An ex like a high school girlfriend that you kissed and held hands with? Sure. Someone that you've had a part of you inside of a part of hers? Not just NO, but HELL NO!

I've got enough friends, I even have a few female friends, but they are all older. Female friends in my age group? What's the point?

A man should pick his own fruit and get a dog.

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Does anyone have a spouse that is okay with you being friends with an ex?

I've been divorced from the 'same woman' going on 45 years. While infrequent, communication was at least mostly civil.

About 20 years ago #2 son intended to further mend the perceived chasm between his parental units.

The luncheon didn't go as he intended, the -ex exposed her twisted twin and the event ended as the marriage itself....disappointment and chagrin among other descriptors.

Perhaps oddly, the long term hubby of same & I get along fine.

My 'new spouse' is fine with all of it, recognizing the inherent limitations of such is no challenge.

my parents divorced when I graduated high school,

both ended up with long term live in SO's,

after a bunch of family events where all were in attendance, they all got along well,

not like go to dinner once a week etc etc but well enough to let bygones be ,

my father actually had my mother over to help with the books for his business (his SO was dumb as a box of rocks)

dad's SO did not really care for most of the interactions, but she got over it

Interesting commentary in this thread...

My wife does not mind. One of my close friends is an ex.

My wife pretended not to mind. I know better. She worked with my ex for a few years and they did not get along. I sorta kept in touch with the ex for a few years so I could see her parents when they visited from Germany. They are really cool people. Got tired of the ex's weird texts and asking for assistance like I was still her guy. Not my problem anymore, missy. Just stopped responding and that was it. I felt bad about it for about 3-5 seconds.

I can't say from experience but my guess would generally be somewhere between extremely dangerously unlikely to hell ------- no. My analouge is working with women at work, don't even think about it. I don't see how that situation could be remotely harmless let alone helpful whether at work, with an ex, or with green eggs and ham.

Most women don’t share ...

A few years back I went to a buddies house to help celebrate the first birthday of his latest son.

Among others in attendance was his dad (married to #5) and his mom (recently divorced from #4)

Mom and Dad have been divorced 30 ish years...

About an hour in to the festivities, while #5 was sitting on the couch, I popped into the kitchen to get more chips. Mom and Dad were in there playing capture the tongue along with a pretty aggressive game of grab ass.

I couldn't help it, I just cracked up. They looked at me and shrugged. When I came back with the chips #5 asked me what was so funny. I told her mom and dad had told me a funny story about my buddy when he was a kid.

My buddy failed to see the humor.

My forever wife met my starter wife for the first time when we were in a custody battle over my son. After the first day in court, my wife said: What a bitch. I said yep...

I say exes have that status for a reason. I stay away. For those who have to co-parent, you have my sympathies - obviously that's not a situation that permits a clean break. But, in my case, no exes of mine or Mrs. ShneaSIG are in our lives in any capacity, so, no drama! Drama-free is a splendid way to live.

Run away!