Wife calls it "pop" and doesn't drink it, I call it "soda" and drink too much of it.

She puts her groceries in a "sack", I put them in a "bag."

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Originally posted by PASig:
We are slowly replacing the god-awful, heavy and old fashioned curtains around our house and I'm finding that my wife seems to have a completely opposite concept of privacy than I do and it's caused some fights.

I really get the impression that if she really had her way, we'd have ZERO curtains on the windows in this house. None at all. What she wants to put up are partial, very light/sheer curtains. On some of the windows, like one of them in the DR, there is no curtain at all.

Me, on the other hand? I like my privacy. I don't want people on the other side of the street being able to see directly into my living room or dining room when we are in there. I'm always closing curtains and she's always opening them. The idea that we are basically on display for the world through the large sets of windows in the LR and DR doesn't seem to faze her in any way.

I don't know how to go about trying to meet her halfway, she seems to have this notion that it's her way or the highway on decorating this house.

Walk around naked......that should cure it

After 33 years together, I would say we are good at compromising. I can't remember the last time we had an argument, which is a very good thing.

Yeah, life.

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Originally posted by FrankMoses:
Yeah, life.

I had three or four paragraphs typed out to go with this, but I scratched all that. Just suffice it to say I feel your pain, and keep on fighting the good fight every day. You are not the only one.

Arrange the lighting in the room to put bright light on the sheers at night--this will not only give good light in the room (by reflection) but will essentially make the sheers opaque from the outside. During the daytime, when the lights are not on, the sheers are almost transparent and let in the outside light.

flashguy

I gotta say that I am in the same situation, fortunately. Despite our alignment on many issues, my wife and I are very different though, Im more technical and she is artistic and creative, which is a nice mix.

My former spouse and I were at odds over virtually everything, which we were never able to reconcile or to 'agree to disagree' on, hence the 'former' part.

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Originally posted by oddball:
There are only a few things we disagree; what constitutes hot and cold house temps and her fondness for The Hallmark Channel (which I loathe).

Otherwise, we are on the same page for most everything else, including money, politics, guns, raising our son, home decoration, etc.

We vehemently disagree on lighting also, I have sensitive eyes and sometimes have to get a hat to sit in the living room at night due to glare of lights she insists on having on. She has poor night vision and I have good night vision.


On a recent vacation and wedding attendance in Colorado, another discrepancy appeared. I maintain when arriving at an impending time crunch destination, the passenger be ready to get out of the car. She maintains that in order for her to enjoy the event we are getting later and later for, she must cross things off her list, such as completing non urgent text messages to her mother.

I think I'm required to depart the car when she's ready and not go ahead and never impart any pressure or attitude about hurrying the process. But I probably got it wrong.

Nothing major thank God. She’s far more kindhearted than I so we often moderate the other. Works out quite well.

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Originally posted by JALLEN:
She believes in reincarnation. I don’t, and I didn’t last time either.

Best post of the day!

Seriously though, do you really want to argue over window coverings?
If there is one thing I have learned in my brief 35 year marriage is to choose your battles carefully.
Of course I live in the country...

I have always felt that we needed to hire a 19 year old live in nanny. My wife has held a decidedly different view. We haven't been able to come to an agreement on this issue for 25years but I keep trying.

Every damn day

The biggest thing we disagree on is the temperature in the house and our idea of "on time."

Married 38 years, together 40 here. With that said, we know each other as well as you could expect. We don't fight. Ever. Oh, we disagree at times for sure proving that we aren't drones, but we also know what battles we can win and which ones we won't so we don't cross a line that could lead to an argument. As an example, she hates Trump and I'm a fan, so there's that. We won't try to change the others mind so we just don't talk about it. She's the boss of the household and I'm the boss of everything else. It just works.

Jim

: As an addendum, I take care of all financial decisions and that's the way she wants it. It saves a whole lot of potential problems.

I believe that I need a Dan Wesson V-Bob in 45 ACP and she has the completely opposite opinion.
Rod

Life.

0-0

of course, it did not matter 35 years ago , and it does not matter now

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Originally posted by FrankMoses:
Yeah, life.

Agree and just figure out what battles are worth fighting. Took me a while for that.

People. She loves being involved in pretty much everything. I hate having organized social events on my schedule in my "free" time off of work. I'd much rather take the kids out fishing or shooting, be free to hang out with a buddy who calls up, or have a quiet night at home, but she is constantly planning stuff, and then ends up stressing about getting it all done. I'm gradually working this out of her...13 years in, and there's been marginal progress .

Also, there's the great ongoing fuel debate. I swear she allergic to putting gas in the car. I understand the difficulty of shopping with kids (hauling them all in and out of the car), but with pay at the pump, this is a non-issue. I don't mind doing it, but I don't drive her car much...usually only when we're going to one of her planned social events. I'll leave the house with enough time to get there (usually not any extra, because I'm not interested in being early), and then find out the gas needle is under 1/8 of a tank and we have to go find gas. IMO it makes more sense to fuel up at your convenience when you still have half a tank or so, rather than waiting until you NEED gas and have to put everything else on hold to get it.

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Originally posted by stickman428:
Yes, she hates motorcycles, which happen to be one of my favorite things on the planet. Almost was a dealbreaker but love won. I don’t think she will ever understand it but she tolerates my addiction.

I had that battle.
I said, well I have my Ducati, you have your sewing machines....

That ended that.