https://www.foxnews.com/opinio...eminists-upset-alone

I read with a mixture of sadness and relief an essay by one Melissa Persling, who by all accounts represents the average 30-something woman in America today. In the article, she laments the fact that she’s single at 38 and feels "unbelievably betrayed by feminism."

Persling feels that way because it is that way. For decades our culture has failed women by spreading falsehood after falsehood about men, marriage, motherhood and career. It’s been a slow, daily drip of "You go, Girl!" messages, specifically designed to delete men and babies from life’s equation . And it has wreaked havoc on women’s lives.

In an interview with Fox News, Persling explained why she wrote her article. "I wrote a lot of that article like truly scared … I really did think, like, wow, you’ve missed your opportunity. You are going to be alone. You’re not going to have a family."

She adds, "I was constantly fed this idea that women can do everything. We don’t really need men … I do feel in many ways betrayed by that line of thinking."

Persling then concedes that she received this message from "so many of the women" in her life. "I want to go back to some of those teachers and coaches and say, ‘What the hell did you mean by that? Because we can’t do it all. We can’t. That’s a lie!’"

Yes, it was all a lie — and good on Persling for calling it out in such a public way.

Still, it’s a super hard pill to swallow, made worse by the fact that Persling has been slammed with hateful comments, particularly from men, who insist she’s been selfish. She’s a product of her choices, they say, and, well, too bad.

It’s not that simple.

As a life and relationship coach, I hear regularly from women like Persling who realize they’ve been duped by the narrative that being an independent, self-sustaining woman is enough to be happy. It makes perfect sense that these women would find themselves, down the road, overcome with grief at the prospect of living life alone. And they can’t turn to the culture for help because the culture hails singlehood as the be all, end all.

Persling was smart to recognize that being a product of divorce also put her at a disadvantage since she saw women "taking care of everything" in life. Her mother may not have specifically groomed her to be a feminist, but she absorbed the feminist message of not needing a man all the same. No one told her otherwise.

America is now saturated with women like Persling, who acted upon the wisdom passed along to them by the people they most trusted. These women thought they did everything right, only to have it turn out all wrong. To accept that the advice they received was based on lies is a hard lesson for anyone to learn.

The truth is, this purportedly "liberated" path women have been groomed to travel has a domino effect. Because if the goal isn’t marriage and family, what is the goal? To be satisfied with being single forever because at least you have a paycheck and no one to whom you must answer? As Persling said, "I don’t want to wake up at 60 and say, ‘Oh, well, I had a lot of fun!’"

The problem with the narrative women have been fed is that it deleted the old way but didn’t replace it with anything new. It conveniently left out the details about how women are supposed to live their lives instead.

I believe Persling when she said she’s "not even a feminist." That’s the thing about movements and trends: They seep into the culture to such a degree that they cease to need a name at all. You don’t even recognize it’s there, and yet it’s governing your every move.

As Danielle Crittenden wrote in "What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us," feminism "had seeped into their minds like intravenous saline into the arm of an unconscious patient. They were feminists without knowing it."

But now, thanks to Persling’s bravery, more women will wake up.

feminism BS fuels the DEM Party as they demonize and marginalize men. Especially white men

Feminism is wholly unattractive to most men; I’ve known a few women like this and they always seem to end up in messy, unhappy relationships that don’t last very long.

feminism

isn't that just sweet

Be careful what you ask for.

I know of a few of these women. Some married late, now they can't have children. Some got married with an understanding that they wanted no children, even made a couples pact, then one decided to get pregnant and the other wants it now but its too late. I'm fortunate my wife is awesome and was traditional.

I've met women who are delusional about the idea of having kids in their 40's. Yeah, like 20-35 is the ideal age physiologically, and nature hasn't changed. Past 35 it gets very difficult and risks are much higher.

And the response is usually "I can do in-vitro". Sure, when "in vitro" is the primary methods of getting pregnant, you need to rethink things.

The problem is bigger than the article states though. Women's selectiveness about men leads to unrealistic expectations now that they have access to dating profiles of men anywhere and everywhere. This woman is not 38 and alone because no man will marry her, she is alone because she is not willing to accept the men that are willing to marry her because that would be "settling". Most likely she STILL wants a guy that is higher up on income and social stats than she is, as well as having "high quality" DNA.

Related directly to this topic, I saw this the other day:

https://x.com/stillgray/status...604235062309159?s=46



What a concept! The guy pays on the date. Who’da thunk it?

They aren't waking up. Not even close. The ones who get it are snatched up early and because they get it they are unlikely to reenter the market.


What's happening now is women realizing that they can't be so obvious about how they feel and what they're entitled to. The next generation of women have been indoctrinated much sooner than any prior generation and society caters to them. You think they're going to reject all that programming and societal reinforcement to adopt traditional values and gender roles? The term is "sleeper feminists." They act conservative to attract the man they want then they start right back on the feminist values when it suits them and they have leverage in the relationship.

The weirdest thing, at least in Miami, is the age gap.

Some of that is culture, some of it is housing prices skyrocketing in the last couple years, some of that is that tiny percentage of under 50 year olds are men, instead of boys.

I work with a lot of college kids, and one poor girl - smart, attractive, etc - was almost in tears about how there aren’t any “men” in her age group.

Normally, you’d think males would “butch up” to meet the need, but it seems like they won’t give up pot and video games to do so.

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some of that is that tiny percentage of under 50 year olds are men, instead of boys.

Normally, you’d think males would “butch up” to meet the need, but it seems like they won’t give up pot and video games to do so.

Successful older (available) men are always going to seek prettier, younger women.
However, you are right... the younger generation of soy boys won't grow up... as long as they can get pot and video games and don't have to be responsible.

My mom was an old school acidic 1970s feminist. We kids suffered because of it.

Girl goes on a date with a masculine man and it erases all of her woke programming. There is hope yet for the next generation of young people, as long as they can get away from the soy boy liberal snowflakes.
^^^^^^^^
Her voice and mannerims are terribly annoying. Is this 2023 of Valley girl dialect? Oversuse of the term Bro is ridiculous.

I could never date that.

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Originally posted by darthfuster:
My mom was an old school acidic 1970s feminist. We kids suffered because of it.

There's giant auditoriums full of them here in the SF, Oakland and Marin County. An unfathomable collection of self-righteous 'earth mothers' who long ago adopted short haircuts, a tasteless wardrobe, pathetic dietary beliefs and an acerbic attitude towards the opposite sex. The bitterness and hate is palpable.

There is a ton of back and forth on TikTok between women who have preposterous lists of bars to be chinned by prospective suitors (like the "Rule of 6's") because they think they are such incredible catches, and other women trying to explain to them that they are absurdly out of touch and responsible for the huge number of men who've simply dropped out of the dating pool.
And that's in the sub-group who are back lashing against the feminists and actually want men in their lives.

If they're not a self-absorbed feminist who's addicted to facebook, tiktok, and instagram, they've got that got-damned fingernails on a chalkboard vocal fry, and say, "I know, RIGHT????" or "I mean...." every time you say something. I don't tolerate any of the above. No piece of tail is worth putting up with it.

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Originally posted by Aglifter:

that tiny percentage of under 50 year olds are men, instead of boys.

I’ve noticed this where I work which is large company so there’s always lots of new hires. Quite a large number of the new male hires I see are almost feminine in how they dress and carry themselves. It’s almost like we now live in a world where boys aren’t allowed to be boys any more.

Almost?

She hit the wall and she’s fucked, and I mean not-literally. There are millions of women like this. What she isn’t talking about is how picky she’s been. How women like her try to bag the 1% of men, in both terms of appearance, and wealth. Hitting the wall is a term. The jig is up. Many man have been fed up with their feminism, their list of demands, which are extensive, and just said fuck all this, I’d rather use my hand. Toxic masculinity is a thing, but not masculinity, and there is a difference. Women are inherently attracted to masculine men whether they want to admit it or not. It’s in their DNA.