My wife noticed 3 boys at our kids school who always had on ratty clothes. So for Xmas she bought clothes for them and gave them to the grandmother who always picks them up.

The grandmother’s response? “Did you get anything for my granddaughter?”

She now ask my wife whenever they meet at pick up if she has her granddaughter’s clothes.

This woman has mentioned to my wife she has 5 iPhones because she plays the game. I told my wife that if she spends one more cent she’s crazy.

I also mentioned that if I get the time off to pick up my kids or drop them off I will let this woman know that we are not a bank and she’s a POS for responding with anything other than thank you.

Guess who’s off tomorrow morning when the kids go to school???

The entitled free shit crowd.

Btw, what was your wife’s response every time the POS asked? Because I’m puzzled as to why she kept asking.

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This is not on the scale your wife has been enduring. About 15 years ago I was doing a programming contract for a fairly large construction company. They kept re-upping the contract so a 3 month gig turned into 18 months. I didn't feel obligated but I made quite a few friends so I paid for a catered Mexican lunch for the entire office. I walked down the hall to use the restroom where I heard a couple of ladies saying that they couldn't believe that I didn't have more bean dip for the chips. Their exact words were "How cheap can that fucker get to not have enough bean dip". Lesson learned, never again. I still get pissed thinking about it

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The entitled free shit crowd.

Btw, what was your wife’s response every time the POS asked? Because I’m puzzled as to why she kept asking.

Q, according to my wife, she always gives an excuse. “Oh I’ve been busy with the holidays”. She doesn’t like confrontation.

I’m not gonna sugar coat it for her tomorrow. I’m not gonna be outright rude, but understanding she won’t get another ounce of of sympathy or nickel from us needs to be conveyed.

She likely won’t ask you. As you mentioned, she knows how to play the game, and she already read your wife. She’ll continue to push her button, until your wife runs out of excuses and has to give it to her straight. Either that, or you find a clever way to stick that into the conversation tomorrow, even if she doesn’t bring it up.

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She likely won’t ask you. As you mentioned, she knows how to play the game, and she already read your wife. She’ll continue to push her button, until your wife runs out of excuses and has to give it to her straight. Either that, or you find a clever way to stick that into the conversation tomorrow, even if she doesn’t bring it up.

“Hey, don’t ever ask my wife for another dime again” may be how the conversation starts…

In fairness it makes me mad but it’s also an elementary school setting so I’ll use a bit more tact.

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This is not on the scale your wife has been enduring. About 15 years ago I was doing a programming contract for a fairly large construction company. They kept re-upping the contract so a 3 month gig turned into 18 months. I didn't feel obligated but I made quite a few friends so I paid for a catered Mexican lunch for the entire office. I walked down the hall to use the restroom where I heard a couple of ladies saying that they couldn't believe that I didn't have more bean dip for the chips. Their exact words were "How cheap can that fucker get to not have enough bean dip". Lesson learned, never again. I still get pissed thinking about it

They were probably referring to you and so your interpretation is appropriate. However, when reading the quote as a third party, it may be a little ambiguous and the reference may have been to the caterer who only served too small of quantity.

But if they were referring to you, ungrateful bitches.

Otto - Kudos to your wonderful wife for doing what she did. It could be that the clothes she bought and gave may be the only new clothes these kids see for a long time. Sad that they have a mother, and grandmother, that will not provide them with decent clothes.

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Sad that they have a mother, and grandmother, that will not provide them with decent clothes.

This makes me wonder about the food they eat, if they even get enough of it, and the house they live in.

When I was in elementary school, the mother of one of my current neighbors inquires at the school who she could help. She bought nice dresses for the daughters and then takes their brother (who was a friend of my brother) to get some clothes. She asked him what he wanted and he said a leather motorcycle jacket. She drove all over town to try to buy him one, but couldn't find one. He told me the story of her searching for him about 10 years ago, and is forever appreciative. I remember when he would ride his bike to our house, the front was rim only due to no money for a tire.

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How cheap can that fucker get to not have enough bean dip

My response would have been somewhere along the lines of, "What? You didn't get enough dip to pad your fat ass?"

I wish I could say the level of entitlement here is shocking. I wish I could... SMH

Show me the grand-daughter, and I might show you some clothes. I'm not going to buy for a possibly imaginary person.

I might also ask pointed questions about what the kids' father is doing all of this.

I stopped doing food baskets (full meals plus) at Thanksgiving and Christmas for my Lions Club when I noticed that many of the recipients had nicer cars, bigger TVs, cable TV, and gaming systems, that I did not have.

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Originally posted by 12131:
The entitled free shit crowd.

Btw, what was your wife’s response every time the POS asked? Because I’m puzzled as to why she kept asking.

Q, according to my wife, she always gives an excuse. “Oh I’ve been busy with the holidays”. She doesn’t like confrontation.

I’m not gonna sugar coat it for her tomorrow. I’m not gonna be outright rude, but understanding she won’t get another ounce of of sympathy or nickel from us needs to be conveyed.

Tell her she owes you one of her new Iphones because she has 5. See what she says.

My wife is a teacher at a Title 1 elementary school. Sadly it is true about the phones. The majority of the kids have phones. Some are the lastest models which cost around a grand. Another fact is around 80+%, if I recall correctly, are on free lunch programs. She said only a handful are truely needy from all other aspects she sees.

Years ago we gave one of her students a coat after she seeing him walking to and from school in the cold without a jacket for a couple of weeks. She did confirm he did have one. His family has recently immigrant to the US. My wife did tell the principal afterward. Obviously, he said that was very kind but not to do it again.

Both of our families were war refugee immigrants to the US. We can relate to be poor but we would not do that again today. Our society has changed since the Obama presidency and after BLM. Families that are grifting welfare (not all are doing it) aren't being discreet about it anymore. This is more true today and we can see how widespread this fraud is in the news.

So...how did it go?