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Really horrible evening 19 year old nephew found dead, suspicious circumstances likely homicide, prayers requested Update p2
March 13, 2021, 09:00 AM
ftttuReally horrible evening 19 year old nephew found dead, suspicious circumstances likely homicide, prayers requested Update p2
Prayers sent.
Retired Texas Lawman
March 13, 2021, 09:39 AM
MikeinNCSorry man.you were right and gave good advise. It’s not your fault he wouldn’t listen. You can only control you. Take a deep breath...exhale.
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bald1Condolences. And yes, like so many here for all the same reasons, I agree...don't beat yourself up over this. T
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March 13, 2021, 09:52 AM
old rugged crossThat is horrible to hear Spunk. You have been here a long time and are a valuable member.
But do not blame yourself.
It sounds like your nephew was going to make something of himself. Due in part to the involvement you had in his life. Someone close to him that cared.
All of that is what makes what happened, worse I am sure.
Finding who is responsible is important as you know better than most. It will not be easy to know what unfolded. But putting those away who decided to do such a thing is absolutely necessary.
You have my prayers.
"Practice like you want to play in the game"
March 13, 2021, 09:59 AM
SilentSo very sorry for your loss.
Silent
March 13, 2021, 11:37 AM
Yanert98Prayers sent. It sounds like you gave your heart to him and I know these words offer little comfort. I can only imagine your grief. Take care of yourself and know that you truly did what God asked of you.
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March 13, 2021, 11:40 AM
P-220I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.
Niech Zyje P-220
Steve
March 13, 2021, 11:42 AM
NK402Today's rosary will have your name on it.
March 13, 2021, 01:09 PM
highroundcountI am very sorry to hear of this.
As young adults we all made mistakes that could have killed us.....should have killed us. Some of us made it, others in our lives did not.
This is not on you. Free will has it's membership costs.
I wish you peace.
"And I think about my loves,well I've had a few. Well,I'm sorry that I hurt them, did I hurt you too" I Was Wrong--Social D.
March 13, 2021, 02:06 PM
KrazeehorseThinking about you man. I understand your feelings but be 100% rational and KNOW this is not on you in any way.
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March 13, 2021, 02:46 PM
nhtagmemberVery sad story but you did everything you could.
My condolences
March 13, 2021, 03:06 PM
Pickle RickTerrible, I said a prayer for the family and friends during this very trying time. John.
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March 14, 2021, 01:45 AM
flashguyI can't adequately communicate just how sorry I am about this situation. I am positive that you did the best you could to prevent it, and yet it failed. Things happen. It is crucial to distinguish between things you had the power to alter, and those you didn't. This one is of the latter type--you gave good avice and your "nephew" rejected it--apparently to his demise.
My prayers that God will give you and his family peace, and that the person(s) who caused his death are caught and punished.
flashguy
Texan by choice, not accident of birth March 14, 2021, 08:46 AM
octoPrayers spoken; now and in days to come.You can choose to let God use you and turn evil to good or allow the evil to continue to destroy your family.Trust your heart;the hard way is the only Way. I will stand with you in this battle. Ron
March 14, 2021, 09:39 AM
thomjbPrayers sent.......
Thom
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March 14, 2021, 10:17 AM
NMPinNYCSir, sad news indeed.
Respectfully, this is not your cross to bear. YOU cannot control anyone else's choices, or make those choices for them. You can only offer your best advice, and that's it. You gave your best advice, and his reaction to your advice was HIS decision to make. Not yours. HIS choices and HIS reaction proved to have been poor. Please know this.
VR,
NMP.
Best regards,
Nick.
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March 14, 2021, 10:25 AM
old rugged crossSpunk639, please let us know what you can when you feel up to it.
I also do not agree that blaming your nephew is appropriate. And I am sure you don't.
Regardless of choices made. No one deserves to be murdered.
"Practice like you want to play in the game"
March 14, 2021, 10:59 AM
spunk639God’s lines might have been a little busy but 36 of his operators responded for him. Thank you for all your consoling and heartfelt thoughts and prayers. My self imposed guilt has been put on hold because on that side of my family I am the only person with the wear with all to handle the circumstances. Parents late eighties uncles late seventies and early eighties, his mom is a train wreck and his brother can’t deal with it.
What I have learned,
Autopsy being done this weekend
Asshole friend had slipped suboxine in his drink with out his knowledge in the past
Asshole was being physically abusive, never shared with me
Asshole had crashed nephews car about two months ago giving him a head injury again never shared with me.
My nephew kept from me the length and extent of his relationship with this POS.
My friends on the job and the DA’s office are pressing hard and not writing it off.
I’ve survived worse and will again, with support from friends like all of you.
Eternally Grateful
Spunk
March 14, 2021, 11:20 AM
KampfhamsterSorry for your loss. You've done what you could do.
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March 14, 2021, 02:24 PM
ArtieSThanks for the update, Spunk. I'm glad you are "bearing up" as my great aunt from Fall River would have said.
I hope that they find the bastard, prove their case, and roast him hot.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
"I vowed to myself to fight against evil more completely and more wholeheartedly than I ever did before. . . . That’s the only way to pay back part of that vast debt, to live up to and try to fulfill that tremendous obligation."
Alfred Hornik, Sunday, December 2, 1945 to his family, on his continuing duty to others for surviving WW II.