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Originally posted by ElToro:
Try Publix and chick fil a. Those kids are all the nicest polite employees

I had Chick-fil-A as a company client. They have an amazing culture around their stores, managers and workers. Corp HQ was a pretty neat place as well. (Bumped into Mr. Andrew Young there one afternoon walking down the front steps. Lol. Politician forever.)

Basically the rule is this; managers need to treat employees as if they were their own kids. There’s also a very high Christian culture there. You cannot miss it.

Guess what they serve for lunch every single day in the cafeteria for the employees?

If the particular form of graciousness being not to your liking is your chief complaint, you're doing alright.

I'm reminded of how Rush Limbaugh used to say it, "No, thank youuuuuuuuuuuu!"

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Originally posted by hjs157:
Honestly? The only acceptable reply to "thank you" is "you're welcome".

Not really. Sometimes I'd say, "(It's) my pleasure.", depending on the situation.

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Originally posted by Rawny:

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Originally posted by hjs157:
Honestly? The only acceptable reply to "thank you" is "you're welcome".

Not really. Sometimes I'd say, "(It's) my pleasure.", depending on the situation.

Some hereabouts will reply "Glad to be of service."

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Originally posted by SIGnified:


Guess what they serve for lunch every single day in the cafeteria for the employees?

Communion?

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Originally posted by SIGnified:

I had Chick-fil-A as a company client

. . .

Guess what they serve for lunch every single day in the cafeteria for the employees?

I dunno, but it reminds me, it was around 1980 give or take a few years, I worked for a company that was in an office park in Oak Brook, Illinois. There was a McDonald's building, I believe that it was corporate headquarters, on the same street. They had a company cafeteria that you could go to, if you knew it was there. If the weather was nice, we would sometimes walk over there for lunch.

Of course they had the standard McDonald's stuff, but they also had new items that they were experimenting with, before they hit the regular McDonald's locations. Kind of interesting to get a "first look" at things.

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Originally posted by bobtheelf:
If the particular form of graciousness being not to your liking is your chief complaint, you're doing alright.

Yeah, I agree.

I’m a please and thank you, yes/no sir/ma’am kind of guy. As someone else has mentioned my kids call adults Mr. or Ms. *name, or we allow them to call coaches by coach *name.

But holy shit I don’t get all hung up on a generic response to what is mostly a generic saying on my part. I mean I’m not truthfully thankful that the kid at the grocery store did his job and handed me a receipt, I just say it to be courteous. A kind response back is polite, regardless of the actual words. If I am truly thankful for someone going out of their way to help me then I tend to express that with more than just words. And in that case, since they did something for me, they could tell me to screw myself and I’d accept that.

I just want people to generally be nice people. I don’t get hung up on the exact wording.

My day got considerably better on a recent visit too Chik fil A.
After a pretty good lunch experience I was exiting the bldg.
I held the door open for four pre teens and an adult.

I got FIVE thank you's in a row!

It was great.
Was glad I left a $2.00 tip on the table.

I always say please or thank you.

For some reason I can't explain nor do I know when / how it started, I feel uncomfortable or awkward saying you're welcome. I usually say something like sure, no problem. Perhaps I've been influenced by what responses are used in Japanese, Korean or Chinese (mandarin).

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Originally posted by konata88:
For some reason I can't explain nor do I know when / how it started, I feel uncomfortable or awkward saying you're welcome. I usually say something like sure, no problem. Perhaps I've been influenced by what responses are used in Japanese, Korean or Chinese (mandarin) .

Interesting because I hadn't though of it until you mentioned it.

In Cantonese (now popularly referred to a Canto) the correct response to "Thank You" is literally "No Need"...which would easily translate as "No Problem"

As popular, and expected, as You're Welcome, has become in American culture, the common English response is "Thank You." Reminds me of the correct response to the greeting, "How do you do" being, "How do you do"it isn't an interrogative, it's a greeting

In my house while I was growing up, you either were polite with good Southern manners, or mamma would light your ass up!! I still use these manners to this day, and am proud that I was taught them.

Face it, common courtesy died about a hundred miles back. It's been replaced for the most part by rudeness and disrespect. How many times have you walked into a store only to have the person in front of you drop the door in your face as opposed to holding it open for you?

I find common courtesy to be very common around here, bigdeal.

Much more than outrght rudeness.

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Originally posted by RichardC:
I find common courtesy to be very common around here, bigdeal.

Much more than outrght rudeness.

Sure wish I could say the same. I do my best though to offset it in the hope others will take the hint and do the same.

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Originally posted by RichardC:
I find common courtesy to be very common around here, bigdeal.

Much more than outrght rudeness.

As do I. But sometimes you find what you are looking for too.

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Originally posted by Pale Horse:

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Originally posted by RichardC:
I find common courtesy to be very common around here, bigdeal.

Much more than outrght rudeness.

As do I. But sometimes you find what you are looking for too.

Want to expand on that?

I do think "you're welcome" is a little more gracious, and I am old and Texas enough to like the formality.

But I don't get bent out of shape if they say something like "no problem." They are responding, and the sentiment is the same, at least more or less. It is still basically manners.

I understand that if you thank a server or clerk in Japan you will get a very confused look. Customers do not thank servers, servers thank customers. If you thank a server there, you have upset the social order in a small way. Of course, if you do it as a Westerner, they probably also take it as further evidence that we are all uncultured barbarians.

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Originally posted by bigdeal:

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Originally posted by Pale Horse:

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Originally posted by RichardC:
I find common courtesy to be very common around here, bigdeal.

Much more than outrght rudeness.

As do I. But sometimes you find what you are looking for too.

Want to expand on that?

Sure. I’m saying that I think if you leave your house every morning thinking that the world is made up of mostly good people then you’ll notice more good people and brush off the assholes easier. If you think the world is mostly made up of assholes then I think you’ll notice more assholes.

It may not apply to you, but it definitely applies to some people. Some people are seemingly on a mission to find the worst in things. I was that way for most of my adult life, and old habits are hard to break so sometimes I still am. But I notice that when I choose to be happy, I am generally much happier.

I've traveled, a LOT, both nationally and internationally. Like Pale Horse, I am convinced my attitude makes a big difference. And one of the things I've noticed in my travels is, you get what you give. I can probably count on my hands the number of times people have been truly unpleasant to me (more than just having a bad day, which I understand, we all have those). I have story after story of people going out of their way to be nice to me.

And, as Pale Horse and others have commented, I don't get hung up on the phraseology. It's the sentiment that counts. Consider the response to "gracias" - "de nada", it is nothing. No problem.

Look for the good in people. Give the good in you.