I wish you strength and time, with many happy memories yet to be made.

Censored, I hope you have many more memories to make. Just like others have mentioned.
When I told my parents in Germany about my pacemaker insert in the US at age 36 they did not believe that I was *that* sick. They did not think that it was neccessary.
It was, but I had to accept that they could not be convinced.
That was over 13 years ago. Doing very well after 2 heart surgeries.
Hope your treatment will be succesful, too.
Please let us know your progress.

I’m so sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you.

Sorry to hear this.
I’ve had to do this when I was diagnosed with lymphoma. It can bring you closer to each other.
Stick to the facts and just listen when he talks. It’s easier being the one dealing with a condition than being a parent who can’t fix it for their kid.

I'm sorry for this news, and sorry for the days ahead until you know more. I pray it will be better than it first sounds.

Prayers sent Censored. For both you and for your friends and family.

Prayers out to you and your family. Keep fighting!!!

I hope your conversation with him goes well.
I’ve talked to my parents about surgeries, one was for a benign tumor pressing on my spine, one was for my heart. Neither had complications.
They handled it, offered good advice, and they’ve already lost a son as a young man, so the fear is in their hearts.
Depending on your personalities, you both may need the comfort and closeness of each other. There is so much wonderful advice and good insight in this thread. Please take care.
I wish you the best.

God's strength and presence be with you and your family.

You have my deepest regrets & sincere best hopes. I’m sure you’ll find the both the words and spirit to convey this to your family.

I have walked that path with my wife a few years back to talk with the kids. Depending on his health and circumstances I would say it is best to be honest. Allow him to ask questions, but also ask him for what you'd like even if it is to be present and supportive. Best possible journey for you and the family.

I'm very sorry this is something you have to experience. I sincerely wish you and your family the best.

Prayer, and good thoughts being sent your way.

Thanks, for every one of your comments. My son and I are going through our list of things that he still wants me to teach him. It's amazing that what I thought was little, was huge to him.

My wife does not post on gun forums, I will update from time to time hen I can. Hold/em close and treat every interaction as possibly your last.

God's strength and presence be with you and your family.

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Originally posted by az4783054:
Stay strong. Have they been determined to be malignant?

a biopsy confirmed met to brain from esophagus, craniotomy, stereotactic radiation and 30 days later a new 3.5 cm occipital lobe and two smaller dura tumors appeared. CT PET today to look for the spread in the body. If there is spread surgery is off the table and we look at whole brain radiation vs. pallative care

Prayers repeated and sent again

Understand stages of grief, they will likely struggle with denial and wanting to beat this... be honest with where you are, and allow them time to come to terms as well...
I am sorry you are in this situation, finding peace, and even joy in little things can help a lot.
Praying for you and your family.
Doug

Oh geez, so sorry to hear the cancer is spreading.

There is not much you can do to spare loved ones about these things.

I feel the same way. When I was diagnosed stage 4, I felt I was an exploding hand grenade and the resulting shrapnel was hitting everyone around me.
It was more than a feeling, I could see it hitting them. It still does.

Some things are beyond our control though that doesn't make us feel any better or make them feel any better about it.

On the other hand, those who love you will want to know what is happening with your health as opposed to not knowing and certainly will be hurt more if you don't tell them when they find out at a later time.
So there is that.

There is no answer here that makes everyone feel better, least of all you.

Take some comfort that you are doing the right thing as they need that trust from you that you are keeping them informed, and pretty much that's all there is from what I have found.

God Bless.

My thoughts and prayers are with your Censored.