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My three best friends are all business owners. At one point, they would ask me to participate in rich folk activities like fly here or there for vacations or lets all get box seats at our alma mater. I eventually just told each of them, that I can't spend like they can and I don't want handouts either. We are all still friends.

I occasionally still get invitations to do rich folk stuff but its rare, like for my 50th birthday which is coming up, but I politely decline. My friends have been cool about it.

Oh I asked one of them for some financial advice about a loan I was going to take out. He offered to loan me the money with no interest. I declined.


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I grew up in a decidedly middle-class to lower middle-class household. I didn't have it bad but didn't have it great either. I grew up learning just how important it is to live without debt and how to fix your home/live with frugality in mind. I got married at 22 and now, at 23, God has blessed my wife and I with health and plenty, and we have been working on paying off student loans and advancing in our careers.

However, many of the people in my life, whether friends or family, are decidedly wealthy. Many of the people I know in my same age group have their college/cars/homes all paid off from their parents. As such, they frequently travel and make large purchases which are outside of the practical realm for our family, and that often frustrates me. They give me "advice" on how to be like "them." This kind of stuff really grinds my gears.

I realize that sometimes you have to choose to be happy with what you have. Jealousy and covetousness can eat you alive. It's sometimes just frustrating being the only person in our groups who says things like "no, we can't go on a summer cruise" or "no, we can't go to expensive restaurants every weekend." Like I said, I'm very happy with my life and very blessed. However, I can't help but wonder: Do I need different friends?

What say you, SIGforum? Is this a me problem? Do I need to find different friend groups?



If you and your wife keep doing this and stick to it and pay no never mind to the other folks you'll be set in so many ways in thirty to forty years!

Strive to create a home which is like no other in which it can be a sort of permanent vacation atmosphere...all the other things you need or want will come to fruition in time.

My wife and I live on a big hunk of land where she built her dream home. We have a large creek which runs down beside the house over large patches of granite. It is a beautiful place.

When I get ready to shoot, I will either shoot from the porches, drive to one of the several ranges I've built in over the years, and most often never get out of my truck or out of my Gator depending on what I'm shooting. Life is what you make it!

You don't pay them other folks no attention...


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