Update on my mom (dementia/fall/etc.)

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December 27, 2017, 08:10 PM

sig229-SAS

I'm sorry for your loss but I fully understand the 'happy' comment. I lost my wife to dementia and I was equally happy that her suffering was over.

Prayers sent for you and the family.

December 27, 2017, 08:15 PM

Rey HRH

Wow. That took my breath away when I got to the part about your mom passing.

I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences.

"It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual." Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, 1946.

December 27, 2017, 08:43 PM

4MUL8R

My sympathies, Allen. Like you, I have two parents who are not doing well. May God strengthen you today and every day as you enter a new life stage.

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December 27, 2017, 08:48 PM

Sailor1911

My condolences, sad to hear that. But, in the grand scheme of things, she's probably in a better place to be. God Bless Her Soul.

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December 27, 2017, 09:03 PM

dsmack

Allen ~ I am sorry that you have lost your mother like this. Sigmonkey said it best I think on the previous page.
Everyone in your family has avoided a terrible and debilitating time, and your Mother is in a better place, having avoided the protracted pain and uncertainty of the dementia.

I am watching it happen every day for my former wife, and I will admit that I would prefer for her a quicker and less painful passing than what she is facing, perhaps for years.

I hope that you and your family can find closure now, and begin the healing process and return to a more normal life together.

Don

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December 27, 2017, 09:31 PM

Bisleyblackhawk

You have my condolences and prayers at your mom's passing...my dad left us last year after a fall from which he would never recover...it's never easy losing a loved one even when you know in your heart they will never be as they once were.

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December 27, 2017, 10:13 PM

bgouker

My condolences. My dad went the same way and it was for the best. He didn't know me or where we was when he fell. Prayers sent.

December 27, 2017, 10:18 PM

83v45magna

Allen, I am truly saddened to hear of your loss.

I think I know how you must feel. I lost my mother to Alzheimer's around 2006 but she actually passed in 2011. It wasn't all negative. My mom's condition resulted in a strengthening of the bond between myself and my brothers, and it reinvigorated my religious faith. That said, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

As Sigmonkey said, may her memory always be for a blessing.

December 28, 2017, 11:21 AM

sjtill

Allen, please accept my condolences for your loss. Knowing that it is a blessing that she did not have a protracted period of dementia doesn't take away that feeling of loss, as our family knows well.

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December 28, 2017, 11:26 AM

PeterGV

I'm very sorry for your loss. It's hard to say that losing somebody is "better" than a long period of dementia... but I really do think it's probably more merciful (my mom is in a nursing home with multiple forms of dementia).

May the memory of your mom be eternal.