Cancer sucks. Just awful.

My best friend, we were like brothers, slipped free of the pain and suffering earlier today.

About 4 months ago he went from a strong and hard working, very energetic guy working 60+ hours a week, and within just a few days was struck by tremendous pain and could barely walk. They gave him 4 months to live and that ended up being very accurate. It was Stage 4 situation and nothing could be done. He just turned 62 about 6 weeks ago.

I had no idea that bone cancer could be so painful. It's awful to see someone suffer, I hate it.

What is especially bad is that he was an only child and his Mother was his only living relative. Unfortunately his Mother is in the advanced stages of Dementia/Alzheimers and now there is no one to take care of her, so I guess the State will step in and put her in some sort of facility. As sad as that is, I'm thankful that she really had no idea of what was going on the last few months.

I've always wondered if it was better to die quickly and it be over with, or to have a disease or something that took months or years to run it's course until you pass. If you die quickly there is no time to make sure your affairs are in order, etc, but there is no suffering for you. If you have an affliction that takes a long time to kill you then you have some time to say the final goodbyes and set things up for your passing but you may very suffer as well as your loved ones suffering too.

There is no right or wrong way or answer, but this has shown me that you need to have your affairs in order right away, instructions written up, your will done, no loose ends. Don't leave those things for your loved ones to have to deal with after you pass. In my friends case, he thought he was healthy, but he wasn't, and then he managed to get most things set up and arranged, but that's extra hard to deal with when you're hoping and praying and trying to fight a disease that will end up winning anyway.

Rest in Peace, Glen, you were a good Christian man blessed with a great singing voice, may you be in God's Presence in Heaven now and singing in the Heavenly Choir.

That is all, thank you for letting me say this, it has made me feel a little better.
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My condolences on the loss of your friend.

I am very sorry OKCG, glad he had a friend like you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry for your loss, Gene. Prayers for peace and comfort sent from Wisconsin.

Damn. Sorry for you loss. Yes, cancer sucks

Sorry for the loss of your friend. So young!
Prayers for you both!

My condolences.

Cancer does SUCK.
My condolences...

Very sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear that, sir. My sincere condolences...

I’m so sorry for your loss Gene.

Sorry for your loss. Life is short, it streams by too rapidly. Prayers for you.

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here is no right or wrong way or answer, but this has shown me that you need to have your affairs in order right away, instructions written up, your will done, no loose ends. Don't leave those things for your loved ones to have to deal with after you pass. In my friends case, he thought he was healthy, but he wasn't, and then he managed to get most things set up and arranged, but that's extra hard to deal with when you're hoping and praying and trying to fight a disease that will end up winning anyway.

Gene, I’m very sorry for your loss. As a physician I have seen hundreds of deaths close up. As a cancer patient (bladder CA, rarely fatal) I see things from the other side now. What you’ve written will, if followed, help some family you will never know to deal with the uncertainty and anxiety that accompanies every death of a loved one, but especially of one who has been in charge of family finances.

We have a living trust drawn up by an estate planning specialist, updated and now reviewed again. The kids have a spreadsheet that lists all properties, all accounts, and contacts for those.

We even have burial plots paid for (and extra space for family).

All this, BTW was the doing of my bride of 50 years, the same person who encouraged me to go to medical school.

I wouldn’t have written anything on this subject but your encouragement to others was such a positive thing to come from a very sad situation that I felt obliged to second your important advice.

Sorry for your loss and pain.
Prayers,
Spunk

Very sorry for your loss of your best friend.

Sincerest condolences, Gene. God bless!

Sorry for the loss of your friend Gene. I don’t know what else to say, but I’m sorry to have to deal with this pain.

I am sorry.