? The day care my grandson goes to is well staffed with professionals. I think it's more important to socialize a child at a early age. I have seen the effects of not doing so. The so called helicopter moms can be far worse to a child's development than a day care. Our neighbors pulled their only daughter out of school very early at the very first sign of potential bullying. She became home schooled staying in doors. She became isolated and entirely dependent on mom. That girl is now 22 years old still lives at home has no job no social skills and recently announced she is non binary. We have lived next to this girl since birth. I have seen her out of doors maybe 100 times in all those years and that is just to get in a vehicle and make a quick trip to the store with mom and usually back home in ten minutes. Entirely dysfunctional because she was shielded and protected from all the bumps and bruises life deals. She was never left to cry for two minutes.
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| quote: Originally posted by Lefty Sig:
No offense but I already told everyone why this happens. It is very well known among behavioral experts. Trust me, I've studied this deeply because of a few relationships with people like this. Everyone would be wise to understand what Cluster-B disorders are and how to spot them.
Hunter Biden is a trainwreck because Joe is a narcissist (evidenced by pathological lying, hairplugs, bragging about pushups, and a ton of other stuff) and neglected Hunter as a child.
AND I believe the incidence of this has skyrocketed due to women putting infants in day care after 6 weeks and the day care workers not attending to infants enough to meet their developmental needs because they are looking after too many. Try to get one to stop crying and a half dozen more are crying and getting no care.
Humans evolved with infants and toddlers having constant contact with their mothers. The idea that children can be separated from their mothers and raised by strangers is yet another lie promoted by the "anti-family" progressives.
Lefty, I too, have studied psychology for years. Had to, due to my f’d up childhood. It was either do a deep dive, read until my eyes bled, study for years, or go pay thousands to a quack. I would like to hear your take (perhaps another thread) on current society. I’m talking about the effects of the phone being placed in the child’s hands so early, as well as social media. I’m seeing the millennial and gen z takeover in marketing and these 2 generations are really f’d up. Lack of work ethic, narcissism, entitlement, etc. I’ve never seen worse behavior in my life. The cineplexes are chalked. The gym, is close to the same. I’d read some on the stunting of development in the human brain due to being shut in on devices instead of being social via sports, being outside playing, etc. It’s also had a heavy hand in the spreading of ADHD. I ask because I’m seeking more of an understanding why this is so rampant.
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| You have answered your own questions in many ways. The advancement of technology isn't all good. It created powerful computers in the palm of your hand. It created social media platforms that are deliberately bent to influence young minds in a adverse way by the people who have created and run them. The parents who use these computers as baby sitters because they are too lazy to interact with their kids. Tip of the obvious iceberg. The answers don't always have to be so complicated.
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or the dog?
| I have not spent much time with any of these women. I do know the last three have been nurses, and he does not work in the health care industry. I have not spent much time with any of these women. I do know the last three have been nurses, and he does not work in the health care industry.So is he a cop or a FF?
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| quote: Originally posted by lastmanstanding:
There are many,many people who cannot live unless there is upheaval of one kind or another in their life regardless of what direction it comes from. Spouse, kids, relative, coworker the drama must be ongoing and continuous. I've known several people like this. I usually break ties and run away otherwise you will get caught up in it. At the very least listening to their constant drama stories.
Don't think there's a cure they are just hard wired this way.
I've seen that. Some people a more comfortable suffering for whatever reasons.
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