UPDATE in OP (05SEP2018) As I sit here in my mom's hospital room watching her die...

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September 03, 2018, 08:20 AM

FiveFiveSixFan

UPDATE in OP (05SEP2018) As I sit here in my mom's hospital room watching her die...

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. All the best to you and your family.

September 03, 2018, 09:11 AM

4x5

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope your mom is comfortable and you feel a measure of peace.

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September 03, 2018, 09:29 AM

astraightshooter

I, like other members here, went through this with a parent. My mother had a prepared "final directives" document, that included "no extraordinary measures" were to be taken in her health care. Two years ago my mother was admitted to a hospice, she passed away peacefully less than a week later. She was a few months shy of 97.

Try to take comfort in understanding that your mother's wishes are being followed, and that she loves you.

September 03, 2018, 09:33 AM

DoubleAdobe

Prayers being said for you, your Mom and other hurting people.
I as well had a similar thing with my Mom and then a few years later my Dad, so I know how painful this is.
As an aside, one of the things my Dad told me before it got real, real bad, was; Getting old ain't for sissies.
True that.
I am so sorry.

September 03, 2018, 10:59 AM

sjtill

Censored, I’m sorry you are having to go through this without another family member with you at this sad and difficult time. Your mom is blessed to have you there with her, in a setting where her comfort can be attended to, and her final wishes followed.
You are a good son. God bless you.

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September 03, 2018, 11:14 AM

Modern Day Savage

Caring for a loved one, and later losing them, is one of the most humbling and emotional experiences a person can go through. This difficult journey can't be fully described and must be experienced.

Censored, I pray for your mother, for you, and for your family. I pray that your mother is as comfortable as possible.

We are there for them, in many cases, as they were there for us. Be there for your mother as you are able, but find moments to rest and renew your strength for the preparations and events that may be required in the days ahead

September 03, 2018, 11:17 AM

chellim1

quote:
Originally posted by sjtill:
Censored, I’m sorry you are having to go through this without another family member with you at this sad and difficult time. Your mom is blessed to have you there with her, in a setting where her comfort can be attended to, and her final wishes followed.
You are a good son. God bless you.

Pretty much all I would've said but SJtill said it better.
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September 03, 2018, 12:46 PM

jimmy123x

I'm sorry to hear that, hang in there and comfort her as best you can. I did the same for my dad when he was in ICU for 3 months.

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September 03, 2018, 12:51 PM

gearhounds

quote:
Originally posted by sigmoid:
Never really understood why at eulogies, we are told how wonderful somebody WAS
Tell them now...

Eulogies are not for the deceased; they are for the survivors. And yes I agree, don't wait.

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September 03, 2018, 02:27 PM

nhtagmember

sorry to hear you are going through this

I wish you and your mother peace

you're doing the right thing, the good thing, the best thing

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September 03, 2018, 02:46 PM

flashguy

My condolences and prayers. I went through somewhat similar conditions with my mom some years ago and understand a little of what you are experiencing. It is not for the faint of heart.

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September 03, 2018, 03:04 PM

45_Auto

So sorry to hear of this tragic year. You, are a great person to support her until the end, it's difficult, but necessary for your Mom. May she go in peace, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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September 03, 2018, 03:07 PM

Bytes

I was with my father for sixteen hours prior to his death. I was terrible experience but I was really glad I was there. Best wishes for you.

September 03, 2018, 03:08 PM

mikeyspizza

Sorry you are going through this. I went through a similar thing except sister & her husband were basically stealing from her.