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She has no dog in this hunt. I doubt if any good would become of it. People can't resist playing the comparison game. You and GF meet up with the boys later and take them out for eats or something fun. Awake not woke | |||
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Is she a keeper? If so she should probably be welcome at any family event you attend at this point. If she isn't, she should probably be headed down the road. "The people hate the lizards and the lizards rule the people." "Odd," said Arthur, "I thought you said it was a democracy." "I did," said Ford, "it is." "So," said Arthur, hoping he wasn't sounding ridiculously obtuse, "why don't the people get rid of the lizards?" "It honestly doesn't occur to them. They've all got the vote, so they all pretty much assume that the government they've voted in more or less approximates the government they want." "You mean they actually vote for the lizards." "Oh yes," said Ford with a shrug, "of course." "But," said Arthur, going for the big one again, "why?" "Because if they didn't vote for a lizard, then the wrong lizard might get in." | |||
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I vote for ask the boys, my girlfriend and now fiancé has has 2 graduate in this time. I know the kids well and am like a father to them, even though my fiancé thought I should be there, I still asked both kids before each ceremony if they would like me to be there out of respect to them. Both said yes of course but I will say it does make the kids feel like they have a say and are important | |||
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Another vote for asking the boys. It is their day. | |||
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Do you consider her family yet? Graduations are family celebrations. Don’t be afraid to live your life. SJS | |||
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I say take your GF. She is a part of your life. The boys are also a part of your life. They should accept her out of respect for you. | |||
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I wouldn't ask your boys specifically because it is their day. Asking them has 3 possible outcomes, assuming they both answer the same way: 1. They say yes and mean it. 2. They say yes because they respect and honor you as their father, but it isn't what they want. 3. They say no. What are your plans for 2 and 3? Since there are two of them, what are your plans if they answer differently from each other? Best case is that 33% of the possibilities will not be awkward. Worst case is 12.5% of the possibilities will not be awkward. Or, you don't ask and 100% not awkward for you sons. | |||
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I guess my age is showing here. Asking the kids seems like tail wagging the dog. If I've dated someone for 2 years, it's basically pretty serious and she's not a bitch; she's proven to be normal, well mannered and generally likable. It's my and her decision to go or not. Others, my kids included, can be mature and suck it up if they don't like it for whatever reason. If I want her to come and my kids don't, then I'm not coming either. "Wrong does not cease to be wrong because the majority share in it." L.Tolstoy "A government is just a body of people, usually, notably, ungoverned." Shepherd Book | |||
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Jesus , some of you are treating the boys like little snowflakes . Your arguments sound more like what your wives would say . I raised two boys of my own and they did not give a rats ass who did or did not attend as long as everybody behaved . | |||
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I wouldn't. As much as I can sympathize with your desire to have your current love with you, I'd just let it go and avoid any possible social uneasiness. Maybe there'd be non, maybe just a little and maybe hard feelings that might take years to mend. But, you of course are closer to the situation than anyone here, so you need to decide. Men fight for liberty and win it with hard knocks. Their children, brought up easy, let it slip away again, poor fools. And their grandchildren are once more slaves. -D.H. Lawrence | |||
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You have been divorced more than 2 years, had this girlfriend for 2 years and you didn't say the gf had anything to do with the divorce. So given that - I would bring her. I don't think I would "ask" the boys, but I would let them know you two will be there. Donald Trump is not a politician, he is a leader, politicians are a dime a dozen, leaders are priceless. | |||
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Since nobody has asked. Pics of GF ? | |||
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Already posted in another thread. Last post in shark attack vs bear attack. Full size photo, | |||
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Do we know each other? Why is a pic of her relevant? ___________________________ All it takes...is all you got. ____________________________ For those who have fought for it, Freedom has a flavor the protected will never know ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ | |||
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I think it's a play on the old "is she hot" forum trope. As someone whose parents divorced prior to graduating HS I'd say if it's a serious relationship, which after 2 year's I'd assume it is, bring her unless there's some underlying friction or drama we're unaware of. | |||
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Wrong forum for that shit, man. ______________________________________________ “There are plenty of good reasons for fighting, but no good reason ever to hate without reservation, to imagine that God Almighty Himself hates with you, too.” | |||
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pretty much this i like to avoid drama and as has been said -- which might detract from your sons celebration ---------------------------------- Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. | |||
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My thought is that you have already thought it through. Avoid "awkward". "Some things are apparent. Where government moves in, community retreats, civil society disintegrates and our ability to control our own destiny atrophies. The result is: families under siege; war in the streets; unapologetic expropriation of property; the precipitous decline of the rule of law; the rapid rise of corruption; the loss of civility and the triumph of deceit. The result is a debased, debauched culture which finds moral depravity entertaining and virtue contemptible." -- Justice Janice Rogers Brown "The United States government is the largest criminal enterprise on earth." -rduckwor | |||
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Don't see where it would be a problem, you have been in a relationship for two years, boys like her, you like her, she likes the boys and you and it's a high school graduation so they are old enough to understand the situation. Would think it would be nice to have an adult companion at the event showing support. Good luck with your decision, personally don't see the problem with taking her, its not like you're taking last nights bar conquest with you... | |||
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You and I think alike. The fish is mute, expressionless. The fish doesn't think because the fish knows everything. | |||
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