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Originally posted by P226RN:
Today I am getting the "I want to work it out" speeches" And the "I can handle it speeches" Along with the "I am not stopping and you need to believe in me crap"

I am not a fool.

Thanks gang you are all the best.

Yeah, sounds like you're getting the same ol', same ol' getting thrown at the wall hoping something sticks.
Good for you to see it coming and getting out of Dodge
(shame that in order to "see it coming" means we've been blind-sided by it before)

Best of luck in your quest for freedom!

I had a friend whose husband gambled excessively, but justified it claiming that he won more than he lost, which apparently was true. It became a real problem when my friend couldn't tell which of their two checking accounts he was raiding for his gambling money, and never knew if the grocery check would bounce. Or the mortgage check. Or tuition for their child.

After she dumped him, she decided her calling in life (she was about 35 years old by then) was to become an addiction counselor specializing in gamblers like her ex-husband. I strongly advised her to avoid that, since it would only keep her in contact with the type of person who ruined her marriage and her daughter's life, but she went ahead with it.

I heard from her about five years later, she was in a new relationship with "a great guy" who was real supportive, especially when her daughter got pregnant. I asked if her daughter was married, she said "Married? She's only 15!"

That was enough for me, I broke contact with her.

The moral of the story is that you are doing the right thing by making a complete, iron-clad break from your addict ex-friend. Just make it stick.

Hang in there Tara! There are good guys out there, not perfect but good. One day when you least expect it, one of the good guys will see what a great gal you are. Until then, carry on.
Rod

https://www.gam-anon.org Has some useful information for you.

This is no cost and affords the opportunity to deal with issues caused by the gambling addiction of another.

Treatment for pathological gambling at the present is covered under many insurance plans. Of course GA is available as well as imposing a lifetime ban on entering casinos to gamble. If you have a lifetime ban you can be arrested if you enter a casino.

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Originally posted by P226RN:
I have dealt with people in my life who have been addicted to one thing or another since I was about 5 years old. I am sick to death of it. The denial, deceit, total disregard for anything but the habit they choose to overindulge. I thought I finally had someone who was healthy and without destructive addictions but recent events have proven me wrong. Now I have to start all over again after 5 years because the casino is more important than our family. Fucking hate addictions!
Thanks for listening. I hate starting over again. Anybody got a house to rent for me some guns and 3 dogs?



Mother = cocaine
Father = gambling / shopping
Aunt = alcohol
Ex= alcohol
Current = gambling
Next= Nothing and No one. I am done with this crap!

I agree. I have a relative who has a destructive addiction. Like you say it becomes the most important thing in their life.
Drugs, drinking and gambling are a deal breaker for me.

Sorry T.

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Originally posted by Mars_Attacks:
My ex-wife said I was boring.

I would have to disagree with her, you and your brother as well are far from boring.

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope it all works out better for you. Be strong.

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Anybody got a house to rent for me some guns and 3 dogs?

Yes, but you're selling your P-239...

Thanks gang. Took the day to myself and didn’t do much. Getting plans together slowly. It’s a lot to think about so nothing will happen overnight. As sad as it is I am trying to be positive.

Your posts are very much appreciated. And it was great to laugh on a few too. I needed that so keep the GIFs and funnies coming.

And the p239 hasn’t sold yet.

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Originally posted by P226RN:
"I am not stopping and you need to believe in me crap"

That this time will be different and I just need to trust.

Mmm yeah. Because failure will also be your fault. Since you didn't trust/believe hard enough.

Nope. Get rid of this person who can't/won't control their addiction.

There are certainly people out there who have an addiction, who are coping with and controlling it. The simple measuring stick being the path of destruction they weave among their relationships with anyone close to them. If they actually have their addiction under control and are committed to keeping it that way, then said path of destruction may be minimal or non existent.

For an addict who is going to deflect, manipulate, and take advantage of others so they can continue their destructive behavior... these people need to be dropped like a bad transmission.

Exactly. The manipulation and blame placing is endless. Nothing I have done or will do caused this or will fix this. Denial and no wish to change = me gone.

Just seen somewhere over West Virginia...



Reported to be P226RN successfully ejecting from a bad relationship!

Hahahahahahahhah for the win!

Lol, Tara! My hubby said post pics of guns and dogs! Too bad you’re not closer....we’d try to help you find a place away from all the excuses, and addictions... good luck!

^ lol smart man!! And thanks!

Seriously considering just packing up and doing travel nursing in an RV with the pups. Gun friendly states only of course! Jeff already has me drooling over some RV’s! Darn him.

You’re on the right path. Pop smoke, GTFO and take care of YOU!

P226RN, You're stronger than those addicted, keep the faith, don't look back. It will be difficult and tiresome starting over, but a damn sight better than being lied to and continually disappointed.

God bless and keep you!

P226RN, sorry to hear. Don't give up, but don't give in either. You will find the right mate. I know that.

Don't be too hard on yourself. It is not your fault. Just be yourself and do your thing.

Gambling addition is horrible. I have it in my family and hate it with a passion. It is, what it is. And yes they try to minimize it as recreation, nope. It is a horrible, destructive disease. Plain and simple.

I am glad you recognize it and are doing something about it. He will be destroyed by it and left with nothing. All the good he ever had will be gone or destroyed with him.


I hate it.

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Originally posted by P226RN:


Boring would be good and a firearms addict might be ok if we made enough to support the habit.

Thanks guys. I am content alone and definitely happy with myself. I am strong and have dealt with far worse so I know I will be ok. I am just upset that I let this happen and it's a bit overwhelming at the moment. Oh well lesson learned.

I'm sorry. I've given up on dating, have some girl-friends I can go out and have fun with, but anything serious I run. I just find my life is easier with just a cat.