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I lost both of my parents last year, my brothers live in different states, my kids go to my exes homes to celebrate Christmas and I just found out one of my old flames passed away. First time in my life I have felt lonely. I'm 62 and I feel like I'm 75. | ||
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| Doing what I want, When I want, If I want!  |
Sorry for your losses. Don’t despair, volunteer at a soup kitchen or hospital. They’ll be over joyed to have your assistance and you won’t be alone! ******************************************** "On the other side of fear you will always find freedom" | |||
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Tinker Sailor Soldier Pie |
I wouldn't say all alone, but I will be away from my family for this Christmas as I'm currently out at sea and will be until after the New Year. I'll miss my son's first Christmas, and my daughters--in particular the oldest--are at that age where it's harder and harder to leave for work especially during the holidays. But my wife is an angel and will make it a great Christmas for them. I have my shipmates though so there's that. We make it a good time on here. After all, we're all away from family so we're all in the same boat. (yeah, that was a terrible pun) ~Alan Acta Non Verba NRA Life Member (Patron) God, Family, Guns, Country Men will fight and die to protect women... because women protect everything else. ~Andrew Klavan | |||
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At times when I consider my mortality or I’m feeling lonely or just questioning the meaning of life, I find a trip, ironically alone, to someplace majestic makes me feel better. The vastness of Canyonlands. The view from a mountain top. The sunset from makena. Or the sunrise from Haleakalā National Park. Not saying go to these places. Just examples. Just someplace where nature amazes you. A moment of serenity. A moment of zen. "Wrong does not cease to be wrong because the majority share in it." L.Tolstoy "A government is just a body of people, usually, notably, ungoverned." Shepherd Book | |||
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Prior to the pandemic I would volunteer every Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas Day at the men’s homeless shelter down town. Private owned, Christian run. I did this going back to 2004. Every year. Hard shifts in the kitchen running the industrial dishwasher and washing everything. Drenched in sweat and dish water at the end of every shift. By the time it was over I just wanted to get home and watch a movie and chill out. I’ve spent every year during the holidays by myself going back to childhood. You just have to turn the machine off. And by machine I’m referring to all the bullshit, and marketing that includes stockings, trees, lights, presents, and especially the fat bearded man. It’s all marketing and advertisements. Remember Christ. Remember that man being nailed up on a cross and tortured to death, whipped, beaten, for you, and for everyone. I can tell you that egg nog, football, etc, has nothing to do with the birth of Christ. Be grateful you got this life. It’s a gift. And time is precious. This is a time to keep Christ on your mind. Pray, and offer your thanks to God for his son, and for your own life. It’s not a time to be down. What helps is to not watch little tv Santa ho ho ho Christmas Carol shows and such. And skip all the advertisements. They show a fantasy. A family in sweaters, sitting around drinking egg nog, everything is perfect, the house is perfect, everyone is dressed perfect. It’s mostly bullshit and just plain old marketing. It’s by design, by marketing people, to get you to blow a bunch of money on consumer products and food. It’s silly. There are many of us here in the same situation. I just watch some of my favorite movies of all time. I boot up Call of Duty (warzone) and game on the PlayStation with my online friends. I’ll work out. Get chores done. Just stay busy. It helps. And do something for yourself while you are it. Gun range, go watch a film. But don’t sit there and watch commercial television with all those Christmas ads. They portray a perfect life few have. I an sorry for your loss. I lost my lone family member to the virus. I lost my best friend in 2008. And I’m losing a few friends this year, not to death, but because it’s time. They drink too much and I just no longer want to be around it. Reflect on Christ and work on yourself in the down time. And many of us are here if you need someone to talk to. We’ve got two weeks and all this holiday marketing crap will be over, at least until they crank up the Valentine’s Day bullshit. You are free, and you can do what you want with the time. Christ saved us all, even us wretches, it’s a time to pray and be thankful for that. Nothing else really much matters. What am I doing? I'm talking to an empty telephone | |||
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I will be home alone the next week. Well Christmas Eve, I will get a visitor, but otherwise, I am loading up movies and Xbox. The older I get the less I like people.... New years, I will sip on the Blantons, porn stars and blow. Make the best of the down time, recharge your soul. ___________________ "He who is without oil, shall throw the first rod" Compressions 9.5:1 | |||
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Thanks for your reply. For the last few months I've been wanting to go back to church. There is one of these mega churches near my home. I'll go there next Sunday and see how it is. It is huge. Maybe I can make some new friends . I need somebody to talk to. I have two adult sons but it's not the same. | |||
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I can empathize with feeling alone, as an empty nester with infrequent visits by kids. I encourage you to visit the mega church and to recognize it as a wonderful place to plug in. Most often at a church with thousands attending, people fall into three groups. One group explores the church, finds it so big and impersonal, and rejects it. A second group enjoys the music and teaching, and comes regularly without truly engaging. The third group is excited to see so much going on, and so many opportunities for fellowship. Making a personal effort, this group finds small groups, service groups, special events, and soon realizes that even this big church is truly their church. The smiles on their faces as they walk in and out radiate a confidence that God is watching out for them, at this church. We have 6K who call our church their church, and 2K who attend every Sunday. We have unnumbered people who worship by our YouTube channel. The key to a positive experience is the willingness to speak up, to find someone with a name tag on, and to say "Hello...my name is...and I'm new here..." In a few such conversations, you will find someone who facilitates your steps to a new experience of genuine love and acceptance. God loves you, more than you can express, and He is aware of your heartache. Be confident in His provision that is the local church, and go boldly to that church, expecting His embrace. ------- Trying to simplify my life... | |||
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Schmelby - Mason, OH huh? I grew up in the suburbs of Cincinnati. I visited Mason / Kings Island more times than I can count. And then when I was 16 years old, my parents moved to Mason. We only lived there for a year, but I have many found memories of my junior year in high school there. Can I suggest you reach out to your kids and ask them to stop by at some point in the day? Maybe you do not get the answer you want. But, maybe you do. And if you do, maybe it becomes a thing going forward. At 62 you have a bunch Christmas' left. It's not too late to start something new. | |||
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I grew up in Delhi, got married and have lived in Mason for 29 years, put 4 kids through Mason schools. My middle son works near Kings Island and comes over after work every Tuesday and Wednesday to visit. We watch movies and I make him a home cooked dinner. | |||
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| Lawyers, Guns and Money  |
Sorry to hear that. Cheer up! Find friends to hang with.
Try to get together with them another day. "Some things are apparent. Where government moves in, community retreats, civil society disintegrates and our ability to control our own destiny atrophies. The result is: families under siege; war in the streets; unapologetic expropriation of property; the precipitous decline of the rule of law; the rapid rise of corruption; the loss of civility and the triumph of deceit. The result is a debased, debauched culture which finds moral depravity entertaining and virtue contemptible." -- Justice Janice Rogers Brown "The United States government is the largest criminal enterprise on earth." -rduckwor | |||
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| Muzzle flash aficionado  |
I live alone -- never married and have no kids. My 2 nephews are in Phoenix, Arizona, so I don't see them very often. I will probably be alone on Christmas Day (unless I'm invited to dinner somewhere), but I plan to celebrate my 85th birthday this Wednesday (21st) with the church Choir (at their rehearsal). I've ordered a cake and have arranged for its transport (and mine) to the event. I plan to make a fruit salad to take, also, and have all the necessary ingredients. I hope to arrange to attend one of the several Christmas Eve services at my church. I'm not driving yet, and wouldn't want to do it at night, anyway. 4MUL8R, my church is very much like yours -- aboutr the same size and attendance. It's a good place and is the most generous church for missions in our Conference. flashguy Texan by choice, not accident of birth | |||
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Will be home alone and perfectly fine with it. Not truly alone, the cat will be keeping me company. Police work pretty much killed off any real enjoyment of holidays anyway. End of Earth: 2 Miles Upper Peninsula: 4 Miles | |||
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I just turned 60 a week ago. My GF of 15 years left May 1st. No kids also. I'll be having dinner with my two sisters that live 30 miles away. Second time alone for the holidays, first was getting divorced in 1999. Hoping 2023 is a better year... | |||
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yes Tracy passed away in June and I'm not headed to Canada - waiting for US passport to be renewed I tell myself its just a day, like any other day | |||
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Not all alone but there will be no one here at the house. Later Christmas day I'll see my Dad and family. Daughter was going to spend Christmas here but changed her mind and is now going to Columbus to see her boyfriend's family. Its been 5 years since my daughter has been here for the holidays and I'm kind of used to it now. Will be the first Christmas since 2016 that the dog isn't here and that kind of makes it blah but life goes on. Keep your head up Schmelby. I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not. | |||
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| A teetotaling beer aficionado  |
Alone is not all that bad if you're accustomed to it. When I first divorced my first bitch wife I was alone for a couple of holiday seasons, and remember feeling kind of relieved that all I had to do was show up at my parent's house, eat dinner, open gifts and GTFO. Men fight for liberty and win it with hard knocks. Their children, brought up easy, let it slip away again, poor fools. And their grandchildren are once more slaves. -D.H. Lawrence | |||
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| 7.62mm Crusader |
I have too much experience being alone and its not always the Christmas season. I have friends who I am so grateful to know. They're not around all the time so I have to do what I do alone. The real kicker for me is Thanksgiving. The traditional dinner I so love hasn't happened in about 6 years. Oh I've had some huge dinners this season but not a stitch of turkey..  The holiday means little to me when a less than traditional thanksgiving dinner doesn't happen. I love the turkey white meat at dinner and lots more for sandwiches. You will be fine this Christmas Schmelby. Keep yourself occupied and enjoy a littke R&R. Merry Christmas. | |||
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| Tinker Sailor Soldier Pie |
You should all know that I'll be thinking about all of you on Christmas day. And I'll be here to wish you all a Merry Christmas in any case. Just hoping my workload is light that day so I can have some peace in the evening to read a book and drink good coffee (no alcohol onboard the ship sadly). ~Alan Acta Non Verba NRA Life Member (Patron) God, Family, Guns, Country Men will fight and die to protect women... because women protect everything else. ~Andrew Klavan | |||
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