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| quote: 15 glorious years (out of 45 married). I kid. I kid.
I make the same joke. The truth is, if you've been married as long as you or I have, there have been some hard times, maybe some terrible losses, and most all of us carry around a lot of pain. But if you've gone through that together with your spouse, it's like you're welded together after that. None of the usual stupid stuff that breaks up marriages comes close to what you've been through.
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| Posts: 19117 | Location: One hop from Paradise | Registered: July 27, 2004 |  
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| I'm guessing I'll be in the minority here, though only due to my Job circumstances/hours. I work all kinds of crazy shifts - days, evenings, nights, weekends, holidays. The ER is a 24/7/365 business. So there will be times that I crawl into bed just before she gets up, and leave before she gets home. I have (rarely) gone an entire week without us being awake and in the house together. So there are times when my wife does not get a hug or kiss from me. But I love her dearly, and she understands. We miss each other when we cannot be around each other, but have muddled through this lifestyle for the past 16 years. Just like with holidays, we celebrate when we can be together. So when I am off, and we are together, hugs and kisses are frequent, in fact, my daughter sometimes gets jealous, though she is 5. |
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| a lot. probably in the 10 to 20x a day range? more or less if I'm working or not that day, or how needy the kids are, what our plans are, etc.
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| Posts: 7547 | Location: Alpine, Ut | Registered: February 17, 2010 |  
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Not your average kind of girl

| quote: Originally posted by P229 357SIG Man: Also, she smokes and I don't and the smell is a total turnoff...it downright stinks.
Tell her that. (gently  ) Being turned off by a behavior is not good for either of you plus you want her healthy too! 
If it won't matter in 5 years don't give it more than 5 minutes.
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| Posts: 5194 | Location: Bye Bye Maryland! Hello WV! | Registered: May 12, 2009 |  
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Just because something is legal to do doesn't mean it is the smart thing to do.
| quote: Originally posted by P229 357SIG Man: Also, she smokes and I don't and the smell is a total turnoff...it downright stinks.
Make an effort to give several hugs right after she bathes dropping off in frequency & intensity as the smoking smell builds. Maybe she will get the hint.
Integrity is doing the right thing, even when nobody is looking.
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| Posts: 4419 | Location: Metamora MI | Registered: October 31, 2003 |  
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If you're gonna be a bear, be a Grizzly!

| My wife is generally a touch-me-not kind of person, but I still grab her and hug her when I get home from work in the evenings. I pat her on the ass when she walks by every chance I get too. We've been married 11 years and together 13 years.
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| Posts: 3704 | Location: Morganton, NC | Registered: December 31, 2005 |  
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Quit staring at my wife's Butt

| I usually just grope her when we pass in the hallway, she returns the same.  |
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| I hug my wife at least 2 times every day. Today, she will get more. Today is our 24th anniversary. |
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| Hugs, not so much. Minimum is kiss in the morning before we leave. Kiss when we get home and kiss before bed.
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| Posts: 5544 | Location: Pittsburgh, PA, USA | Registered: February 27, 2001 |  
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| Mines a love sponge. She loves as much hugs, kisses, nuzzling, rubbing, stroking and massaging as I can give. And I'm all in after 25 yrs for the beautiful long blonde hair and the incredibley toned, lean & athletic body that has barely changed. Blessed, truly I am. |
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