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My Wife is the Smartest Person in the World
November 15, 2017, 09:04 PM
KrazeehorseMy Wife is the Smartest Person in the World
Just remember to bite your tongue instead of saying something that will just make you feel better. It doesn't sound like anyone is listening to anything of substance anyway.
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November 15, 2017, 09:27 PM
ElToroThe one lesson I learned early as a young adult is the DMV is the devil and just play their game and stay out of trouble. Guess what ? Unpaid Tickets eventually turn into warrants and you will get pulled over eventually at the most inoppurtune time and you will then go to jail. So despite the pain involved take a morning off school or work whatever suck it up and go get your car made legal.
November 15, 2017, 09:38 PM
rburgIf the car is still in his fathers name, the police won't have his warrants come back to him. If his father does, then running the plates will turn up hot and he'll start to get punished for the fathers sins.
Its what we call a shit show. It could easily take weeks resolve at hundreds per week. No way around it. I assume the "kid" has issues with his father, too. The step kids I've known that show irresponsibility have more problems just under the surface.
My suggestion...take the wife out to a nice dinner. No matter how difficult, don't discuss the child. Just enjoy the life you have. His and his fathers is worse, much worse.
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November 15, 2017, 11:02 PM
Icabodquote:
Originally posted by senza nome:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Problem is that one way or another you're going to be the one paying.
As in paying the money and having the kid pay you back. Like that will ever happen.
“ The work of destruction is quick, easy and exhilarating; the work of creation is slow, laborious and dull. November 15, 2017, 11:35 PM
Rey HRHquote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
"It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual." Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, 1946.
November 16, 2017, 07:25 AM
}BuLL^ Wise man
November 16, 2017, 07:46 AM
RHINOWSO
November 16, 2017, 08:49 AM
GregYquote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
quote:
Originally posted by bigwagon:
This is going to be an expensive lesson. And even more expensive if he lost the title before transferring it into his name, which wouldn't surprise me since he never registered it.
$300 towing + $45 per day (it's been there since Sunday night) + the three or four tickets (which he admits to) for out of date registration + two years worth late fees.
I wish I had that much money to burn.
I predict that,
yes, you do. And will.
November 16, 2017, 09:19 AM
jhe888quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
(His dad and I tend to agree on this one as I told the kid back then he needed to register it and get the title in his name. "But why, nothing's going to happen, everyone knows my dad sold it to me" attitude.
That turns out to have been wrong.
The fish is mute, expressionless. The fish doesn't think because the fish knows everything. November 16, 2017, 09:22 AM
Killer Instinctsquote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Some of the best advice I've ever heard in regards to discussing problems with women.
As others have said, this is going to be an expensive lesson for the kid. It is probably going to be cheaper to let them keep it and get another cheap car. If he did everything TODAY he's still probably looking at $750+ when it's said and done.
Sucks you have to deal with it. That attitude in a person pisses me off more than any other single trait (referring to the kid's attitude, not your wife's).
November 16, 2017, 09:32 AM
Sailor1911quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Alternatively, "I respectfully refuse to answer on the grounds that it might incriminate me"
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LS1 GTOquote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Damnit, I need you on speed dial.
She was complaining how the DMV wouldn't allow him to [finally] register the car in his name without the title or DMV Bill of Sale form. That's when I opened my mouth.
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November 16, 2017, 12:29 PM
zoom6zoomquote:
Alternatively, "I respectfully refuse to answer on the grounds that it might incriminate me the couch is lumpy"
I have my own style of humor. I call it Snarkasm. November 16, 2017, 01:04 PM
ShouldBFishinquote:
Originally posted by Killer Instincts:
quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Some of the best advice I've ever heard in regards to discussing problems with women.
Agreed! "Uncle Hub", is that you?
November 16, 2017, 02:22 PM
jimmy123xquote:
Originally posted by Killer Instincts:
quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Some of the best advice I've ever heard in regards to discussing problems with women.
As others have said, this is going to be an expensive lesson for the kid. It is probably going to be cheaper to let them keep it and get another cheap car. If he did everything TODAY he's still probably looking at $750+ when it's said and done.
Sucks you have to deal with it. That attitude in a person pisses me off more than any other single trait (referring to the kid's attitude, not your wife's).
No it won't. His MOM will pay for it. Guaranteed. That is why he has that nonchalant attitude towards responsibility to begin with.
November 16, 2017, 04:14 PM
brecaidraquote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
quote:
Originally posted by LS1 GTO:
Her son got his car towed for not registering it (after owning it for two years).
And it's my fault for explaining why he needs the title (which he lost) to get it registered and out of impound.
Let me guess. Did you offer that bit of information without being asked directly as to what it would take get the car registered and out of impound? If so, it is your fault.
How long have you been married to your wife and you don't know this yet?
If your wife says her son has a problem and describes the problem, the right response isn't to tell her what needs to be done. That's wrong. The right response is to emphatize and to say something like, "Oh, gee. That's too bad." And you just keep paying attention to her with sympathetic eyes.
If she asks you what can be done about it, DO NOT answer. It's a trap. Ask, "What does he want to happen?" Only if she says he would like to get the car registered and out of impound, do you give the answer. Otherwise, any solution you give is premature and it will be your fault.
At every step, remember ATFQ and no more. That's Answer The Fucking Question.
If you want to help her ask you the right question, lead her by asking questions yourself, not by answering.
Good grief, that sounds exhausting.
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jhe888quote:
Originally posted by brecaidra:
Good grief, that sounds exhausting.
That's how it is for us dudes.
The fish is mute, expressionless. The fish doesn't think because the fish knows everything. November 17, 2017, 09:14 PM
armedprofThis whole situation sucks and I feel for you as you made an accurate assessment that was not well received.
HOWEVER
You need to change the title of this thread as quickly as possible. If she were to stumble upon it, your previous transgression will look like a little water spilled in the garden.
Just my humble opinion.
Do, Or do not. There is no try. November 18, 2017, 12:59 PM
GregYquote:
Originally posted by jhe888:
quote:
Originally posted by brecaidra:
Good grief, that sounds exhausting.
That's how it is for us dudes.
Yes.
Implementing elaborate protocols to work around the irrationality and inability to communicate of overly emotional crazy people you can't completely avoid is *horribly* exhausting.
My wife is not like that. She is a gem. But I *have* had to ZCP people who were like that, just for my own sanity and well being.
You'd be shocked how many men I've known who willingly worked third shift for years, even decades, just to avoid the drama storms that always surrounded their wives.
November 18, 2017, 02:42 PM
jtedescucciStupid me... I read 3/4s of the way thru before I figured out that the title to the thread is somewhat sarcastic. (It IS somewhat sarcastic, no?)
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