Question for the actively invested frequently involved grand parents

August 31, 2022, 06:35 AM

I've noticed that parents are depending on their parents as caregivers for their kids a lot more now than 30 or 40 years ago. This probably empowers those grandparents with a certain mindset to meddle more than in the past.

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Originally posted by odin:
I should be suffering from this, but I'm not! I can think of many, many times when my Mom used to smack me behind/beside the head when I misbehaved (almost daily)! LOL

While the smacking was hard enough to get my attention, no serious, lasting effects were brought on! So much for being brought up in a Franco family!!

August 31, 2022, 08:43 AM

Aglifter

A) Aggie rings (probably academy rings as well) turned backward make for incredibly painful head slaps.

B) Football is too dangerous for young people. Probably shouldn’t be played by anyone until their growth plates harden.

C) I think the amount of influence depends on the financial connection, but it needs to be reserved for very serious matters.

IOW, “Junior needs rehab, and no inheritance/support unless sober” etc.

August 31, 2022, 06:10 PM

odin

Yup! Just like Denozo, I got slapped a lot! LOL

August 31, 2022, 06:15 PM

jhe888

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Originally posted by bendable:
How much ( if any ) veto power do you have regarding the grand kids?

Without straining, jeopardizing ,complicating all the relationships involved.

Do you wait for someone to seek your wisdom?
Do you dare offer your perspective with out solicitation ?

Can you ,have you put your foot down ?

Of the four grandparents I know,

Two can strongly stringently require their wishes.
Two just barely speak their opinions and then only when approached by someone.

One refuses to attend the 8 y.o. football games because of c.t.e.
One goes to the football games but worries constantly.

Two just go and don't worry about what they can not control

That is a masterpiece of Bendable-speak.

To the extent I understand what you are asking, I don't feel I have any veto power over what my son and daughter-in-law allow for their children. They are their children, not mine. If asked, I will happily share my opinion or give advice.

I am lucky that my son and wife are reasonable people are are not likely to do anything I think would require intervention by me in the first place.

Is that what you mean?