Back Story: There has been a beater car parked in my neighborhood for about a month. Windshield wipers stuck half way up and you can't see through the windows because of the dirt, filth and grime.

I live in an upscale neighborhood with nice homes and we don't have junkers sitting around. It had been bugging me as it looked abandoned. It was parked in a guest spot at a condo complex.

I was out walking my little Pug and I see a women pushing it to the curb. My natural instinct was to help but I decided not to because it pissed me off that I had to keep looking at it. I figured she needed to deal with it herself.

As I was walking back to my home she passes me and says "Thank you so much for all of your help" WTF! Why is it my responsibility to help you with your shitty broken down car ?

Major passive aggressive.

OK, I guess I'm the Asshole or am I ? Just because I'm a Man I'm required to push you in your shitty broken down car ?

Rant off.

"Welcome to women's lib 101 and being treated like an equal."

If you had tried to help her she probably would have got mad that you assumed she needed help just because she was a girl.

It does remind me of an amusing incident I had a few years ago though. I was traveling overseas for work and as I was boarding the plane I realized that the head of HR for our company, a woman, was on the same plane. We talked while boarding and made a plan to meet at baggage claim and ride the train to our destination city together. When we finally arrived around 12 hours later as we were walking out of the train station we encountered a small set of stairs. She had a large suitcase with her. I stopped, looked at her, and said something to the effect of "I don't want you to take this the wrong way, and I know that women are equal to men and I am in no way a sexist, but there isn't a chance in hell that I am letting you carry that suitcase up the stairs on your own."

She laughed and let me carry her suitcase up for her.

I was at a motorcycle rally in Ohio some years ago and noticed two young women were setting up a new Eureka tent. A friend and I walked over to help the girls and were told bluntly that they did not need any help.

Okay.....So, a few of us sat on a nearby hill, drank beer and watched those two women put on a show as they struggled with the tent.

They were gone the next morning.

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As I was walking back to my home she passes me and says "Thank you so much for all of your help"

Should have said "Sorry, I only expend my time and energy on really HOT women."

“Sorry, lady, my tetanus shots aren’t up-to-date and I couldn’t take the risk touching that filthy piece of shit you’ve left sitting there for months. I know a good towing company, and if you require any further assistance, I’d be happy to give you the number.”

You're not required to help anyone, but it's polite to offer, regardless of gender, especially without knowing the full story.

OTOH, she was rude. If she needed help she should have just said, "Excuse me, sir, would you please help me?"

[QUOTE]Originally posted by brecaidra:
You're not required to help anyone, but it's polite to offer, regardless of gender,

I know the right thing to do was to help her and I thought about it but the car makes me angry. I had that discussion in my head.

If you are going to lumberjack, you have be able to handle your end of the log.

She didn't ask for help. It's nice to offer but not any kind of obligation. I probably wouldn't have offered. The bulkshit huffy response would have gotten her an earful.

My days of helping are over. There are too many crazies and too many scams out there. My attitude is "leave me the fuck alone." Oh yeah, over the years the only guy helping me out in bad situations was, yeah, me.

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Originally posted by brecaidra:
You're not required to help anyone, but it's polite to offer, regardless of gender, especially without knowing the full story.

OTOH, she was rude. If she needed help she should have just said, "Excuse me, sir, would you please help me?"

Well said Bre.

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Originally posted by PR64:

I know the right thing to do was to help her and I thought about it but the car makes me angry. I had that discussion in my head.

Oh, I didn't mean to sound like I was reprimanding you. I was just thinking, it's a possibility that the car belongs to an elderly relative and she didn't know about it until the relative finally asked for help from her or something. I understand being angry about it sitting there for so long, but maybe it's not her fault.

Still, there was no excuse for her to be so snippy with you.

“The next time you want to withhold your help, or your love, or your support for another for whatever the reason, ask yourself a simple question: do the reasons you want to withhold it reflect more on them or on you? And which reasons do you want defining you forevermore?”

You help people for the simple fact that they need help.

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Passive aggressive behavior is present in both males and females. It is a function of how your parents and teachers taught you.

I will admit that as a rule women tend to make these sorts of remarks more than men. Things like I guess I will have to sit here in the dark rather than please turn on the light switch.

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Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL:


I will admit that as a rule women tend to make these sorts of remarks more than men. Things like I guess I will have to sit here in the dark rather than please turn on the light switch.

I do that quite often, but bryan11 knows it's to be funny.
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My son was super amused one time when we were at a convenience store:

man #1 holds door for man #2
man #2 says nothing
man #1: "YOU'RE WELCOME!"
man #2: "What do you want, a ****ing trophy?"
man #1: "No, but you could say "thank you!"
man #2: "Oh, I'm so sorry that I hurt your feelings..."

I'm not sure how long they argued because we needed to leave.

You certainly weren’t obliged to help her. As Bre said, it’s nice to offer, but, otoh, if she’s been freeloading in your neighborhood, then I could see why you weren’t keen on helping her out.

Totally entitled comment on her part. I wish I had a suitably snippy reply reply for when that happens.

“Do I know you?” Might be a start.

Maybe it wasn't HER car either and she was pushing it out because she was sick of it too and so it might get picked up?

Maybe she was talking to the Pug?

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Originally posted by cparktd:
Maybe it wasn't HER car either and she was pushing it out because she was sick of it too and so it might get picked up?

No, It was her car for sure....How would she have gotten the door open. I saw her lock it up.