Words I never foresaw myself saying. Kid watched a Bill Nye video and decided to educate dad. I informed him that ‘ol Bill wasn’t a scientist, he was a mechanical engineer. When he rolled his eyes and started explaining about the ice caps, I kinda snapped.

We had a close date for selling our home. It was going to be September 21st. The buyers got told some fucking horror story about some other home sale and decided to have the utility company verify that there isn’t some sort of weird homeowners assessment or something. The relocation company said no to whatever bullshit they tried to stipulate in the contract, so our house is back on the market. We found this out this afternoon while looking at the first home out of about fifty that we’ve looked at that would work for us. This is worse than being told “stop” when you’re balls-deep and nearing the finish line. Blue balls ain’t got shit on this. I am so pissed, I could drop-kick a whole litter of kittens through the rose window of Notre Dame, one at a time, and I love cats. This is the day my third grade son picks to argue with me about the ice caps melting. Now ain’t the time, son.

But… the polar bears…

Damn Ed, I’m sorry to hear that. Having buyers lined up and then back to market is hard. I hope that a new couple finds your home amazing and pays cash.

I am reminded of the meme where the Mayans are making a human sacrifice to the gods for better weather and it reads, "governments have been dealing with climate change since 800 BC"

The buyers probably couldn’t qualify anymore or realized with current rates they couldn’t afford the mortgage payment and found a way to bail on you. That thing about a possible assessment sounds like BS to me.

Man, I couldn't imagine ever trying to lecture the old man. Even at the ripe old age of seventy-one I don't even want to think about how that would've gone over

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The buyers probably couldn’t qualify anymore or realized with current rates they couldn’t afford the mortgage payment and found a way to bail on you. That thing about a possible assessment sounds like BS to me.

Agreed. A lot of residential deals are canceling all over the country.

As for your son...knock of the science guy. We removed our son from exposure to all of that, and everything changed for the better.

I think this is worse than the time I asked my dad if he knew who Jimmy Page is...

It's apparent when you're a parent and when you're not...

Smudge, My brother is a realtor in Green Bay. He focuses on bank owned property and nearly daily calls to tell me some bullshit story that buyers/brokers/bankers come up with to queer a deal. Ain't' simple any more.
Welcome to sunny AZ.

My dad’s eyes could get very cold and grey when he got fucked with.
I never messed with him when things got serious. Never even imagined doing it.
Sorry to hear of the fall through.

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Man, I couldn't imagine ever trying to lecture the old man. Even at the ripe old age of seventy-one I don't even want to think about how that would've gone over

I was maybe 13 and my brother was 12.

I hear this argument downstairs between him and my dad and then I hear him yell “asshole!” at my Dad then he runs up to our room where I was and locks our door.

Precisely 25 seconds later the door goes BOOM and literally flies off the hinges, my dad kicked it down comes in there and gives my brother the spanking of his life.

You would not be able to get away with that now, this was about 35 years ago

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Originally posted by PASig:

I was maybe 13 and my brother was 12.

I hear this argument downstairs between him and my dad and then I hear him yell “asshole!” at my Dad then he runs up to our room where I was and locks our door.

Precisely 25 seconds later the door goes BOOM and literally flies off the hinges, my dad kicked it down comes in there and gives my brother the spanking of his life.

You would not be able to get away with that now, this was about 35 years ago

If I had EVER said that to my Dad, I wouldn't be here today. Even raising your voice was simply not an option.

Thanks, all. The house thing will work out how it’s supposed to. We weren’t led all the way here just to fail. I believe that. It’s just frustrating to have someone quit on us at the finish line, especially after being a total pain in the ass leading up to this. Yesterday was a perfect storm of bullshit all swirled together.

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It's apparent when you're a parent and when you're not...

I’m unsure what you mean by this, but it feels like a bit of a backhand. I hope I’m reading you wrong, here. Like you, I am a product of prolific abuse at the hands of my father. I’m trying very hard every day to be the father that he was not. My son is far bolder with me than I ever was with my father precisely because I’ve never beat his ass until I broke his spirit, and when I’m on the verge of losing it, I tell him to head to his room and we revisit the offending issue when I’m cooler about it, like we did over a father-son breakfast this morning while mom slept in. If you’re implying this somehow means it’s apparent that I’m not doing my job as a parent, then I don’t know what to say. He’s got a good spirit and there’s not a mean bone in his body. I won’t risk ruining that because I don’t want him to debate me. Don’t take that to mean he doesn’t get his ass paddled when it’s warranted - that absolutely happens, but I’m not in the business of raising a doormat.

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You would not be able to get away with that now, this was about 35 years ago

Which is one reason why, though I could teach, I'll have nothing to do with it these days.

When I was brought up a child did not back-talk adults. A child did not address adults by their first names. A child invariably obeyed adults and always addressed them as "Mr.", "Mrs.", "Miss", "Sir," or "M'am."

Only exception I recall to the above rules was one of my dad's best friends whose nickname was Smitty. We addressed him as "Uncle Smitty."

My wife and I finished watching The Gilmore Girls recently. Throughout the entire series they had children addressing adults by their first names. Was like fingernails on a chalkboard to me the entire time.

I recall once thinking to challenge the old man. All I recall was him towering over me, telling me to go ahead and take my best shot. I saw nothing but a world of hurt in store for me if I chose to do that and backed down.

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Originally posted by sigmonkey:
It's apparent when you're a parent and when you're not...

I’m unsure what you mean by this, but it feels like a bit of a backhand. I hope I’m reading you wrong, here. ...

I meant, only parents can experience what you have, and the "perfect timing" of a child being assertive and standing their ground while a significant life event is taking a dump in your lap, because of other people's actions.

But the timing of children can be ironic...

And having been down similar roads, I can see how my words came across other than how I meant it.

I hope a better buyer comes along soon.

Understood. I appreciate it, sir.

Yes, if nothing else, children certainly have interesting timing.

Sorry to hear smudge. My realtor friend say's the prices are dropping and people (sellers) are struggling to find the sweet spot while still trying to make the sale.

There are market times that people cannot pay enough and then there are times the market is falling and making a sale can get very convoluted and difficult.

Still interested in seeing a for sale add for your place. Email in profile.

Thanks.