We all know that yelling is immature and wrong. But, a gentle reminder that the following are also incorrect responses:
1. Spontaneously snorting and then LOL when you hear that she hit a curb;
2. Asking if there was any other damage to the family vehicle instead of telling her first it is OK and that you love her; and
3. Not immediately asking if she would like you (Don’t make it worse by suggesting she NEEDS you) to come change the tire for her.

Don’t ask me how I know that 1-3 are not acceptable responses.

Do you have my phones tapped ? :|

I think Home Depot carries those nice dog houses shaped like an igloo...

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Don’t ask me how I know that 1-3 are not acceptable responses

I think most of us have a good enough imagination that an inquiry is not required....

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Originally posted by gearhounds:
I think Home Depot carries those nice dog houses shaped like an igloo...

ohhh you could get a window AC while you are at Lowes and add it to the Igloo

here's a helpful guide

"are you ok?"
"is the car ok"
"do you need any help?"

in that order, and she won't be angry.

You could always say, 'Hey, at least you didn't crash through the garage door again like Mrs DF....'

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Originally posted by FenderBender:
here's a helpful guide

"are you ok?"
"is the car ok"
"do you need any help?"

in that order, and she won't justifiably be angry.

FIFY.

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Originally posted by darthfuster:
You could always say, 'Hey, at least you didn't crash through the garage door again like Mrs DF....'

Maybe you and I should be looking for a studio apartment to use. We live only a few miles apart and could share as needed.

I dunno. If I call my husband and tell him that I, spontaneously and without interference from a 3rd party, hit a curb hard enough to be render the car undriveable, it's ok if he points and laughs. But I would totally come up with some yarn about avoiding a herd of really cute kittens or something. (And I would appreciate the tire change--it's still a million degrees here.)

Yelling at me would be a really poor judgement call on husband's part.

Hope the OP's wife and car are ok.

Just so you all know, "Call AAA" is not an acceptable answer either. *s*

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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:

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Originally posted by FenderBender:
here's a helpful guide

"are you ok?"
"is the car ok"
"do you need any help?"

in that order, and she won't justifiably be angry.

FIFY.

well, at least at you, the husband.

Some years back, I received a wife call to report her car was now beached on a parking block and could not be moved.
My incorrect response:
"So, what's your plan"?
Divorced now. Happy!

I also would recommend against this response, which I used some time ago....

Wife: I had an accident.
Me: Are you alright and how bad is the car?
Wife: I'm OK and I think the car is driveable.
Me: Then drive it home and we'll talk about it later.
Wife: Really?
Me: Yep, really. When you get home you can call the body shop if you want. After all, you're on a first name basis with the owners at this point.
Wife: Click.

two years ago my wife hit a deer while I was out of town. I get a phone call while at dinner her exact words were " I just hit a deer. I'm OK but the car has some minor damage."

My first question was how bad the damage was and could she drive it home. The next two nights I had the most frigid phone conversations I've ever had with her. I got home and she let me have for not being worried about her and yada, yada , yada. I calmly reminded her that the first thing she said was was that she was OK. Apparently that was the wrong thing to point out.

I'll never understand the emotional mind of a female.

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Originally posted by FenderBender:
here's a helpful guide

"are you ok?"
"is the car ok"
"do you need any help?"

in that order, and she won't be angry.

I think maybe instead of "is the car OK?" that "can you drive home?" might be less dangerous.

flashguy

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Originally posted by flashguy:

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Originally posted by FenderBender:
here's a helpful guide

"are you ok?"
"is the car ok"
"do you need any help?"

in that order, and she won't be angry.

I think maybe instead of "is the car OK?" that "can you drive home?" might be less dangerous.

flashguy

asking if she can drive home imply's you're telling her to drive it, or to make that judgment call on her own which she may or may not be willing/able to do at that exact moment. asking if the car is ok, usually will illicit more information on the nature of the accident.

As the only male in my family, I'm pretty familiar with the proper response to a traffic accident.

10 years later, I am still paying for my LOL when she told me she hit a PARKED car.

Try having that conversation when you are on cruise and, literally, just pulled into the Philippines that morning.

Get the email about the accident, call home.
First question she has (after confirming she was not injured) "can you come home?" My sixth cruise mind you and all while she and I were married.

After I stopped laughing I said "no, the squadron is having a party tonight and I don't think the hotel will refund my room."

We're divorced (and our kids do not talk to her nor have they invited her to their individual weddings