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Helpful suggestions on leaving bachelorhood

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February 19, 2024, 03:28 PM
Aglifter
Helpful suggestions on leaving bachelorhood
So this one seems permanent/very different.

Today’s observation: If you need/want to do something, do it alone. “Doing things” with the SO is about being together. Trying to achieve tasks while together will just get everyone upset.
February 19, 2024, 03:44 PM
slosig
Yes.

However, there are some life decisions that need to be figured out together. This can be an interesting exercise and patience can be very important (though rarely easy).
February 19, 2024, 03:50 PM
sse
never try to teach the spouse how to golf
February 19, 2024, 03:51 PM
old rugged cross
It varies by relationship. I won't say that doing projects always is smooth sailing. But my wife and I have accomplished a lot of things over the years. She is an immense asset in accomplishing task and projects. Many I could not of done by myself.



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February 19, 2024, 04:46 PM
Aglifter
Do not question why there is “body butter,” “body oil,” “body wash”, or “body lather” while she is trying to buy “something I didn’t catch” for “reason I didn’t catch.”

She’s beautiful, doesn’t wear makeup and I am getting smart enough these days not to ask/make smart Alec comments…
February 19, 2024, 04:55 PM
fischtown7
DON'T!!!!!!
February 19, 2024, 04:55 PM
architect
Women and men think differently. Do not try to "figure them out." Just appreciate the wonder and mystery. What would life be without a few surprises?

Progressing through life as a couple is a precious treasure. If you can't do it with your current partnet, don't blame yourself (or her), but look at it as an opportunity to discover the right partner.
February 19, 2024, 05:15 PM
RGRacing
Never go to bed mad.

Kiss each other Goodnight.

56 years and riding it out.
February 19, 2024, 05:40 PM
WaterburyBob
45 years married here; for your own sanity, learn how to block/filter constantly emanating words ...



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February 19, 2024, 05:49 PM
sjtill
quote:
Kiss each other Goodnight.


A few years ago we were looking at houses on Zillow. In one bedroom picture there was a decal sign that said "Always Kiss Me Goodnight". We thought that was a good idea even though we'd been married almost 50 years by then. We were right, it's a great idea.

At 54 years, we joke about a fairy pouring love potion in our ear at night, a la A Midsummer Night's Dream. We've had huge problems with our kids' health and some other things, but got through it and are still nuts about each other.


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February 19, 2024, 05:57 PM
2BobTanner
The 2 Rules of Marriage:

Rule #1: the Wife is Always Right.

Rule #2: when the Wife is wrong, refer to Rule #1.


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February 19, 2024, 06:03 PM
ugeesta
Always have the last word in an argument.

BUT, those last words are always 'yes dear'.

Don't think you can change a person cause you can't. Hope your future bride understands that was well




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February 19, 2024, 06:05 PM
6guns
I'm just trying to get a date! Big Grin Roll Eyes




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February 19, 2024, 06:10 PM
NOCkid
My wife:

"I don't want advice, I just want you to listen".

Something to think about.
February 19, 2024, 06:11 PM
4MUL8R
The gentleman is responsible for the quality of the marriage.

After 32 years, almost, I find myself pondering what would I do if I were alone again. My wife is 65 this July, and one of us will go first.

My current assessment is that I will live alone, that I will treasure a valiant and vibrant dog, and that I will seek occasional interaction with a companion who has in her very being a joy beyond explanation. I want to watch someone thrilled to make it to the top of a mountain, or to see an eclipse, or to drive the parkway in a red Mustang convertible with a loud exhaust.


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February 19, 2024, 06:32 PM
smlsig
quote:
Originally posted by sse:
never try to teach the spouse how to golf


Or drive a manual transmission!


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February 19, 2024, 06:43 PM
229DAK
quote:
Originally posted by sse:
never try to teach the spouse how to golf
For that matter, don't try to teach her much of anything.


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February 19, 2024, 07:20 PM
wrightd
quote:
Originally posted by 229DAK:
quote:
Originally posted by sse:
never try to teach the spouse how to golf
For that matter, don't try to teach her much of anything.

I would venture to say this qualifies as the last word on the matter.




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February 19, 2024, 07:27 PM
CoolRich59
I've always told younger guys that all you need to know for a happy marriage is two words.

"I'm sorry"

"You're right"

"Yes dear"

Big Grin


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February 19, 2024, 07:29 PM
CoolRich59
quote:
Originally posted by NOCkid:
My wife:

"I don't want advice, I just want you to listen".

Something to think about.





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