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My advice, starting out, would be first to let your wife have your daughter. After that we could talk some more. Lover of the US Constitution Wile E. Coyote School of DIY Disaster | |||
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Unapologetic Old School Curmudgeon |
Don't tiptoe around and be quiet during naps. They need to learn to sleep through noise. This will suck in the short term but be great in the long run. Spend time with them, as has been said. My son is 11 and we can't have more and we already miss when he was a little guy. You can't go back. Be a dad, not a friend. she will have plenty of friends, only one dad. Don't weep for the stupid, or you will be crying all day | |||
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Old, Slow, but Lucky! |
You've received a lot of excellent feedback already. I would add only one more thing. Beginning at an early age and continuing into adulthood: Teach her to respect herself and expect the same from her friends... especially those of the male persuasion! Good Luck! Don _______________________ Living the Dream... One Day at a Time. | |||
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Dances With Tornados |
Life goes by. It just does. Time passes by as surely as grains of sand in an hourglass. One day you will lose a parent. Then a sibling. The other parent. Grandma. Grandpa. Aunts and uncles, cousins. You'll regret these passings, of course, but life happens, one day at a time. One day never seems like much, but time marches on and it waits for no one. You won't realize this and learn from it, of course, early on, some never do, probably most never do. You'll regret, rue and lament and weep because one day, they're gone. You're left. My advice to you is to take the time, make the time, before it's too late. Because once death happens,it's too late. Over and done with. Always love your family, keep them near, if not in person then at least by phone, email, whatever you can do. And don't let hate consume you. | |||
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When opportunity knocks, answer the door. And never lay down with anyone crazier than you are! End of Earth: 2 Miles Upper Peninsula: 4 Miles | |||
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Don’t beat your body up. Replacement parts when available are expensive and of poor quality. ----------The weather is here I wish you were beautiful---------- | |||
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1. Your mission statement as a parent is to raise a self sustaining adult. 2. When my daughter was a teenager she could not get along with my wife. I was at a loss about the best way to help her. I found that as long as I put my arm around her, hugged her, or simply touched her at least once a day that things seemed to work out, every day was a challenge! 3. Time goes so quickly. It's very easy to have regrets about the way we use our time. The reality is, for most of us, we are focused on providing for our family. Don't Lose Yourself and sorrow over the choices you could have made. ____ I'm filled with gratitude for the blessings I've received. | |||
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Start a college fund early. That way you will have money available to help with tuition. Not saying "pay her way", you make that call. But if money is not available that option is off the table. | |||
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I believe in the principle of Due Process |
Speaking of experts, that Jordan Peterson guy has a lot to say about these things, too. Watch the videos, get the book(s). Luckily, I have enough willpower to control the driving ambition that rages within me. When you had the votes, we did things your way. Now, we have the votes and you will be doing things our way. This lesson in political reality from Lyndon B. Johnson "Some things are apparent. Where government moves in, community retreats, civil society disintegrates and our ability to control our own destiny atrophies. The result is: families under siege; war in the streets; unapologetic expropriation of property; the precipitous decline of the rule of law; the rapid rise of corruption; the loss of civility and the triumph of deceit. The result is a debased, debauched culture which finds moral depravity entertaining and virtue contemptible." - Justice Janice Rogers Brown | |||
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Legalize the Constitution |
Good advice on finances already communicated. Because of my career, we lived away from family. That’s bad because they do not develop strong relationships with grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins. It’s good because of the bond it created with the four of us (two kids). We took very few family vacations, but we did lots of things together. Be involved. I coached softball for my daughter and baseball for my son. Trained in martial arts with my son (daughter didn’t take to it). Read to your kid(s) every night. Important time together. Essential for success in school and in life. Builds a lifelong desire to read and learn. Instill in your kids the belief that they can do and be whatever they are willing to work for. Remember that you and your wife will not agree on child rearing. Perfect. That’s why a two-parent household is important. Guard your own free time. It’s important. For me, I wish I had spent more time with a musical instrument when I was 30 (or 20, or a teen), some guys would rather work on their golf game or something, but you need to recharge. _______________________________________________________ despite them | |||
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Nosce te ipsum |
Follow up with a couple more (sons/daughters) within the next five years. | |||
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Victim of Life's Circumstances |
Tell her everyday, "no matter what, your daddy loves you". Tell her everyday. She will never be too old to hear this. Set up a custodial investment account and fund it with blue chip dividend stock/fund and take advantage of dividend re-investment. Much good advice already. Financially, avoid unnecessary debt and live a little below your means. Don't let your vices become habits. ________________________ God spelled backwards is dog | |||
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Start saving for college right away. And retirement. Savings early add up quickly. Ignem Feram | |||
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Edge seeking Sharp blade! |
Lots of great advice already. I'll reiterate with two quotes: "Status: spending money you don't have to impress people you don't know" "If I'd have known I was going to live this long, I'd have taken better care of myself" I've done pretty well at abiding by both. My parents were essentially done with parenting when I came along. I made sure to not do to my kids what my parents did to me. If you haven't any feelings of inadequacies in your rearing you feel you need to remedy now, you are fortunate indeed. Having a wife that treated parenting as the most important thing ever like me was very helpful. | |||
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I like this! Also, take care of your teeth. It's a big deal. ------------- The sadder but wiser girl for me. | |||
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When you’re about to buy something ask yourself if you really need it. Also think about how long you had to work for the money you’re about to part with to judge the true cost. Don’t try to shield your daughter from the world. If something ugly happens and she asks, explain the situation as best you can. It’s better than letting her grow up not knowing that life can be harsh only to be blindsided by a reality she’s completely unprepared for. | |||
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Green grass and high tides |
To a great degree this is what I was talking about in my earlier post. Giving her tools is one thing. But being afraid to let her blossom is something completely different. "Practice like you want to play in the game" | |||
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Diogenes' Quarry |
Beautifully said and absolutely true. | |||
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Another vote for this one! I have two grown daughters. Be wide awake that your time with your child-daughters is the most joyous time in your life. Savor it and don't squander it. "Crom is strong! If I die, I have to go before him, and he will ask me, 'What is the riddle of steel?' If I don't know it, he will cast me out of Valhalla and laugh at me." | |||
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Survive the first week. Raise her to be strong, independent and an indi-bloody-vidual, mate. Don't blink, you'll miss those moments. Read to her. Often. Make up funny voices. Your daughter can help you with your hobbies. Be the alpha male role model. One day, she'll be a mom too. We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid." ~ Benjamin Franklin. "If anyone in this country doesn't minimise their tax, they want their head read, because as a government, you are not spending it that well, that we should be donating extra...: Kerry Packer SIGForum: the island of reality in an ocean of diarrhoea. | |||
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