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Originally posted by P220 Smudge:


This last year has involved a lot of serious life changes for me, and that's completely leaving aside the covid nonsense. Things involving perspective, health, and time, or what's left of it. I haven't gone into it here on SF, but it's been a really, really heavy twelve months or so. I've basically had to just surrender to all of it, because anything short of that, and it becomes a crushing burden almost instantly. I feel like I've had serenity thrust upon me, as bizarre as that might sound to some, but I feel like you know what I'm talking about. My boss asked me the other day how I was doing with it all, and I told him "I get up every day, and I go to work, and I'm grateful." You said it better, though.

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Originally posted by Beancooker: .........

You’re not that far from me. I’m sure I will end up in your neck of the woods at some point this spring/summer going off road. Maybe we can grab some lunch?

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Originally posted by TRIO:
I'll keep your daughter & grandson in my thoughts and prayers. Even though she is doing an awesome with her son, my hope is for endurance for the long term.

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Originally posted by birddog1:
Fascinating read, thank you for sharing. I mean it when I say you helped me with something I was struggling with today. You’ve helped me realize it will be ok. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Originally posted by sjtill:
Sigolicious, You've had enough events, adventures, misadventures, and and hard knocks for several lifetimes.
It reminds me very much of J.D. Vance's Hillbilly Elegy, except your story is even more extreme, and even more an example of the importance of resilience.

Thank you for sharing it with us; I'm going to be mulling that over and seeing how [b]what you have learned[/] might be adapted in a useful way for our family. I consider myself blessed, but my wife and I have had our own share of tragedies and pain that can not be forgotten. Your message is important for all of us.

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Originally posted by flashguy:
Are you saying that your were actually named Sigolicious? I am so proud that you managed to keep it all together so well. Congratulations!

flashguy

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Originally posted by Sigolicious:
Thank you all for taking the time to read. I appreciate all of you here at sigforum. I've learned a lot from this place.

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Originally posted by P220 Smudge:


This last year has involved a lot of serious life changes for me, and that's completely leaving aside the covid nonsense. Things involving perspective, health, and time, or what's left of it. I haven't gone into it here on SF, but it's been a really, really heavy twelve months or so. I've basically had to just surrender to all of it, because anything short of that, and it becomes a crushing burden almost instantly. I feel like I've had serenity thrust upon me, as bizarre as that might sound to some, but I feel like you know what I'm talking about. My boss asked me the other day how I was doing with it all, and I told him "I get up every day, and I go to work, and I'm grateful." You said it better, though.

I can wholeheartedly embrace both surrendering to that witch is out of my control and having serenity thrust upon me. After my son passed, I let go of a lot of things. It took me a while to sort out how I was coping and it really felt like the old variety show where the fella has plates spinning on sticks. Those spinning plates are the things in life I thought were priorities, and I have to keep them plates a spinnin. Well, I started letting some plates crash, low and behold the repercussions were not nearly as much to deal with as I thought. And now I had more time and energy for the parts of life that really are important. I got your back, you've got your back, don't quit!

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Originally posted by Beancooker: .........

You’re not that far from me. I’m sure I will end up in your neck of the woods at some point this spring/summer going off road. Maybe we can grab some lunch?

If there is any ammo left in spring, we should do an AZ SigForum get together. Hell, don't even need ammo, just good people and good times.

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Originally posted by TRIO:
I'll keep your daughter & grandson in my thoughts and prayers. Even though she is doing an awesome with her son, my hope is for endurance for the long term.

I have two way to look at this. I hope she doesn't have to keep up because the cancer goes away, or..........

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Originally posted by birddog1:
Fascinating read, thank you for sharing. I mean it when I say you helped me with something I was struggling with today. You’ve helped me realize it will be ok. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

You are welcome. Keep it going, don't quit. You've got this.

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Originally posted by sjtill:
Sigolicious, You've had enough events, adventures, misadventures, and and hard knocks for several lifetimes.
It reminds me very much of J.D. Vance's Hillbilly Elegy, except your story is even more extreme, and even more an example of the importance of resilience.

Thank you for sharing it with us; I'm going to be mulling that over and seeing how [b]what you have learned[/] might be adapted in a useful way for our family. I consider myself blessed, but my wife and I have had our own share of tragedies and pain that can not be forgotten. Your message is important for all of us.

You have hit on a key part of not quitting. I've learned so much. It took a few more years than I may have liked, but I have learned each time more about how life works. This just made it easier the next time around.

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Originally posted by flashguy:
Are you saying that your were actually named Sigolicious? I am so proud that you managed to keep it all together so well. Congratulations!

flashguy

Shush, I'll have some explaining to do if my wife finds out that's not my given name.

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Originally posted by flashguy:
Well some here have called you "David" (that's my name, too)--is that accurate?

flashguy