I have a Facebook account that I am really considering closing. One high school friend that was a year behind me. Lovely girl and I have fond memories of her. This person has in the last year commented on discussions I have participate in three times. And, every time she has leveled a very clever, thinly veiled racism claim. It is clear she has been racially radicalized. All I am doing is talking about right of center theory. This time it was a discussion of the SCOTUS leak and I was accused of blaming Jackson who has not been seated yet. Which is nonsense on stilts. I responded with I no longer care what you think or say. I am fucking tired of defending this point with leftist and refuse to play the game. My attitude is fuck you and the horse you road in on. How would you respond if you were me? A little help here.

Is FB useful to you in any other ways? For example, I'm not a fan, but FB Marketplace comes in handy sometimes.

You could block the former HS friend or stop partaking in political discussions on FB.

Are you familiar w/ Godwin's law? Racist is fast becoming the new Nazi. People these days who label others as racist don't really care to discuss and elaborate why. It's a shutdown comment, a mic drop.

If someone calls you a racist, the burden is on you to prove otherwise, not the the accuser to support their contention of why they believe you're racist.

I have in the past engaged her in logical, measured discussion explaining my thoughts and theories. But, we always seem to end up back at the point where she is exploited and I'm and those like me are racist. She never says the term racist but really that's what she means. I am exceptionally frustrated and don't know how to respond. So, I said I'm sorry you took exception to what I said, but really I no long care because I am no longer interested in playing this game thinking there is no winning here, and I'm out. And, that led to her claiming I'm trying to suppress debate. Really how do you tell these people to fuck off? I've had it. Keep in mind I'm no longer interested in this person being my friend.

Well, you can fling a monkey shit grenade.

1. Pull pin.
2. Toss grenade, while yelling "Fuck off!".

But only if you truly do not care anymore.

Otherwise you are virtual signaling because you feel micro aggressed, un-validated and marginalized.

All that said, some people I find have value, still maintain the ability to reason and think about all this crap with the possibility if having an epiphany. For those, I will continue to dance carefully, lead gently and try not to step on toes, as long as it seems I may lead them to the punch bowl and away from the Kool-Aid. If it starts getting out of step, well, dance over. Bye.

(how's that for a wall of text, TL,DR. I could not put it in an acceptable Twitter/Tik-Tok format)

You’re asking us to tell you how not to engage?
Just don’t.

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Originally posted by sigmonkey:
Well, you can fling a monkey shit grenade.

1. Pull pin.
2. Toss grenade, while yelling "Fuck off!".

But only if you truly do not care anymore.

Otherwise you are virtual signaling because you feel micro aggressed, un-validated and marginalized.

All that said, some people I find have value, still maintain the ability to reason and think about all this crap with the possibility if having an epiphany. For those, I will continue to dance carefully, lead gently and try not to step on toes, as long as it seems I may lead them to the punch bowl and away from the Kool-Aid. If it starts getting out of step, well, dance over. Bye.

(how's that for a wall of text, TL,DR. I could not put it in an acceptable Twitter/Tik-Tok format)

This is an exceptional response. Thank you.

This seems to be an unfortunate sign of the times. My advice is to unfriend her. If she persists in seeking out posts, block her.

I look at this like inviting someone to your house. Disagree with you fine, that happens. But raise a ruckus and accuse you of things in your own living room? I'd guess you wouldn't invite that person back. I see FB as no different.

When someone gets to define the term, you don't get to respond. It's a given you don't count. What they lack in quality, they make up for in quantity. The best hope is not to argue the point but rather the premise.

She probably has the hots for ya

Remember, just because they throw the pitch, doesn't men you have to swing.

You do you, don't chase what they throw.

You think I’m racist? Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn. I know the truth. God knows the truth. I’m comfortable with that. What an irrational person like you thinks is irrelevant.

Walk away from crazy. You won’t change their minds. They aren’t interested in a different points of view or honest debate.

Sorry, I don't put up with shit. Just like a Band-Aid, rip it off in one quick motion and toss it in the trash. Your wound is now healed.

She has no respect for you. None. No loyalty, no helpfulness, just disdain.

One thing I've learned in life is that we have precious few true friends.

We have tons of acquaintances and casual friends. That's ok, keeping it in perspective, but expect nothing more.

They prove to be temporary, sooner or later. It ends.

You are disposable to them.

You, to her, are nothing and she is treating you like a piece of trash and casually throwing you off as a piece of litter out the window.

It is always better to find out how people treat you and others early on, so you don't get used and abused by them, but often years go by until the true person surfaces.

She views you in a negative and hateful way.

Yank the ejection seat, mash her ejection button like James Bond, kick her to the curb. Shake the dust from your feet and walk away.

It's just me, but when this happens to me, I am angry and hurt at first. To deal with such rejection, in my mind I sort of hold a service, putting that relationship in a box and then to the burial site. There I mentally perform a quick graveside service on that memory, bury and shovel the dirt. To save my soul and sanity, I then say a prayer and forgive them, and move on. This helps me to forgive and forget and find peace, and to be clear I'm doing this more for me than them. It brings peace to me.

Best wishes to you.
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Originally posted by goose5:
Lovely girl and I have fond memories of her. This person has in the last year commented on discussions I have participate in three times. And, every time she has leveled a very clever, thinly veiled racism claim. It is clear she has been racially radicalized.

The last sentence is the key. She has been brain washed, truly believing all the nonsense about racism.

Within those people, the fact that you don't agree with her is proof of your racism. You can say all day long that you don't care what race somebody is, that you believe to your core that MLK's dream speech was divinely inspired. Those statements are actual proof to your friend that you are in fact an evil racist.

You cannot ever win points in a debate with her. She is invested in her self identity with her world view, and no facts or logic will change it.

Your best bet is to block her on FB. Though you have fond memories of her, today she is not that same person.

Political comments on FB will expose some of your friends' true nature. Some of my long time (40+ yrs) friendships from high school and college have been lost over politics. Trump derangement and hyper polarization in social media. Prior to that we could disagree and avoid unpleasant conversations.

I now avoid political discussions on FB.

The nature of the beast (FB) is that it is a race to the bottom.

Leftists misuse language as a tool. If calling someone names gets their desired result, they don't hesitate.

If something is completely neutral (math, logic, etc.) but is in the way of their pet theories, then they have no qualms in trying to paste the 'racist' label on it and see if that works.

The gameplan being, once math and logic are off the table, how do you assess arguments? With no tools at hand, then emotion wins and stompy feet rule the day.

If the wrongheaded can call math and logic 'racist' and not get called on it, then the word is meaningless.

TL: DR - your options appear to be, either develop a thicker skin, disconnect from the troll, or uninstall FB.

Do what I did and shut FakeBook down, GET RID OF IT.

It’s insidious evil TRASH and this is coming from a heavy 11 year user.

Why do you care about some random girl from high school that you’ve not kept in touch with?

I shut it down January 2021, and this is what happened to me:

I’m happier
I’m more productive
I’m more attentive to my own family
My blood pressure went down

I missed it for two weeks, then I didn’t miss it anymore.

JUST DO IT!

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Originally posted by goose5:
I have a Facebook account that I am really considering closing.

Just close it.

I admit, I don't speak from experience because I never opened one up.

My wife and I, in recent years, have lost the majority of our old friends due to politics (they cancel us), a couple of them because of C-19 vaccination. My wife and I just shrug and move forward. We've kinda gotten used to it.

If someone I was friends with on face book used the kind of language you did they would never have to worry about me having any communication with them again.

If you’re considering closing down FB, do so. I deactivated my account a couple years ago. It was a huge time suck and wasted too much of my life on shit that didn’t positively contribute to my life. I have kept the account (deactivated) as once in a while there are photos that I have there and nowhere else. I’ll go download a few photos and deactivate again.

After a month or so, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. It’s like being an alcoholic and after some sobriety, wondering why it took so long…