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Originally posted by OKCGene:
Cancer sucks. Just awful.

My best friend, we were like brothers, slipped free of the pain and suffering earlier today.

About 4 months ago he went from a strong and hard working, very energetic guy working 60+ hours a week, and within just a few days was struck by tremendous pain and could barely walk. They gave him 4 months to live and that ended up being very accurate. It was Stage 4 situation and nothing could be done. He just turned 62 about 6 weeks ago.

I had no idea that bone cancer could be so painful. It's awful to see someone suffer, I hate it.

What is especially bad is that he was an only child and his Mother was his only living relative. Unfortunately his Mother is in the advanced stages of Dementia/Alzheimers and now there is no one to take care of her, so I guess the State will step in and put her in some sort of facility. As sad as that is, I'm thankful that she really had no idea of what was going on the last few months.

I've always wondered if it was better to die quickly and it be over with, or to have a disease or something that took months or years to run it's course until you pass. If you die quickly there is no time to make sure your affairs are in order, etc, but there is no suffering for you. If you have an affliction that takes a long time to kill you then you have some time to say the final goodbyes and set things up for your passing but you may very suffer as well as your loved ones suffering too.

There is no right or wrong way or answer, but this has shown me that you need to have your affairs in order right away, instructions written up, your will done, no loose ends. Don't leave those things for your loved ones to have to deal with after you pass. In my friends case, he thought he was healthy, but he wasn't, and then he managed to get most things set up and arranged, but that's extra hard to deal with when you're hoping and praying and trying to fight a disease that will end up winning anyway.

Rest in Peace, Glen, you were a good Christian man blessed with a great singing voice, may you be in God's Presence in Heaven now and singing in the Heavenly Choir.

That is all, thank you for letting me say this, it has made me feel a little better.
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