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Seriously man, I have no clue but I do wish you and her the best. Just be prepared for possible rejection from the new girl...

Always a possibility - but the more I think about it, this is more about my current girlfriend not being the right person for the long term, not because I wanting to get into some new girls pants. If it just about the sex, I'd keep the status que.

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Originally posted by Bytes:
If you're absolutely sure your feeling aren't brought on by this whole lock down thing then break the news to her that it's over. Post Haste! If you're not sure, think about it for awhile.

Yeah, I feel good about that. Like I said, I was planning on breaking it off with her before this happened.

A few of you already mentioned, and here it is.

I just feel like I'm doing wrong if I leave her at this particular time. My issues, I know. But that's why I'm struggling with this so much.

It's not like I can go out with new girl anyway, so at a minimum I am going to get to her house in the next week or so and do it in person.

She deserves better than a phone call.

Well don't feel bad, she'll get over it, you aren't leaving her homeless or anything. Get on with your life and move on.

Color me old-fashioned, but I simply don’t understand how the “next girlfriend” isn’t your bigger concern or why she hasn’t already expressed concern about this?

Seems like you were either lying to her or to you.

Just say all the stress of recent events made you gay.

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... Just be prepared for possible rejection from the new girl...

/\/\/\/\/....

I've passed up a couple of good women to get involved with one's who were as crazy as a Bed Bug.

I don't envy your position...I would be honest with her and not prolong. Let me know when you need the engagement ring? LOL. best of luck buddy~

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Originally posted by davetruong:
I don't envy your position...I would be honest with her and not prolong. Let me know when you need the engagement ring? LOL. best of luck buddy~

LOL

You're the best!

If you turned 50 you already must have realized that you are not getting any younger and that time runs out.

As painful as it might be, get it done. Then do your mourning time before engaying in the new relationship. Don´t try to overlap/rush your own psyche needs.

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I believe I would tell her something exactly like the way you told us.

Does she have a place to go?

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Originally posted by Ronin1069:

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Originally posted by davetruong:
I don't envy your position...I would be honest with her and not prolong. Let me know when you need the engagement ring? LOL. best of luck buddy~

LOL

You're the best!

I wish you luck. I'm in the camp of don't prolong it. Not fair to either of you. Apart from that you can't go wrong with a ring from Dave. I didn't think I'd ever get engaged again. But I did and Dave delivered like you wouldn't believe. The compliments I get on the ring are non-stop. Every girlfriend of hers is envious.

I'd listen to CheeseGrits.
Bad news doesn't get better with age.
Be prepared for more emotional stress.

Well, she’s in love with you and you said you too love her... what makes her not the one?

What is it that you want out of a relationship?

I'm still holding out for RHINO's magic touch.

Does she read SigForum? Maybe she'll stumble upon this thread and the rest will take care of itself

In all seriousness, are you closer to a decision?

You just need to listen to some Paul Simon. Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover to be specific.

My take on this is probably quite different.

I’ll start off by saying that grass always looks greener where the cows have been shitting.

My wife and I don’t have much in common. She’s not that big into off roading or shooting, but does these things because she wants to do things together. I don’t like to clean like a crazy OCD person, but I do, because it makes her feel safe and relaxed. She’s super religious. I’m not. I go to church and all that stuff, because it brings her joy. She likes to sleep with her legs on top of my thighs (I’m a stomach sleeper and she sleeps on her back) and this can be very annoying, even after 16 years. It can cause physical pain, as I will wake up with backaches from her leg weight on my legs, contorting my back oddly. (She’s working on not doing this anymore for health reasons).

This is just a small sample of things like this.

We do these things because we love each other.

I’m a decent looking guy, in good shape, I have a pretty great personality, and I have a great job. Where I live, I’m what many women would consider a unicorn. I could find a woman that is younger, considered more attractive, a nymphomaniac, and has everything in common with me.

Personally, I don’t want that. There are things I wouldn’t want to give up. My wife is like half of me. I know that sounds so gay, but it’s true. She’s my other half. She makes sure I always have clean ironed clothes, picks out what I wear each day and makes sure I look good. She makes sure I eat properly. Sometimes this shit is annoying. It’s almost like she’s being a mom, and it drives me bananas.

I trust her more than I would trust any other human on this planet. She wouldn’t cheat on me, not for all the money in the world. I have zero doubt that she wouldn’t even think twice, and would take a bullet to save me. I would do the same for her.

As I’m sure you know, being married 20 years, relationships are a lot of work.

So my wife definitely not “the right one”, and that’s exactly what makes her the right one.

Good luck Ronin. I wish the best outcome for you.

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Originally posted by Flashlightboy:
I'm still holding out for RHINO's magic touch.

Man, you done missed it, back a couple of pages!