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Does anyone have a spouse that is okay with you being friends with an ex? | ||
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| Staring back from the abyss  |
No longer married. But, I'd say that it's a recipe for disaster. ________________________________________________________ "Great danger lies in the notion that we can reason with evil." Doug Patton. | |||
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Oriental Redneck |
TEOTWAWKI Q | |||
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| Go ahead punk, make my day |
Being co-parents is different than being friends. Just make sure you'd be cool with your new wife being friends with her old ex.  | |||
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No children involved. Someone I dated in high school. Wr have been friends since then, been married nearly two decades. | |||
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| 10mm is The Boom of Doom  |
My ex once wrote me a letter. My wife found it in the mail before I did. I never got to see it. But I got an earful. God Bless and Protect our Beloved President, Donald John Trump. | |||
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If 'more drama' is the answer to 'What does this relationship need?', then by all means, befriend & hang out with someone that you have already decided you couldn't put up with their bullshit & likely caused much drama. There's a reason they are ex's | |||
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| Oriental Redneck |
The big and only question that matters is, did you discuss this with the wife? Why do you even bother laying out your case and ask us? Q | |||
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| Distinguished Pistol Shot |
My wife says I am to have nothing to do with my ex that doesn’t involve my kids. | |||
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I was pretty close friends with my ex when my now husband & I 1st started dating so I introduced them. Even seemed weird to me at the time. My now husband & I moved pretty far away. I am not good at keeping in contact with people but my husband is. My husband is now good friends with my ex. Talks to him on a pretty regular basis. I haven't talked to him in over a year but I'd say my husband does maybe at least once a month. My husband never had an issue with it but I was aware it could possibly be an issue so I was very open with my husband. | |||
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Told cops where to go for over 29 years… |
Dep DA Benitez: “You know Harry, I’d really like it if we could stay friends” Harry Bosch: “What’s the point?” What part of "...Shall not be infringed" don't you understand???  | |||
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My wife is pretty relaxed about most of my ex girlfriends. I do not hang out with any of them and we do not contact each other, but we are always cordial when our paths cross in public or at social functions. I have never had to take action to avoid an ex. Most of my ex's are also pretty cool. In fact, my wife is friends with several of my ex's. It is all about trust and mutual respect. It doesn't hurt to remind your wife that they are your ex's for a reason, but don't go into detail, as that may backfire badly! It &isn't always Rosie. We had a rough spot about 9 years ago when an ex from 1988 got back in touch with me after 20 years and she was not respecting boundaries. My wife felt that I was too accommodating and it made her doubt me. I broke off all communication with this ex, but it did take some time to mend my relationship with my wife. Note: I have been happily married 21 years and want to stay that way. Time fixes a lot. | |||
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When I was married, my cop ex-GF became fast friends with my wife. I once walked past them while they were sitting on my patio. Their conversation then focused on how fat I had become. How that for bizarre? End of Earth: 2 Miles Upper Peninsula: 4 Miles | |||
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| You're going to feel a little pressure... |
Friends with many if not most of my ex's. My wife is friendly with some of them. I like to tell her "I come with references". Bruce "The designer of the gun had clearly not been instructed to beat about the bush. 'Make it evil,' he'd been told. 'Make it totally clear that this gun has a right end and a wrong end. Make it totally clear to anyone standing at the wrong end that things are going badly for them. If that means sticking all sort of spikes and prongs and blackened bits all over it then so be it. This is not a gun for hanging over the fireplace or sticking in the umbrella stand, it is a gun for going out and making people miserable with." -Douglas Adams “It is just as difficult and dangerous to try to free a people that wants to remain servile as it is to try to enslave a people that wants to remain free." -Niccolo Machiavelli The trouble with fighting for human freedom is that one spends most of one's time defending scoundrels. For it is against scoundrels that oppressive laws are first aimed, and oppression must be stopped at the beginning if it is to be stopped at all. -Mencken | |||
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The risk/benefit analysis of this is so far off the charts that you need binoculars to see it. | |||
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| If you're gonna be a bear, be a Grizzly!  |
I'm friendly with a couple of my ex's but I wouldn't say we're active friends. I'll speak with them when we see each other, and maybe talk on Facebook if they reply to something I post (or vice versa). Other than that, no. I don't need the drama. Here's to the sunny slopes of long ago. | |||
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Still friends with my first girlfriend (and her husband), from 2 decades ago. My ex-wife hated her, but she’s gone. | |||
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There is a reason they are called ex...... "Violence, naked force, has settled more issues in history than has any other factor.” Robert A. Heinlein “You may beat me, but you will never win.” sigmonkey-2020 “A single round of buckshot to the torso almost always results in an immediate change of behavior.” Chris Baker | |||
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| It's not you, it's me.  |
Fuck no. The only guys who want to stay friends with an ex are effeminate men or who dudes who still want to fuck them or pity them for some reason. Come to think of it, I’m not friends with women. | |||
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| The success of a solution usually depends upon your point of view |
I'm still friends with a girl i dated growing up. She has stayed with us a couple of times when visiting FL both with her husband and son and by herself. She and my wife get along well. “We truly live in a wondrous age of stupid.” - 83v45magna "I think it's important that people understand free speech doesn't mean free from consequences societally or politically or culturally." -Pranjit Kalita, founder and CIO of Birkoa Capital Management | |||
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