Out of the blue, daughter’s boyfriend invites me for cigars and whiskey UPDATE

January 09, 2022, 06:07 AM

mttaylor1066

… via text, of course, because they’re both in their late twenties. Never got text or call from him before. He recently moved in with her.

We are scheduled to meet a a cigar lounge at 2 pm today. Just he and me.

I texted (of course) my daughter: “Whatever shall he and I speak about?”

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January 09, 2022, 06:49 AM

pace40

Sounds like "THE" question is coming.

January 09, 2022, 06:53 AM

egregore

Meeting on neutral ground, in a public place? Interesting …

January 09, 2022, 07:29 AM

sgalczyn

Open carry your best 1911 and leather

January 09, 2022, 07:32 AM

erj_pilot

Question is…is he worthy?

"If you’re a leader, you lead the way. Not just on the easy ones; you take the tough ones too…” – MAJ Richard D. Winters (1918-2011), E Company, 2nd Battalion, 506th Parachute Infantry Regiment, 101st Airborne

"Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil... Therefore, as tongues of fire lick up straw and as dry grass sinks down in the flames, so their roots will decay and their flowers blow away like dust; for they have rejected the law of the Lord Almighty and spurned the word of the Holy One of Israel." - Isaiah 5:20,24

January 09, 2022, 07:35 AM

SpinZone

Poor form texting your daughter IMHO.

He may have planned on surprising her at some point but wanted your blessing first.

But congratulations (if they turn out to be in order)

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January 09, 2022, 07:38 AM

BigSwede

quote:
Originally posted by pace40:
Sounds like "THE" question is coming.

If so, aside from the texting, which is what they do now a days, good on him. I he a known POS? Hopefully he doesn't sport a man bun

I like the idea of wearing your BBQ gun to this meet

January 09, 2022, 07:42 AM

mttaylor1066

quote:
Originally posted by erj_pilot:
Question is…is he worthy?

I do like him… nice guy, respects my daughter. I’m comfortable with him.

According to my other child, the young man in question is quite the New York City liberal…they both live in Brooklyn. Neither he nor I have never uttered any political statements when we’ve been together… even if he and I completely disagree politically, that wouldn’t be a deal breaker.

I’m going to give my consent without reservation. I doubt we’ll ever have a political discussion. Living in Connecticut I’m used to ignoring ridiculous statements from deep blue liberals.

I do plan to take him to the range. I’m almost certain he’s never handled a gun. THAT might be an interesting day.

January 09, 2022, 07:46 AM

mttaylor1066

quote:
Originally posted by SpinZone:
Poor form texting your daughter IMHO.

He may have planned on surprising her at some point but wanted your blessing first.

But congratulations (if they turn out to be in order)

At the time I texted my daughter, I knew she was aware he and I would be meeting. So it’s no surprise to her.

January 09, 2022, 07:49 AM

Oaklane

Not knowing your feelings of the young man, I would gladly accept, if you enjoy a good cigar and a good drink. Any communication is good regardless of him be worthy of your daughter or not. Have 3 step daughters that I consider my own, I only like 1 of their husbands/boy friend lol, I learned that I don’t have to necessarily like them, as long as they take good care of the girls and treat them right. That being said, I made it clear to them that no other option was acceptable for my girls. It’s worked well so far

January 09, 2022, 07:51 AM

mttaylor1066

quote:
Originally posted by BigSwede:
quote:
Originally posted by pace40:
Sounds like "THE" question is coming.

If so, aside from the texting, which is what they do now a days, good on him. I he a known POS? Hopefully he doesn't sport a man bun

I like the idea of wearing your BBQ gun to this meet

We’re meeting in Brooklyn, so ANY kind of carry is out.

He’s very sports-oriented and plays organized baseball with his brother(s), IIRC. Not a soy boy, thank goodness. My daughter doesn’t go for that type.

January 09, 2022, 08:04 AM

SpinZone

quote:
Originally posted by mttaylor1066:
quote:
Originally posted by SpinZone:
Poor form texting your daughter IMHO.

He may have planned on surprising her at some point but wanted your blessing first.

But congratulations (if they turn out to be in order)

At the time I texted my daughter, I knew she was aware he and I would be meeting. So it’s no surprise to her.

Got it.

January 09, 2022, 08:05 AM

Beretta92

Invite Him to the Shooting Range & when your shooting tell him about what happens to any man that lays hands on one of my daughters

Also IF He's paying order a $100 Cigar & a Drink that would cost him a week's pay HaHaHa!!

Good Luck with this Guy that's Living with Your Daughter

January 09, 2022, 08:07 AM

V-Tail

quote:
Originally posted by mttaylor1066:

We’re meeting in Brooklyn, so ANY kind of carry is out.

Irony. You're not allowed to do it in the places where it's most needed.

January 09, 2022, 08:11 AM

Jim Shugart

I think it's a hit.

(Just kidding.)

January 09, 2022, 08:22 AM

rbert0005

Wouldn't work for me. I stopped drinking and smoking.

Bob

January 09, 2022, 08:30 AM

mttaylor1066

quote:
Originally posted by Jim Shugart:
I think it's a hit.

(Just kidding.)

That made me laugh!

January 09, 2022, 08:54 AM

limblessbiff

quote:
Originally posted by mttaylor1066:
quote:
Originally posted by erj_pilot:
Question is…is he worthy?

I do like him… nice guy, respects my daughter. I’m comfortable with him.

According to my other child, the young man in question is quite the New York City liberal…they both live in Brooklyn. Neither he nor I have never uttered any political statements when we’ve been together… even if he and I completely disagree politically, that wouldn’t be a deal breaker.

I’m going to give my consent without reservation. I doubt we’ll ever have a political discussion. Living in Connecticut I’m used to ignoring ridiculous statements from deep blue liberals.

I do plan to take him to the range. I’m almost certain he’s never handled a gun. THAT might be an interesting day.

You could alter the meeting place to the range and have him ask you there

January 09, 2022, 09:34 AM

vthoky

quote:
Originally posted by limblessbiff:
quote:
Originally posted by mttaylor1066:
I do plan to take him to the range. I’m almost certain he’s never handled a gun. THAT might be an interesting day.

You could alter the meeting place to the range and have him ask you there

Make it a combo pack! He takes you for cigars and whiskey one day, you take him to the range another day. THEN you get to have "that talk."

Seriously, though, if he's a good fella then congratulations to your daughter and to you. May your family grow in great health and prosperity.

January 09, 2022, 10:27 AM

2PAK

When they moved in together, potentially the clock was ticking. My youngest has done the same, moved in with her BF and his dog. It's just a matter of time for me.

I expect one day my daughter will just mention it, 'oh BTW, were getting married in June, bla bla..'

Her BF isn't a gun guy. Likes Bowling and Billiards. I can live with that. Her treats her well.

Best of luck to you and them. A happy daughter is a happy life for you.