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November 12, 2022, 01:08 PM
frayedends
Invited to a wedding celebration.
How bizarre. Invited to a wedding celebration (second marriage for them both) at Eagles club. It just says join us for drinks. 1:30. Show up and it’s in the middle of an actual wedding. Place is full and they are doing the first dance.

So this is the after party but so awkward to walk into. Invite us to the wedding or don’t. Not some weird awkward invite for half of it. Okay you got the gift without feeding us. Thanks.




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November 12, 2022, 01:25 PM
YooperSigs
The last wedding I attended cost north of 15K and the participants carried on like it was the second coming. Gave new meaning to the term "excessive spending".
My last wedding was in Vegas. By ourselves. Way cheaper and way more fun!


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November 12, 2022, 01:28 PM
frayedends
This thing was bullshit. Not even a snack to be had. They clearly had a buffet for the early part. So they got $200 out of us. We lasted 2 beers and left to get food.




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November 12, 2022, 01:36 PM
Rey HRH
What??? That does sound more like a shake down to get a wedding gift out of you instead of asking you to celebrate with them.

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November 12, 2022, 01:40 PM
.38supersig
Total BS.




November 12, 2022, 01:51 PM
ZSMICHAEL
Wisconsin used to have Wedding Dances. There was an ad in the paper. Did not have to know the couple. You showed up {usually at the VFW} and paid five bucks to defray the cost of the band. It also covered all the beer you wanted to drink. This was fun.
November 12, 2022, 02:02 PM
Prefontaine
quote:
Originally posted by frayedends:
This thing was bullshit. Not even a snack to be had. They clearly had a buffet for the early part. So they got $200 out of us. We lasted 2 beers and left to get food.


Wow. So lame, and fake. But it’s the reason I won’t go to one any longer, especially people getting married a 2nd time. Divorce rate is like 80% for people on #2 each. Best of luck to them however. I’m just not getting roped into the thing. Some of them last all damn day. All I see is a billion dollar marketing industry at work.



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November 12, 2022, 02:10 PM
tatortodd
That's some bullshit.



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November 12, 2022, 02:19 PM
frayedends
So we’ve been to wedding celebrations for people getting married again that were just parties. They did small wedding with family and then had a separate party. It is always clear that it was just a party, usually no gifts. This thing is just not that.

Now my wife and I had a real wedding in my back yard. It was big and elegant because she didn’t get that experience in her first marriage. But we were clear “no gifts, it’s our second marriage “. Plus we explained exactly what to expect. I didn’t expect to go into a VFW type place in dockers and a nice shirt to see a room full of suits.




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November 12, 2022, 10:07 PM
drill sgt
If the divorce rate of 80% for 2nd marriage is correct then we might be in trouble...Married her twice... 1st was by justice of the peace in Texas then a Army chapel in Alaska.... Next anniversary will be # 49 years together. ............... drill sgt.
November 13, 2022, 08:00 AM
Bassamatic
Beyond stupid. I wouldn't have gone.



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November 13, 2022, 08:25 AM
irreverent
quote:
Originally posted by frayedends:
So we’ve been to wedding celebrations for people getting married again that were just parties. They did small wedding with family and then had a separate party. It is always clear that it was just a party, usually no gifts. This thing is just not that.

Now my wife and I had a real wedding in my back yard. It was big and elegant because she didn’t get that experience in her first marriage. But we were clear “no gifts, it’s our second marriage “. Plus we explained exactly what to expect. I didn’t expect to go into a VFW type place in dockers and a nice shirt to see a room full of suits.

That’s what I thought you were describing- a family ceremony with a larger after party..but no food? At all? That’s weird. Of course you’re there to wish them well, but I’ve never been to any version of a wedding where there wasn’t at least apps…or cake?


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November 13, 2022, 08:42 AM
oddball
quote:
Originally posted by frayedends:
Now my wife and I had a real wedding in my back yard. It was big and elegant because she didn’t get that experience in her first marriage.


My wife and I got married in City Hall on my lunch break from work. And we both have zero regrets after over 30 years of marriage.

We used the money saved from a wedding for our first house, purchased in a down market. One of the best decisions we ever made.



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November 13, 2022, 09:10 AM
frayedends
quote:
Originally posted by oddball:
quote:
Originally posted by frayedends:
Now my wife and I had a real wedding in my back yard. It was big and elegant because she didn’t get that experience in her first marriage.


My wife and I got married in City Hall on my lunch break from work. And we both have zero regrets after over 30 years of marriage.

We used the money saved from a wedding for our first house, purchased in a down market. One of the best decisions we ever made.


That makes absolute sense when just starting out. We are in our 50s, married last year. We had the means to do a nice wedding that my wife deserved. It was an awesome party. I mean any party where you end up in the pool is a great time.






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November 14, 2022, 11:21 AM
bendable
Stupid daylight savings time, grrrrrr





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November 14, 2022, 11:49 AM
wrightd
I hate weddings. Don't know why, maybe because I could be doing more fun things, like cleaning my garage and tool boxes or cutting grass on my riding tractor.

BUT, I likely have TWO actual weddings coming up for daughters, and since they will be simple affairs and because we like the future husbands (actual real men not woke pussies etc.), I'm looking forward to those. One will be a more traditional wedding, and the other will be more of a party, given the very different personalities of those two lovely young women. But I plan on going hungry for both.




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November 14, 2022, 12:10 PM
xd45man
I went to a wedding and reception once and the bride and groom explicitly insisted people go to the bride's parents house for an after party. I tried to say no, as I knew this was unusual, but the bride kept insisting. We show up to the parents house along with 20 other people. The parents are confused, tired, and want to go to bed. The bride and groom pull up in a Limo. They are heavily intoxicated and the bride screams "Pool Party!" I went up to her father and asked: "Do you want me to clear this place out?" He said no. As he tiredly shuffled towards his bedroom he said: "Don't let anyone drive."
November 30, 2022, 09:16 PM
Marlin Fan
I had an uncle that was married four times.
You figure he would have learned his lesson after marriage number two. If something happens to my wife I’d get myself a live in girlfriend. Finally, we never figure out how many kids he had.