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Working on divorce number 3
December 29, 2022, 09:11 PM
parabellumWorking on divorce number 3
I refuse to make a contribution to the institution of dissolution.
I got married, gonna stay married.
December 29, 2022, 09:24 PM
KevinCWquote:
Originally posted by flashguy:
I know someone who has been married 5 times and divorced 4 times. Current marriage is lasting.
flashguy
I think he would have been better off if every five to ten years he just found a woman he hated and gave her half his stuff....
Strive to live your life so when you wake up in the morning and your feet hit the floor, the devil says "Oh crap, he's up." December 30, 2022, 07:33 AM
Flash-LBquote:
Originally posted by flashguy:
I know someone who has been married 5 times and divorced 4 times. Current marriage is lasting.
flashguy
Years ago I worked with a woman who had been married and divorced 6 times and she was under 40.
That told me a lot about her, primarily that she married the same guy 6 times. She protested at first and said it was 6 different guys, but then she got my drift and said yes, they were all essentially the same kind of guy.
December 30, 2022, 07:42 AM
PGTI'm on my first, my wife's third marriage. We've been together for 21yrs now, so, we figured something out.
My parents were big fans of the Lebanese poet Kahlil Gibran when we were growing up and that made an impression on me as a kid. My wife and I had my parents read this at our wedding and I do believe it has a lot to do with how we've made this work.
We give each other a lot of space to be ourselves.
quote:
On Marriage
BY KAHLIL GIBRAN
Then Almitra spoke again and said, And
what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you
shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white
wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the
silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance
between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond
of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from
one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat
not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each
other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain
your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near
together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow
not in each other’s shadow.
December 30, 2022, 07:52 AM
sigfreundquote:
Originally posted by PGT:
We give each other a lot of space to be ourselves.
That has been, I believe, the obvious reason for my 40 years with the one and only.
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SIGnifiedCongratulations to those who got it right the first time. Seriously.
There are legitimate reasons for separation that are far beyond “space”, endurance, love and reciprocity.
I wouldn’t say I chose “poorly”; because I was blessed with probably one of the best mothers for my children that I (and the kids) could ever wish for.
Life sometimes only gives you really poor options and you have to sort it out for you and those you love, and then deal w the consequences.
Without my prior marriage, I probably wouldn’t have children and would never know the joy that that brings. It is the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done, and I’ve done a lot.
I don’t wish divorce on anyone, especially involving children, which is a huge part of the calculus.
We are human, which means we are imperfect. I strive to do better.
"Pacifism is a shifty doctrine under which a man accepts the benefits of the social group without being willing to pay - and claims a halo for his dishonesty." ~Robert A. Heinlein December 30, 2022, 11:18 AM
bendableJohnny Carson called,
Hw Says that fourth time is a charm.
Safety, Situational Awareness and proficiency.
Neck Ties, Hats and ammo brass, Never ,ever touch'em w/o asking first
December 30, 2022, 11:19 AM
ZSMICHAEL^^^^^^^^^^^^
What's his number?
December 30, 2022, 02:05 PM
sourdough44Definitely
Yes there are people with mental problems and such that relationships will never work
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Yep, The kids are off, I’m next.
December 30, 2022, 04:07 PM
Angus the KidA family member of mine has been married and divorced 4 times.
He likes to say, "Every few years, I buy a bitch a house."
"Meet the new boss, same as the old boss" December 30, 2022, 04:41 PM
ScreamingCockatooA co worker got a text last Thursday from his wife.
"I've filed for divorce".
No other explanation. Just that text. right before Christmas. Absolutely blind sided him.
He looks like he got the wind knocked out of his sails.
He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster.
December 30, 2022, 06:22 PM
Todd HuffmanI'm on number three, been together nearly 20 years and married 17. I tell her this is either third times the charm, or three strikes and you're out. Either way, if this don't last I'm gonna buy me a dog to talk to and a real understanding sheep.
Here's to the sunny slopes of long ago. December 30, 2022, 06:25 PM
bendablequote:
Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL:
^^^^^^^^^^^^
What's his number?
I think it was four
Safety, Situational Awareness and proficiency.
Neck Ties, Hats and ammo brass, Never ,ever touch'em w/o asking first
December 30, 2022, 06:32 PM
Gustoferquote:
Originally posted by Todd Huffman:
...and a real understanding sheep.
"I love ewe".
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"Great danger lies in the notion that we can reason with evil." Doug Patton.
December 30, 2022, 06:32 PM
ZSMICHAELquote:
quote:
Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL:
^^^^^^^^^^^^
What's his number?
I think it was four
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It has been busy.
December 31, 2022, 01:24 PM
m1009I feel sad that so many people have unhappy marriages. And that there are so many people causing issues for whatever reason. I’m grateful that I can say I was able to find a great man to be with and still going strong after 35 years. We’ve always tried to be fair and honest with each other, and never say anything that would be harmful to the other no matter the argument. I just hope that all those who have to deal with divorces can find happiness and peace. If you do re marry, that it will be the right one next time, and ‘happily ever after’.
December 31, 2022, 02:18 PM
9mmepiphanyquote:
Originally posted by m1009:
We’ve always tried to be fair and honest with each other
Fair isn't too hard, but honest is an acquired skill, because being honest risks disclosing what can hurt us
quote:
... and never say anything that would be harmful to the other no matter the argument.
Another acquired skill...learning that "winning" a battle isn't important in the bigger picture and doesn't make one "lessor"
No, Daoism isn't a religion
December 31, 2022, 02:25 PM
SIGnifiedquote:
And anytime you feel the pain, hey Jude, refrain,
Don't carry the world upon your shoulders.
For well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool
By making his world a little colder.
~ John Lennon / Paul McCartney
"Pacifism is a shifty doctrine under which a man accepts the benefits of the social group without being willing to pay - and claims a halo for his dishonesty." ~Robert A. Heinlein December 31, 2022, 02:35 PM
Gustoferquote:
Originally posted by ScreamingCockatoo:
A co worker got a text last Thursday from his wife.
"I've filed for divorce".
No other explanation. Just that text. right before Christmas. Absolutely blind sided him.
This seems a common tactic and serves as a reason the marriage didn't work to begin with IMO. Only a person rotten to the core would pull a stunt like this.
It is also fairly common for the men to be completely surprised by this when you know that the woman has been planning this for months...if not longer. Perhaps a little communication, starting far earlier in the relationship, would have prevented the divorce to begin with.
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"Great danger lies in the notion that we can reason with evil." Doug Patton.