The last thing I would want is the Federal Government involved in my final resting place decision!

I've considered Arlington. Anyone else who meets the requirements considering that?

When my son died unexpectedly, he had no life insurance, no savings, nothing. I had him cremated at a place that does nothing but cremations, no services, nothing else. It cost me $900 total, and I spread his ashes at a place we both loved going together.

Wife and I recently updated our wills, POA's and estate plans.

After any usable organs are harvested, we both want to be cremated. No casket, no viewing. Party for friends afterwords. My wife wants to be scattered here at our farm. For me part at my favorite place in Canada and part here at the farm. We have CD's set aside for our cremations.

Not wasting money for boxes, funeral homes or cemetery lots and monuments.

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Originally posted by AKSuperDually:
I've considered Arlington. Anyone else who meets the requirements considering that?

AKSuperDually, My late wife is interred at Arlington based on my eligibility. At the time Arlington had me sign an agreement to be buried there as well, which is not a problem. Arlington has posted on their website a draft of proposed changes in eligibility which seem quite a departure from the current rules.

Given the nature of my job (and how many people I've lost) I've thought about this a lot. My plan within the next few years is to buy a couple plots in the cemetery that I like (Sedona Community for those that are so inclined to look it up, it's gorgeous). And maybe get a headstone. I'm only in my 30s but you never know and I'd assume it's easier to have it all ready to go earlier rather than later in life. Especially since costs only go up. In case of something unexpected I had an emergency folder that lays out not only all pertinent medical and insurance info, but also a detailed guide to what I want done if I should pass unexpectedly.

My parents pre-planned everything - donated their bodies to science. Small memorial service, told us where they wanted ashes sprinkled.

It did sort of bother me no headstone or marker. Then I found 'find-a-grave.' For a whopping fee (about $5) I could block the ads on the page and leave a cyber marker(so to speak)

Might be an option some would like.
https://www.findagrave.com/mem...ggie%22-rosalie-ruby

https://www.findagrave.com/mem...5/virgil-robert-ruby

Since arriving in our 70s my wife and I have been looking at options. She wants cremation and ashes scattered at a scenic site here in the Texas Hill Country. I’m leaning that way too. No children so who would visit our graves? There’s an old historic bar near here where I play guitar at a weekly jam. Some of the old walls are from the original mail and stagecoach stop between San Marcos and Blanco. People claim that some old patrons have had their ashes poured into some of the larger holes in the old floorboards to rest on the ground below. That might be an option. It would add to the rumors of the place being haunted and I would still be around for the weekly jam.

Friend and I have a pact that whoever goes first, the other one will get the ashes, load them into some shotgun shells, and go duck hunting together one last time.

I haven’t visited my mother’s grave since she was buried back in ‘95. I may someday, but I have no plans.

I will be cremated. I told family members to have cremators dispose ashes or for them to take to do what the want. My cares end at death.

My partner and I stopped at the Pecos River bridge over Highway 90 along the Texas/Mexico border to take a break and enjoy the view when we saw a vehicle stop. A family got out, walked to the middle of the bridge.

A little time went by when we saw what appeared like smoke coming from their location. We then realized they had dumped ashes over the side of the bridge. It grossed us out because the ashes were blowing all around them so they quickly ran back to their vehicle and left. Yep, funny, but gross. Could have been an animal’s ashes, but I wouldn’t doubt it was a family member.

We bought a couple of burial plots years ago but have since decided to be cremated . I want my ashes to be spread in a creek at a campground that we have gone to since I was a baby . It's Federal land so it's not legal but what they don't know won't hurt them . My wife wants her ashes to be placed along side her mother . We've been trying to sell our plots but haven't had any luck .

I am planning to be buried at the National Cemetery at Fort Worth, Texas--as a military retiree it is my right. There will be a simple gravestone (standard issue). My only living relatives are 2 nephews and some cousins, none are local, so I don't expact any grave visitations after I'm gone. As a long-time singer in my church choir I am planning a church funeral, in which I hope music will be the focus. I can expect some choir members and a few others of the church to attend, and maybe my nephews (they live in Phoenix, AZ). I won't be requesting aa full military burial--my service was not particularly exceptional. I do have a policy that arranges some of the funeral details.

flashguy

 
My father had planned well. He had requested cremation, had purchased a grave site and headstone (only had to engrave the date of death), and specified one organ piece he wanted played at his church service.
 
However, the funeral director (this in KS) told me the deceased's wishes to be cremated do not have to be followed. Once dead, the family makes the decision about what to do with the body. Of course we honored our Dad's wishes.

Over a year ago a very nice member here put a dozen or so songs on a DVD for me to play during a slide show at my visitation.

Now I have 26 pictures picked out, to put in to a slide show,
But

With the funeral homes not offering visitations, these days.
I don't know if I will bother getting the video made

(Stupid covid)
G r r r r

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Originally posted by bendable:
Over a year ago a very nice member here put a dozen or so songs on a DVD for me to play during a slide show at my visitation.

Now I have 26 pictures picked out, to put in to a slide show,
But

With the funeral homes not offering visitations, these days.
I don't know if I will bother getting the video made

(Stupid covid)
G r r r r

Make the video. You never know-friends may email the slideshow to each other so they can all watch at a given time to remember you