9/20 update:
We’re finishing up his 3rd chemo appointment now. I know it’ll get worse in the coming weeks but so far he’s been feeling great. I’m heading back to Maryland after this, gotta work tomorrow but gonna look into HUMS orders to be with him in his final months. So far he’s had great support, we went through all his guns and ammo and he gave away to those that he wanted to have them. It’s cool in a way because me and my brother had lusted over them as little kids so it’s kinda nostalgic but also very freaking sad at the same time. His nurse here is incredible, he’s got appointments nearly every day for the next couple weeks so he’ll be busy, but he’s gonna take advantage of bow season this weekend. They put his port on the left side so he could still shoot

We'll see how the next couple weeks goes, gonna take at least a month to get my paperwork approved, if it gets approved.


OP:
My grandfather passed away within 6 months of discovery years ago. That one sucked.

Found out earlier this year my stepdad has 2 years left.

My dad found out today he’s got 3-18 months. Shit just don’t seem fair. Sucks to be in this position, so I can’t imagine what he’s going through. Gonna head down next week for 10 days or so, was gonna be for opening of bow season but now we’ll just have fun and enjoy company together, get some things worked out to execute his wishes.

We just reconnected too, guess it’s better than being too late.

Sometimes it seems like it ain’t worth it, work your whole life to die too soon.

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I know people that lived a lot longer then the doctors gave them.
Don't give up hope.

Sorry to hear, that sucks.

I do feel for you and I don’t mean to sound like a dick, but you got a heads up. Take advantage of that, spend the time with him that you can. It will make the inevitable easier.


I lost my Dad unexpectedly in 2020. He had lived with us for the last 18 months of his life, and while we spent lots of time together, there was a lot that never got shared or said. My Dad was one of those during the Covid lockdowns where we were not allowed to visit him in the hospital until it was determine he would not survive.

Went in on a Thursday afternoon, passed away early Saturday morning. By the time we were allowed to see him Friday evening he was pretty much unconscious and unaware we were there. Hard to believe it is coming up on 5 years.


You are both in my prayers as you go through this time.

I recently lost a sister in law and a cousin to cancer.
I pray your father doesn't have to suffer long.

I'm sorry to hear. My mother in law was diagnosed stage 4 last spring and they told her she wouldn't see last thanksgiving, I had lunch with her today. Praying he gets more good time than they told him too.

I’m sorry to hear that Otto. Take advantage of the time you have.

Got you in the mind and prayers, Mr Otto.
Hang in there, sir.

Sorry to hear this Otto. Been through it myself, with my wife.

Maybe it would be a good idea to get a “second opinion” from another doctor.

I’m sorry to hear of your father’s diagnosis. If he hasn’t already looked into hospice care, he may want to consider doing so. Good hospice care has proven to be invaluable to several close relatives diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Your post reads like you had a prolonged absence from each other.

When i was 22 my dad walked out of my life and sixteen years later he died. I’m glad to hear you reconciled. Cherish what time you get to spend together. Try to preserve some on video if that’s kosher. Best wishes to you and to him for comfort.

Very sorry to hear that J. Prayers sent for him and you.

I'm very sorry to hear that, Otto. That really sucks. But this bit makes me glad:

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We just reconnected too, guess it’s better than being too late.

I'm glad that you had a chance to reconnect with your dad, and hope you are able to fully take advantage of and enjoy the time that you have left. Hopefully it's longer than they think.

My brother was diagnosed with a rare lung cancer last year with a life expectancy of a few months. He is alive today and doing well, he chose not to do chemo or radiation and tried some alternative options.

It’s a personal decision for each one to decide if they are going traditional or seeking out other alternatives. I wish the best for your father.

Sending good thoughts your and your fathers way Otto. I went through this with both my mom and dad. It's not fun but I got much closer with both of them. I hope it works out the same way for you and your father.

Been here, done this, got the t shirt.

However I was young. WAY too young to go through it.

Sad news, very sorry.

I'm really sorry to hear this, Otto. My Mom went all too soon at 57 from cancer, my Dad passed away at 92 from the progressive consequences of dementia. I learned that the best thing we can do is cherish the time we have with our parents and not take anything for granted.

Prayers for strength and comfort as you go through this.

James, I’m sorry to hear about your father, and step-father. That really sucks. I’m not making light of the situation, but at least you have some time left together. Knowing ahead of time and being able to “live as if you were dying” definitely makes a difference.

When I lost my mom, I was 22. On Sunday night we found out she was dying. We had Monday together. Tuesday she was in a medically induced coma and Wednesday she was dead. I am so incredibly grateful we had that Monday.

Please take and make time. I promise you won’t regret it.

You and your family will be in our prayers.

I am so sorry you have to go through this.

I hope you are able to share some special times with him.

I am very sorry for your situation. Beancooker is correct - take and make time. At this time it's the most precious thing you have with them.

Ask those questions you never asked. I regret that I never asked my father what he did in WWII.

Don't have any regrets.