We are slowly replacing the god-awful, heavy and old fashioned curtains around our house and I'm finding that my wife seems to have a completely opposite concept of privacy than I do and it's caused some fights.

I really get the impression that if she really had her way, we'd have ZERO curtains on the windows in this house. None at all. What she wants to put up are partial, very light/sheer curtains. On some of the windows, like one of them in the DR, there is no curtain at all.

Me, on the other hand? I like my privacy. I don't want people on the other side of the street being able to see directly into my living room or dining room when we are in there. I'm always closing curtains and she's always opening them. The idea that we are basically on display for the world through the large sets of windows in the LR and DR doesn't seem to faze her in any way.

I don't know how to go about trying to meet her halfway, she seems to have this notion that it's her way or the highway on decorating this house.

Yes. My wife says No.

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Compromise is the best way for a life long relationship.

Let her hang the sheer curtains, while you paint the windows!

Only one?

You mean like whether or not it is too warm in the house and then, too cold?

Yeah. On pretty much everything.

Pretty much everything but it sounds to me like your wife likes light. I do too. Have you considered blinds? They have some very nice fabric blinds that can be tilted such that light is allowed in but there’s no ability to actually see in.
Or “top down” blinds- so you keep them up high enough that no one can peek in the windows, but the top quarter of the window is open for light to filter in.

Agreee, same philosophy. Backyard windows I have shades that allow light in. Day time I can see out but you cannot see in. Very handy if you have workers or contractors in the back. Front, street facing, I have blackout shades, day or night you can’t see in. You want light? Here is an idea, open the fucking shade, curtain, or blind.

I’d use some reality to change the thinking. Want to get robbed? Want some thugs driving by and seeing an easy mark? How about a UPS/FedEX driver with criminal friends using said driver for intel? Out of sight, out of mind.

Here's some ----small---- insight into your problem/understanding. There will be a lot more for your intellectual amusement I dare say. I'd like to say it change. But I went and married a left handed Siren that's always right!! And after 46 yrs I'm about to know when and how much to open my mouth if I want....Peace. Cause like the old saying "When Moma's happy so is everyone else!"

Quite few things actually. We don’t fight about them, or anything else. Years ago, when she first started working for my companies, we argued about whether she was sleeping with the boss, or I was. Before that, and since, we don’t fight about anything.

She believes in reincarnation. I don’t, and I didn’t last time either.

Too many things to count.
Its good, it gives us things to discuss.

Yes. Sometimes I give in. Sometimes I don’t, especially when she prefers something for cosmetic reasons. I’ve learned now to hold my ground for function over cosmetics.

We are on the opposite sides of about every issue.

Except::

guns (you can never have enough), the military, Law Enforcement, traveling and the Baltimore Orioles.

If you will get your windows tinted you'll solve your problem.

"where do you want to eat?"

That always starts shit.

She puts ketchup on hot dogs, corn dogs, and even onion rings!

There are only a few things we disagree; what constitutes hot and cold house temps and her fondness for The Hallmark Channel (which I loathe).

Otherwise, we are on the same page for most everything else, including money, politics, guns, raising our son, home decoration, etc.

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Originally posted by oddball:
There are only a few things we disagree; what constitutes hot and cold house temps and her fondness for The Hallmark Channel (which I loathe).

Otherwise, we are on the same page for most everything else, including money, politics, guns, raising our son, home decoration, etc.

This sounds a lot like my wife and I. The things we disagree on are silly minutiae. The big things we are of the same mind.

Mines a lib so we rarely agree on anything even vaguely political /current events. On the bright side her family is from the Dakotas so they LOVE me.

My wife actually likes people