I've known two women who have this propensity and I'm not sure what to make of it if anything. Wife and I went out to eat last night and we ran into a couple with whom we are acquainted with but not necessarily friends. They asked us to join them at their table which we did. I sat with my wife to my right and the other guys wife to my left. Every time she would talk to either the wife or I she would place her hand on my left arm and leave it there the entire time she talked and would then remove it. When she would talk to her husband no touchy. It got to be a little weird but her husband didn't seem to notice or care and I wasn't getting the stink eye from my wife and this lady is damn attractive.

Then a guy who we didn't know but they did came up to the table and stood between me and this other lady and had a short hey how are you guys doing conversation. When she talked to him no touchy. Well this went on for about a hour. Talk, touch. When we left on the drive home I asked the wife what's up with that and why do some women do that. Wife said she didn't know but she noticed it. I left it at that and thought best not to pursue it any further.

So is this some subliminal come on that women will do or nothing to read into it?

Go look in the mirror and ask yourself: "Do women want to touch me?"

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Originally posted by parabellum:
Go look in the mirror and ask yourself: "Do women want to touch me?"

Did that and I came up with the only logical conclusion. Some girls do and some girls don't.

Boy George comes to mind.

It is a personality trait similar to talking with one's hands. Unless it is the upper thigh it is not sexual.

What about if they tongue your ears with a light, fluttering motion?

“Would you touch me?, I’d touch me”

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What about if they tongue your ears with a light, fluttering motion

^^^^^^^^^
That is a keeper. Dated a girl like that.

Experience says you could have her if you play your cards right.

If it's worth it is another matter entirely.

I've noticed that as well, and have seen it often enough to know it is a personality trait for the woman, and mostly involves touching the arm when the people are seated. But it also takes other forms. At Thanksgiving a couple years ago my wife invited a divorced friend. She frequently stood next to me, and whenever we spoke she touched my back, which I found very annoying.

It’s a personality trait. I’m occasionally touchy with men I’m comfortable with, or if I’m making a point for emphasis, but otherwise I’m completely hands off. My sis, otoh, very touchy. We are both married, with no ulterior motives.

If your wife wasn’t concerned, then I wouldn’t be. Just arrange not to sit by her at next mtg if it seems weird to you (I’ve done that with guys that were too “touchy” with me, just asked my spouse to sit on that side).
Maybe she needs extra validation or something. Like I said, if your wife’s feelers didn’t go up, I think you’re all good.

I’ve known a number of women like that in the South. Not so many up North though.

It's just a method for the talker to keep the target's attention.

Worked, didn't it?

Many years ago, a girl I worked in the lab with was like this. She was extremely friendly with everybody. Men, women, it didn't matter. She touched them all when she talked with them. Not the boss, of course.

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What about if they tongue your ears with a light, fluttering motion?

Worst audiology appointment ever.

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Originally posted by 12131:
Many years ago, a girl I worked in the lab with was like this. She was extremely friendly with everybody. Men, women, it didn't matter. She touched them all when she talked with them. Not the boss, of course.

The touching when they talk or fluttery tongue in the ear..?

It can be cultural, it can also be a nervous thing/a result of people feeling a need for contact

My wife is 100% Italian she talks with her hands. She also touches others when she talks. I read her this post and asked her why do you touch others when you talk to them. She wasn’t aware she did that. So my thoughts are cultural and not to read anything into it.

I don’t like people touching me.

When I was a cop we were outside one evening just after roll call and Sgt #1 had us circle up for something he forgot to pass on. Some lunatic (he really was crazy) comes walking up and begins walking around the circle touching everyone wishing them a happy holidays….before he got to me, I turned and said “don’t touch me” nothing loud or menacing….dude lost his shit starts yelling-runs over to the other #2 Sgt who was black (crazy dude was black too) and complains.

Now Sgt #2 comes over and starts asking questions..before he could finish his sentence I said, “ I don’t let anyone touch me sarge, if you came up behind me and put your hand on me I’d most likely break your wrist, I don’t like to be touched, ask anyone.” Guy next to me said-yeah and don’t lean on his car either, everyone busted out laughing. But it’s an officer safety issue. It’s obviously different if your are doing a school presentation and the kiddos want to hug you.

But any one who feels like they can or need to put their hand on me would wind up hearing “what the fuck is wrong with you”

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Originally posted by 12131:
Many years ago, a girl I worked in the lab with was like this. She was extremely friendly with everybody. Men, women, it didn't matter. She touched them all when she talked with them. Not the boss, of course.

Come on Q, fess up okay ?