The fourth time in two months my wife's sister has invited herself over to our house with her friends. This time started out as they're coming over around dinner time and we're going to play board games which was fine. I would have had time to do the things I need to get done. Now my wife says they'll be here after brunch and we're taking them on the boat.
My wife and I don't know these people. They're the sister's friends that she invited down to stay with her. Now my wife is running around like crazy to get ready and I have to drop my projects to help.
What the fuck! Apparently our house is now a tourist attraction complete with rides.
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Unfortunately in this situation, it sounds like you saying “no” may just cause issues with the wife. Sounds like you should have a serious sit-down discussion with her. Boundaries and respect are important.
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Originally posted by flesheatingvirus: Sounds like you should have a serious sit-down discussion with her. Boundaries and respect are important.
I agree 100%. I'm fortunate that my wife would never do this, especially with people we do not know, it is extremely rude for a family member to do this. If my sister in law did this, she would get a firm veto from me, and my wife would agree.
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If they’re coming over around brunch, i'm going fishing right after breakfast. I'll be back a little before dark so I have time to clean the fish and the boat. The wife can tell her sister that she should have checked with you before coming over for a boat ride.
Sometimes not having any family nearby is a good thing.
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You should note your displeasure to your wife and she should tell her sister to knock it off. You don't know these people. You didn't invite them to your home or to use your boat. They aren't your wife's friends. Why are you letting them put you out, especially as it seems it's last minute? I get not wanting to make waves or cause an issue between your wife and her sister but you're paying the price.
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Originally posted by trapper189: The fourth time in two months my wife's sister has invited herself over to our house with her friends. This time started out as they're coming over around dinner time and we're going to play board games which was fine. I would have had time to do the things I need to get done. Now my wife says they'll be here after brunch and we're taking them on the boat.
My wife and I don't know these people. They're the sister's friends that she invited down to stay with her. Now my wife is running around like crazy to get ready and I have to drop my projects to help.
What the fuck! Apparently our house is now a tourist attraction complete with rides.
Go check the boat, disconnect the fuel pump, come back inside pissed and dejected that you need to look into buying a new $700 fuel pump with labor, take the $700 to a gun store, buy a new Glock and some ammo, come back and fiddle with boat and don't get it to run until it's too late to go out...
Once they leave, you have a working boat and a new gun... Win Win...
Welcome to Touristville, party, you.... Same stuff here for several years, lucky we both tired of being tour guides, it also happened when we lived in NorCal, lots of people wanting to stay, avoid hotel costs, be driven to the City, Napa.
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She'd spot that a mile away. I did have my 15yo son drive them around on the boat because my Dad needed some help around the house though. We watched Michigan beat Wisconsin.
We did have a chat that went as expected, but at least my concerns were acknowledged. My wife basically said she'd rather entertain people here for an afternoon/evening than do all of the other stuff her sister asks her to do with the friends. Fair enough.
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We watched Michigan beat Wisconsin.
