My wife refuses to allow sharing on her iPhone, but my daughter and I share with each other. I don't care that they know where I am. Since I deer hunt and hike in remote places, I'd love to know that someone has an idea of where I am if things go south.

My wife and I and our youngest son all share our locations. I like it so I know if she is still at work. so I dont have to call and bother her!!

It's a safety issue... not a spying issue.

When a family member is in an area that is involved in a shooting .... hopefully some will change their minds and not be selfish.

I don't look at my wifes location hardly ever. But when I learn of an incident, it is reassuring to see her location away from the area.

Happened many years ago...wife said she was going to local grocery store. That store was the site of a shooting - Kroger, Tennessee. I couldn't reach her - but looking at the Find app showed her at a different grocery. I was never more glad to see that info.

I'd definitely want to have that info avail every minute/every day. "Somebody" is hiding something if married couples can't commit to that level.

Andrew

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Originally posted by El Cid 92:
"Somebody" is hiding something if married couples can't commit to that level.

Not necessarily. Or even likely.

E.g.: I know a lot of guys here share their account accesses to various & sundry things, such as their computer logins, with their wives. I don't. Never have. Not because I don't trust my wife or because I'm hiding anything, but because I'm a retired I.T. guy and spent 25+ years hammering on my internal customers that one never, ever shares account credentials with anybody, for any reason.

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Originally posted by ensigmatic:

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Originally posted by El Cid 92:
"Somebody" is hiding something if married couples can't commit to that level.

Not necessarily. Or even likely.

E.g.: I know a lot of guys here share their account accesses to various & sundry things, such as their computer logins, with their wives. I don't. Never have. Not because I don't trust my wife or because I'm hiding anything, but because I'm a retired I.T. guy and spent 25+ years hammering on my internal customers that one never, ever shares account credentials with anybody, for any reason.

Genuine curiosity here: what happens if you die or have a major incapacitating accident? How does your spouse address any outstanding bills, etc if they don’t have access?

Everybody that knows me, knows where my phone is. It's hanging in the same spot on the kitchen wall as it was 40 years ago.

It's funny how things change as we age. My parents share their location with me and my brothers. This is a safety thing as they are older. I don't normally share mine but will at times when I am traveling and/or doing outdoor activities.

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Originally posted by ensigmatic: E.g.: I know a lot of guys here share their account accesses to various & sundry things, such as their computer logins, with their wives. I don't. Never have. Not because I don't trust my wife or because I'm hiding anything, but because I'm a retired I.T. guy and spent 25+ years hammering on my internal customers that one never, ever shares account credentials with anybody, for any reason.

The person you allow to "see" you on the app does not know your login information.

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Originally posted by irreverent:
Genuine curiosity here: what happens if you die or have a major incapacitating accident? How does your spouse address any outstanding bills, etc if they don’t have access?

I have provided for that unfortunate eventuality.

Learned a lesson from a departed best friend that had not done so. It created serious problems for his widow.

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Originally posted by MNSIG:
The person you allow to "see" you on the app does not know your login information.

Didn't say they did. I was just pointing out different people have different attitudes about sharing different things with their spouses that may have nothing at all to do with distrust or ill intent.

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Originally posted by irreverent:
Genuine curiosity here: what happens if you die or have a major incapacitating accident? How does your spouse address any outstanding bills, etc if they don’t have access?

She has her own login for the bank. Most of the bills autopay. The other accounts don’t much matter in that case as they would write her a check or transfer assets when she submits the death certificate, and they would close. She just needs a list (in the firebox in the safe) of what they are.


ETA: I don’t keep her away from these things. She just chooses not to. Every so often I tell her how we’re doing.

Share location with the wife and grown daughter (all on iphones). Brother who is 1300 miles away started sharing with me after some health scares (he's single). I've got nothing to hide from them. Wife has access to all my passwords, etc, plus I made a list for her that is kept in the safe in case something happens to me.

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Originally posted by ensigmatic:
Not necessarily. Or even likely.

E.g.: I know a lot of guys here share their account accesses to various & sundry things, such as their computer logins, with their wives. I don't. Never have. Not because I don't trust my wife or because I'm hiding anything, but because I'm a retired I.T. guy and spent 25+ years hammering on my internal customers that one never, ever shares account credentials with anybody, for any reason.

Yeah, the wife has the phone password, but not the computer password. It occurs to me that there should probably be a whole lot of passwords documented somewhere she can get at them when I take the dirt nap.

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Originally posted by ensigmatic:
I was just pointing out different people have different attitudes about sharing different things with their spouses that may have nothing at all to do with distrust or ill intent.

What reasons could there be for wanting to prevent one's spouse from being able to see where one is?

It smacks of secrecy to me, and that is a trust destroyer.

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Originally posted by Fly-Sig:
It smacks of secrecy to me, and that is a trust destroyer.

Why does it even have to be a question?

What if the question never comes up? What if neither person wants to share their location, but not because they have something to hide?

The question has never come up between me and my wife, and I would not ask her to share her location, nor would I be inclined to share mine, with anyone.

Needing to know the location of your spouse at all times- to me, that would be indicative of distrust.

After all, man and wife are still individuals, no matter how close.

The only exception would be if danger was about; if she and/or I had received credible threats of bodily harm.

Aside from that, why would I need to know where she is at all times? If you want to talk about things which can destroy trust, being controlling will do it.

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Originally posted by parabellum:

Needing to know the location of your spouse at all times- to me, that would be indicative of distrust.

My wife and I are both in our 80's. In our case, it's not "need" to know, it's the ability to find, if one of us needs help. Location sharing is enabled for both of us (only shared with each other), we don't see it constantly, we're not tracking each other, but if one of us needs the other one, we can find the location quickly.

Examples:

• I was mowing the back yard. Took a step backward without looking, tripped, and was having difficulty getting up. Apple Watch notified my wife (she is on my Emergency Contact list) and she came right to me to render assistance.
  
  
• Another: She was meeting me at a place where she had not been before. When she was not there on time, I checked her location, saw her heading in the wrong direction, sent a text with directions to get her back on track.

In our case, location sharing is helpful, not intrusive.

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Originally posted by parabellum:

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Originally posted by Fly-Sig:
It smacks of secrecy to me, and that is a trust destroyer.

Why does it even have to be a question?

What if the question never comes up? What if neither person wants to share their location, but not because they have something to hide?

The question has never come up between me and my wife, and I would not ask her to share her location, nor would I be inclined to share mine, with anyone.

Needing to know the location of your spouse at all times- to me, that would be indicative of distrust.

After all, man and wife are still individuals, no matter how close.

The only exception would be if danger was about; if she and/or I had received credible threats of bodily harm.

Aside from that, why would I need to know where she is at all times? If you want to talk about things which can destroy trust, being controlling will do it.

You're arguing the flip side of the coin, where one spouse is either abusive or paranoid. Tracking one's spouse all the time, needing to know where they are at every moment, is unhealthy and abusive.

I'm arguing the other side. On what basis would I refuse to allow my wife to be able to see my location if she wanted to know? I can't come up with any polite reason. Hiding my location implies there is something to keep secret or that I just don't give a crap about her reasoning.

Privacy is what we want in the bathroom. Our spouse knows what happens there but doesn't need to witness it. Refusing to let my spouse know my location is not privacy, it is either hiding something she should know about or it is callous dismissal of a legitimate request.

I do come from the point of view of my ex having gone off the reservation, so I am aware of hiding behaviors proving out to be signs of something being hidden.

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Originally posted by Fly-Sig:
You're arguing the flip side of the coin, where one spouse is either abusive or paranoid. Tracking one's spouse all the time, needing to know where they are at every moment, is unhealthy and abusive.

Not really. There is no "side" to this:

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Why does it even have to be a question?

What if the question never comes up? What if neither person wants to share their location, but not because they have something to hide?

The issue has never come up between me and my wife, and never will. I don't want to be tracked by anyone, and having known my wife for more than three decades, I can tell you that neither does she, without even having to ask.

This functionality exists but neither she nor I have any use for it, so, neither of us care about it in the slightest.

Para, I see it as a spectrum if one or both spouses desire to have tracking. At one end is paranoia or abuse, where the person is restricting the other person. At the other end is a person wishing to hide something significant from their spouse, such as undesirable behavior (cheating, engaging in an addiction, etc).

For a large portion of us who are not at either extreme, we find a utility in having it. Or, as in your case, there is no utility in having it.

That's right. I see no utility in it. If I want to know where my wife is, I'll call or text her, and she will do the same with me.

Short of security concerns I mentioned earlier, or parents keeping track of their minors, this is superfluous.

Yes, my two adult daughters can see my location. I am grateful for this technology.