Gravely disappointed more than angry. Majority of people could disappear tomorrow and I would be fine with it.

Sal Glessar is on Spyderco a lot and reminds people to “leave shiny footprints”. I think that’s nonsense. I choose instead to follow the Wheaton rule of “don’t be a dick.”

I learned that there are two types of people: kind and nice.

In New York, I think most people will tell you in colorful language that you’re doing something stupid/harmful and make fun of you for it but will also try to help you fix it. “You dumb f——, what is wrong with you?! Were you dropped on your head?! *shows/tells you the proper way*”

As an example, we had an event that required a good grasp of courtesy and protocol.. and no idea (as civilian attorneys) what we should do. An O-6 serving as chief of staff for an event helped. My recollection of the conversation was along the lines of: “Gentlemen, I will do my best to help you plan in advance. Should that fail, I will resort to time honored traditions of public shaming and humiliation until we all figure out out.” We chuckled, screwed up, and were smited (and then corrected) so we didn’t screw up at the event. He was kind, but hardly nice about it.


These people are kind. They give you an unfiltered view of their world in the hopes that somehow you’ll be less stupid part of it.

Other people are nice. I found that California has lots of examples. I could be struggling with a heavy object and have great moral support like “You got this! You can do it.” These people will do nothing to help me.

Nice people are tolerable and make for pleasant conversation, but don’t do too terribly much to help you when you have a problem.

As I get older, I think that I appreciate people who are kind more than people who are just nice.. I suppose that works out, because I have absolutely no doubt that the membership is overwhelmingly curmudgeonly, salty, will talk absolute trash, and still the kindest people around.

As we are all neighbors, perhaps we can all take a page from HRH Akeem Joffer of Zamunda and embrace the spirit of kindness over niceness. Let us each recognize our diversity and love for one other, just as he did when welcomed to Queens.

“Yes, yes! F—— YOU TOO!”

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So while getting older are you impatient, irritable, pissed off, just generally mad at the world. Hold grudge's till hell freezes over

I'm much more mellowed out, thanks to my wife, but "mad at the world" because it's going to hell in a hand basket. How can anyone with a logical thinking mind not be pissed off watching what's been going in the past few years?

I have never threatened to leave the forum, ever and won't.

That was not what that comment was about.

It was about how we got a long, respected each other's opinion's. Agreed to disagree etc. for ever around here.


You are absolutely correct that this thread and the dashcam thread or tied together. I threw you a porkchop when I had a different take on the video. I should have known better. You did not disappoint. I was not butt hurt over your response. Just a bit frustrated that you could not at least acknowledge that a different take exists. Even though you strongly disagreed with it. Again, my mistake.

Para
"SIGforum and me, and if you can't tolerate me, then, you have a problem."

Yep. Thanks Para



I agree Q.

I find my level of patience is relative to how much coffee I've had.
If I've had enough, then I'm more tolerant of the Stupid People in the World.
Most days that means I act like a nice person and let the stuff roll off me like water off a ducks butt.
If I let anyone piss me off then they have won and that ain't happening.

Para was right and, you were wrong ORC. There is no other take on the vids other than your effed up take. Those drivers cant, wont drive among other drivers without anger, feeling butt hurt or next in line. Gotta get some stupid little victory over other operators to feel manly. Wrong to be a dick behind the wheel, wrong with cell phones, booze and drugs, speed, disobeying traffic control lines, signs and lights, wrong for bad road, weather conditions and, sure as fuck out of control blasting away at other drivers with a side arm. The vids posted are black and white. You dont often post stupidity but you did then. Para and others were right and you weren't. Let it go brother. Let it go.

Irritable and impatient as I get older? Maybe. But it seems the older I get, the easier it is to see how badly our society and people have regressed in the past few years and how little tolerance I have of it. The video of the shooting clearly shows that regression. If you need further proof, see the story out of Las Vegas. An idiot on an urban street ran a red signal at 100 MPH and 9 people died.

There’s a giant Hornets nest dangling from the tree, can’t leave it be, got to go poking it with a stick , in some cases a giant stick. As I get older I try to create less crap for myself by not starting things I know or should know aren’t going to end well, or are going to piss people off that can make things harder than they are. Very few exceptions, must be something deeply personal or worth the war.

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
I threw you a porkchop when I had a different take on the video. I should have known better. You did not disappoint. I was not butt hurt over your response. Just a bit frustrated that you could not at least acknowledge that a different take exists. Even though you strongly disagreed with it. Again, my mistake.

Uh huh

This passive-aggressive crap you're laying out will get a member in hot water in a New York minute. You can take this "you did not disappoint" and "my mistake" horse shit and cram it up your ass.

And don't act as if I lack the capacity to change my mind or to see different points of view. You know better than that, unless you have a serious reading comprehension issue. When something is cut-and-dried, I am not going to posture and say "Oh, gee, you know, you might have a point," and I hope for your sake that you can stand your ground firmly when you know your position is the correct one.

If you don't like my style, well, that's just tough shit, partner. If you listen carefully, you can hear in the background the world's smallest violing playing just for you.



Oh, and by the way- you've got a lot of sack to talk about "holding grudges" when you start a thread to rub salve on your sore ass you got from another thread.

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Originally posted by darthfuster:
I have been impatient and irritable most of my life. I just didn't recognize it. In retrospect I've done a considerable amount of damage. Much of that damage is irreversible and that haunts me.I was in my 50's when it occurred to me how selfish I was by nature. That selfishness made me impatient with others.

...

A lot of that applies to me. As a young university student, I probably saw too many "Angry Young Man" plays and movies and folded those attributes into my own personality.

I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now.

My answer to the question posed in the title of this thread as someone who is getting older (“trombones” in a few weeks):

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Originally posted by 12131:
it's going to hell in a hand basket

I would not say it’s “going,” but rather that a large percent has gone there. And because the basket has a large hole in the bottom, nothing is going to be picked up and brought back out—at least not in what’s left of my lifetime. If things were merely going there, then there would be reason for me to be concerned, angry, and yet still somewhat hopeful. As it is, though, I simply no longer care about once-important things I have no influence over and that eliminates a lot of stress that I would have felt at one time.

And yes, I am well aware of the criticisms of my criticisms of the state of affairs:

“Buck up, buttercup.” We all have ways of coping. Bucking up is how some people cope; this is mine.

“You think this is bad? Think of what other people have and had to contend with.” I actually have a good idea of what other people had and have to contend with because I know far more about countless subjects than the majority and I pay attention to what goes on around me. But conditions are relative and even though the hordes (ancient or more recent) aren’t actually down the street bent on killing me and raping and enslaving all the women I care for, doesn’t mean I can’t mourn for what once was.

“If you just give up rather than continuing the fight, then ‘they’ win.” Yup, ‘they’ already have. The glass isn’t half full or half empty, it’s lying crushed underfoot on the floor.

“How can you have such a pessimistic attitude?” As a result of paying attention and having the knowledge and intelligence to understand what it all means. And just as a non-swearing person feels better for swearing when he hits his thumb with a hammer, I feel better for expressing something that I usually keep to myself.

“You say you don’t care, but you post about not caring.” Yes, that too. See one up. ↑

“What if you’re wrong?” I’m not, but if I am, my attitude toward it all will have no effect on anyone else.

“Things always get better.” If I had a dime for every failed Pollyanna prediction I’ve read here for the past 20 years that just quietly faded into oblivion and was never mentioned again, I could pay for breakfast at my favorite restaurant.

“Hey, man: Stop with the negative waves.” Okay, I will. For now.

It's hard for me to not point out the ppls here that do not seen to know they ARE as the op described ...

Mad with power of the keyboard.
Democrat crooked even. Sociopath narcissistic, can and will make it that YOU are the problem.

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Originally posted by Haveme1or2:
It's hard for me to not point out the ppls here that do not seen to know they ARE as the op described ...

Mad with power of the keyboard.
Democrat crooked even. Sociopath narcissistic, can and will make it that YOU are the problem.

You don't know the first fucking thing about what it's like to run a place like this, day in, day out, for years on end.

Every time I see your posts, it always seems to be some kind of bullshit.

https://sigforum.com/eve/forum...935/m/1950036264/p/1

https://sigforum.com/eve/forum...070007064#5070007064

https://sigforum.com/eve/forum...170060384#1170060384

https://sigforum.com/eve/forum...980005264#9980005264

Get the fuck out of my forum. Let me know if you have any trouble finding the door. I don't want to see you in here again.

Happy now?

quote:

Originally posted by old rugged cross:
I threw you a porkchop when I had a different take on the video.

One thing I have learned is it's usually best to just own up to it and take your licks when you've stepped on your dick

quote:

Originally posted by 12131:
I'm much more mellowed out, thanks to my wife, but "mad at the world" because it's going to hell in a hand basket. How can anyone with a logical thinking mind not be pissed off watching what's been going in the past few years?

I know just what you mean, Q. I sometimes find myself struggling to remain on an even keel, lately.

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Originally posted by parabellum:

quote:

Originally posted by Haveme1or2:
It's hard for me to not point out the ppls here that do not seen to know they ARE as the op described ...

Mad with power of the keyboard.
Democrat crooked even. Sociopath narcissistic, can and will make it that YOU are the problem.

You don't know the first fucking thing about what it's like to run a place like this, day in, day out, for years on end.

Every time I see your posts, it always seems to be some kind of bullshit.

Get the fuck out of my forum. Let me know if you have any trouble finding the door. I don't want to see you in here again.

Happy now?

Wow, how'd you get to a point where you'd think this was about you ? I didn't have you in mind... But now that you've filled the role to a tee... How come you can't see that YOU are ? Strange,....

Get

Out

You ain't slick, slick. I've got your number, and have had it for a long time.

Leave

Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes.

Jordan Peterson says that disagreeable people make the World go round. Because agreeable people can never make a decision.

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Originally posted by SIGnified:
Jordan Peterson says that disagreeable people make the World go round. Because agreeable people can never make a decision.

Yes, but with age ideally comes experience and wisdom.

The experience to disagree when really necessary but also the wisdom to respect the house we are in and the owner's wishes.

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Originally posted by Jimmo952:

quote:

Originally posted by SIGnified:
Jordan Peterson says that disagreeable people make the World go round. Because agreeable people can never make a decision.

Yes, but with age ideally comes experience and wisdom.

The experience to disagree when really necessary but also the wisdom to respect the house we are in and the owner's wishes.

We might be better served if you actually watch the video, so that we’re on the same page … Because I don’t think we are at the moment.

https://youtu.be/dMlZNKjQpMo