I have had 3 new brain tumors appear in the last week. Prognosis is not good. My dad is coming over on Wednesday for me to tell him. It's rough when a parent outlives their kid. Has anyone here ever had to have a conversation like the one I am about to have?

No- I would not want to even imagine any side of that conversation. I am so sorry you have to deal with that.

Stay strong. Have they been determined to be malignant?

Good luck, just lay out the facts.

Brain tumors are up greatly since cell phones became popular. Having worked in both the electrical/mechanical field and in health care, I have no doubt that the recent increase in brain tumors is partly from cell phone and portable phone use.

I had a rare bone marrow disorder many years ago. I had to have the talk with both my parents and also my wife's parents. I think you will find that your dad is supportive and that he will be brave with you.

God bless you in this journey. I am praying for you.



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Are you concerned about his health? Does he have heart issues? Substance abuse issues? Do you have unresolved issues? Is your mother still alive? Are they still married? How is her health? How old are they?

Do you have other siblings?

How has he handled bad news in the past?

What will his role be in the family during this hard time for you? Will he be the glue for the family or be a wreck?

I’m sorry to hear about the tumors, my friend. We’re here if you need us.

Tony.

Hi Censored,

I am so sorry to hear this news, and I do not have any first hand experience with this type of situation.

Is this development part of a health challenge that your dad is already aware of? If so, perhaps the update will not be totally unexpected. Still, it's awful.

Regardless, if I were to put myself in your dad's shoes and heard this devastating news from my son (he is 15) no matter what age he may be at the time, I think that I would want to try and spend as much meaningful time with my son as possible, so maybe have some thoughts/suggesstions around that.

Offer to let him stay the night or two, etc., so he can be with you and feel connected.

If he has to go home after the talk, can someone drive him so he gets home safely? Is there some that can stay with him, to comfort and look after him, as he will likely be very distraught?

Again, I am so sorry to hear this news. Life can be so very cruel and unfair.

Prsyers to you and ypur family for strength through the tough times ahead.

Rob

Censored...you and your dad are are in my thoughts and prayers...strength for all involved.

Geez, Censored... I got no words. Good luck, man.

Very sorry to read this. I hope that in whatever time you have left, that you are able to accomplish those things that you feel are either necessary or bring you a sense of fulfillment.

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Originally posted by Bisleyblackhawk:
Censored...you and your dad are are in my thoughts and prayers...strength for all involved.

This is what I wanted to post.

Shit This is going to be hard on the whole family. I am sending good thoughts to everyone involved, especially you Censored. This is awful news.

Oh man. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I am so sorry to hear this as I'm sure your father will be. Stay strong.

I am sorry that you are ill, and that you have to bring this to others.

Be strong, and let us know if we can help.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. Prayers said and sent.

The only silver lining is you and your Dad can still talk and prepare should your prognosis remain bad. One of my best friends lost his 16 year old son in a car accident. His son was following him after going duck hunting, went off the road, and t-boned a telephone pole. By the time he turned around and got to his sons truck he was gone.

They never had the chance to say goodbye.

I really hope the prognosis is wrong. No advice on the conversation with Dad, no matter how you slice it, it won't be easy. Best of luck in fighting it and with the hard conversation. You are in my prayers.

Sorry to hear of the issues you are facing, Censored.

I can't imagine the emotions that you are having right now. As far as the talk with your dad is concerned, all I can say is to be up front and honest with him. I'm sure that most people would want it that way. I know I would. Good luck in the battles ahead of you.

Let us know if there is anything we can do to help.

Jim

Prayers for you and for your father.

Wow. You and your family have all our prayers.
Hoping for the best.